i have only had i real boyfrien whom i kissed one time and he tried to touch my vagina and i kicked him to the curve...i have finished high school (16) and i was thinking of how i would know the right man for, i would have to ge into relationships and be at risk, how do i find the one and keep my virginity?
2006-11-07 07:36:53 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just tell them you don't want to have sex till you are married. If they get mad or break up with you over that, then that means they are not the right one for you. The right man for you will understand and appreciate you wanting to save yourself for him or whoever you marry.
2006-11-07 07:40:03 · answer #1 · answered by CarolinaGirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG, I totally respect you so much! Major props to you for wanting to preserve your most sacred attributes until marriage!!! This is something that is so watered down today in our backwards society, one that has resulted in my not being able to find a decent girl to date because they all just seem looser than slots these days! So alas, being single is my choice. But enough of that...I think you just need to continue doing what you have been doing. The fact that you are still a virgin at this point in your life is great. It sounds like you know what you want and how you are going to get there. Just wait until you meet a man that respects you enough for who you are, someone that will not cut and run after he gets whatever it is he wants. Then, come some point after marriage, the consumation can begin. While you are dating though, just make sure that you are clear with the bf so that he knows you will not be putting out. If he does not understand and respect that, then he is simply not for you. It could be hard in today's society, but I think that it can be done. Good luck, and congratulations on the choice in life you have made. I really respect you!
2006-11-07 07:43:05 · answer #2 · answered by Justin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not the big deal your making it out to be.....your in charge of your own sexuality.....so, you decide how you define it, and if you keep your virginity.
16 huh??? Stop worrying about finding the right "one" and concentrate on getting an education and a college degree. For the record, there isn't just one "right" person.....the world is full of compatible good people that will love you and share a fulfilling life. So relax and enjoy being 16 and stop trying to figure your entire life out now.
Are you serious.....??? Did you just refer to being in a relationship as being "at risk"...(and I'm assuming your referring to sex)??? Honey, keep your legs crossed and feet on the floor.....problem solved.
2006-11-07 08:00:34 · answer #3 · answered by wendy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are guys out there who feels the same way. It sounds like you know what you want so if a boy tries something like your first one did kick him to the curb like you did. It will be hard but most of the good things in life are that way. My wife and I were eachothers first and couldn't wait until marriage. Sometimes we wonder what if... Love is a special thing and you will magically know when you meet that one and only. I personally think love is worth the risk.
2006-11-07 07:41:09 · answer #4 · answered by Mark S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, your 16 right? Well that's good that you still have your virginity! I'm proud of you. When you find someone that you think you want to settle down with, let them know in the beginning that you're a virgin, and you want to keep it that way until you get married. And if they can't accept that, then kick them to the curb!
Keep in touch,
Sandi
2006-11-07 07:41:34 · answer #5 · answered by Sandi W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well im still a virgin too and I plan on stayin one till marriage as well..Soo before gettin into a relationship with em tell em up front that ure gonna wait. If they're fine with that than they're a keeper and if they dont ohh well it's theyre loss then they dont deserve u anyways =] cause ure def doin the riight thing..
2006-11-07 07:46:16 · answer #6 · answered by Alessandra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they cant wait then they need to go away and keep it the way you want it and dont let any man change that you will know he is the right man cause he will being willing to wait until you are married you are a smart girl just stay that waygood job there are not many out there like you anymore
2006-11-07 07:40:37 · answer #7 · answered by angie f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a guy with the same morals and values as you. You'll most likely fins him at church or if youre in college search out Christian groups on campus. Not everyone there will have the same beliefs as you but most will. Congratulations on your determination and great sense of self worth!
2006-11-07 07:42:22 · answer #8 · answered by miss m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No offense darling, but it really aint that big of deal. i know the religions make it out to be, but the fact of the metter is that it probably is better for you to get some experience so you know what you like, what you dont like, and don't get dissapointed because you expected something on your wedding night that just wasn't there.
2006-11-07 07:42:19 · answer #9 · answered by Donald P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep in mind that you are doing it for yourself and you want it to be special with someone you love and someone who loves you. When you meet the right man you will know. Good Luck.
2006-11-07 07:39:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋