Me and my bf got engaged in april this year and wer planning to get married may 2007 abroad. but we cant now because his parents cant afford two weddings in the same year.
His older brother has always been jelouse of us. His brother met a girl about 5 months ago and about 3 weeks ago they said there getting married May 2007 in abroad the exact time we wer thinking about. he quickly booked the wedding before we did. But the thing is my his brothers gf is horible to me. she constantly puts me down. saying things like how her dimond engagment ring is bigger and better than mine, and how shes got this and shes got that. and told me how 'trampy' my engagment party was! and how amazing hers is.
this is just a few things that have happend, shes going to move in and i dont no if i can cope. she plants evil ideas in my bf family so they hate me.
what do i do?
2006-11-07 07:39:12 · 29 answers · asked by afflictedsmile 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
move out, get your own place with the boy friend and dont raise to the bait,
keep a smile onyour face, dont say anything nasty back, and people will finally see the truth.
if its happened as quickly as you say, it probably wont last long anyway then you will have the last laugh!
2006-11-07 07:43:29 · answer #1 · answered by graemekennedy1973 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
start ignoring her, you know shes a horrible person she may be beoming family soon but it doesnt mean you have to be friends or talk to eachother.
Think of it like this, they got together and engaged awfully quick - do you honestly think it will last?! you and your fiance and happy, in love, so what if they booked it first your day will come eventually - do you want her to have their wedding after you and then say oh this was better at ours etc - let the evil cow have her day.
are you all living together if you are why dont you and your fiance move out first, show that you can cope on your own, its better if you live with eachother first just the two of you rather than the whole family, see how you get along (eachother,bills,etc). theres no point getting married then moving out together because theres so many responsibilties with your own place, than the parents.
Just look forward to your wedding day plan for about 2years after, you dont need to rush to get in there before the wicked witch, make yours special. Goodluck, dont get too stressed, have a great wedding!
2006-11-08 17:01:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do all of you live together? I am confused.
What does their getting married have to do with you guys getting married? So what they are getting married abroad, good for them. YOu can still have an intimate private affair that is cost efficient for you and your BF to afford. Start saving now if you are really stuck on the May 2007 date.
If not, move the date for May 2008 if you want to be married in May. The bottom line, it isn't when, where and how much, it is about marrying the person that you are committing the rest of your life to. That is the beauty. That is the magic.
If she doesn't like you, tell her to shove it. You don't have to like her just because she is marrying your future brother-in-law.
On a side note, have you talked to your fiance about your feelings? If you haven't, you need to scrap all of the above and communicate with him first. Until you are on the same page, you shouldn't be moving forward with any wedding plans.
-EZ
2006-11-07 17:19:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be upset as I'm sure you are. People like that really aren't worth getting upset about. If they have only been together 5 months do you think they will reach May still together? If she is that horrible to you then what is she like to him when they are alone? I'm sure your soon to be in laws must feel a bit in the middle. Why don't you go into the travel agents and see if you can get a last minute deal for January and beat them to it! Or Save up and do it at the end of next year you will have more time to plan and get ready and you will be the bell of the ball. At the end of the day you love your bf and he loves you, as long as you are happy with what you have sod everyone else!
2006-11-10 09:10:04 · answer #4 · answered by Me Me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, what do you mean his family can't afford 2 weddings in one year? They don't have to pay for anything, it should be the 2 couples who pay.
You get married when the 2 of you want to. Maybe it would be nice if you didn't require everyone to take an extravagant trip abroad to watch you get married, but the same goes for them too.
Secondly, when you say "shes going to move in" Does that mean you live in the same place as your bf's brother???
You 2 are getting married, you need your own place.
The brother is getting married too, they need a place of their own.
If the 4 of you can't find a way to set up separate homes you should not even be thinking about getting married.
2006-11-07 20:05:27 · answer #5 · answered by ee 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know it sucks but sounds like you need to be patient and wait. Stick a smile on your face while you are at it! She is just trying to pi$$ you off. Push back your date till the next year. That way you will have plenty of time to organize and plan everything. She will get whats coming to her! Besides, May of 2007 isn't really all that far away. I know all the vendors around here are already booked for May and June. All the good ones anyway. Which means her wedding will be second rate. And yours won't!
2006-11-07 16:35:06 · answer #6 · answered by spacedchic00 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Um, are you living with his parents? What you need to do is move out of there, bc you can't live with her. If you do stay, then you have no excuse not to start saving agressively to pay for your own wedding. Figure out a budget based on how much you can save in a certain amount of time, and if you have to change the location, then so be it. Bonus: His parents will appreciate how repsonsible the two of you are and then they'll like you better than her.
2006-11-07 17:26:15 · answer #7 · answered by chelleedub 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't get marry in may get marry on July 7 2007 (7-7-7) Is a much better day. 7 is consider a lucky number. Ignore the other girl. You seem to be much nicer than her. Don't let her get to you. Change your day to 7-7-07. Trust me. and if you do start looking for a place to get married at now.
2006-11-08 18:20:23 · answer #8 · answered by needanswers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you have to get married abroad? Why not have a simplier home wedding this year. Since brides family pays for wedding that should solve a lot of financial problems and maybe bring his family around to accepting you more if not maybe you should find another groom.
2006-11-07 15:50:50 · answer #9 · answered by Justfinch 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try and rise above it, people will start to see her for what she really is.
As for their wedding let them have their day, but tell them you can't afford to go cos you're saving for your own. If you really want your bf's parents to attend, then maybe you could re-scheduel yours. Do it in 2008, it will give you longer to save up and you could then plan a bigger and better wedding than hers and rub her nose in it :o)
You have to try and be the bigger person in all this, let her think she is not bothering you or she will do it all the more.
2006-11-07 15:47:08 · answer #10 · answered by L D 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well in my opinion its the size of the heart that counts not the size of the diamond and it sounds to me like the bf brother is using this girl to get one over on the bf. I would not worry about this girl either it sounds to me like she is jealous of what you have so she puts you down to try and make herself bigger. Hold your head up high in the knowledge that you apparently have picked the brother with the biggest heart and not the diamond. i have a feeling you will be ok kid. hold in there
2006-11-07 20:27:47 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋