Daycare problem. Too smart?

Question

My oldest is going to be 3 years old on Jan. 5th. She came home from daycare really upset. I asked her what was wrong & she said that the teacher told her that she is a nerd & when she is older she will not have any friends in school cause she is "too smart" & noone likes smart kids.
She knows her abc's, counts well, knows shapes, colors & currently learning how to spell & read. Before this they worked with her really well on everything she is learning. I talked to the person in charge of the childcare place & we had a meeting with the teacher she admitted to saying that plus MORE stuff that my daughter did not tell me about. She said sorry & she would not do it anymore & that was enough for the person in charge. It happened again & I went back the person in charge told me maybe it's not the right place for my kids.
I'm a CNA & work wierd hours thats the only childcare place around that works for the hours and shifts that I work. Right now finding another job isn't an option.

RAN OUT OF ROOM.. MY QUESTION IS Are they even allowed to basically say your kid should not be at the daycare????? I mean I could see it if she was violent or something with other children, but she is a good kid!! I am pretty much stuck because I am a single mother, my husband passed away so it is just me and the kids. So having their father take care of them is not an option. The kids do not have any family that could do it either. I also do not know anyone that I would trust to watch my children around here, I live in a bad apartment complex.

Answer 1

Okay, reading this makes me mad. Your child is very smart, and is learning at great speeds. The teacher should "challenge" her to do bigger and better things! A learning center is for LEARNING.. they are there to teach your child the ways to get along with others, ABCs, colors, and problem solving. The fact that she said those things is WRONG. There is no way that you can make that into something that is positive. When you go to the person in charge, tell them that it happened again. The director should repromend that teacher. Your child goes there to learn, not to hear the teacher tell her that she is too smart. That is damaging her her self esteem!! My advice, tell the director that you want your child moved. It sounds like she is ready to move up to the next room with the 4 year olds anyway. If there isnt one to go to ,then a teacher switch should be in order. There are ways to keep your child away from teachers that talk to them like that. I would not "mouse" around with the director either.. TELL THEM.. you PAY them for a service.. and that service is to teach your child, and make them the BEST that they can be. THAT is NOT the best. If your center does not take action then go elsewhere. Find in home if you have to. There are people that will treat your child with RESPECT. You just need to find them. I commend you for being such a wonderful parent. I am sorry that you are a single parent under those circumstances, but you have to take charge. DO NOT let them talk to your child like that. Good Luck and God Bless!

Answer 2

I can't believe a teacher would say such a thing to such a young child. I hope your daughter is okay. Try not to be negative around her when talking about this as she could take it that being smart is a bad thing. She needs to understand that she has done nothing wrong and should be encouraged to continue to learn and grow. As for the teacher, she either needs to be fired or you should look for somewhere else to bring your daughter. What kind of hours do you need the care for? Most daycares are open until about 6. Another option is the city that I live in have home daycare, where an agency locates a caregiver close to where you live and you drop your child off for the day. You can discuss the times that you need the childcare for and the agency send people from their office to check on each caregiver from time to time to make sure eveything is going well. The cost is similar to what a daycare charges, if not a bit cheaper. Check on-line for home daycare providers in your city. Good luck.

Answer 3

What a horrid teacher! I am appalled! I have been a preschool teacher for 14 years, and I would NEVER tell a child that they are too smart! Especially not the way that teacher did... that was completely inappropriate! I am sorry that there is not another daycare that can do your hours... perhaps look into a home-based childcare? If you must stay at this center, is there another classroom that your child can transfer to? Obviously this teacher does not have the skills to be working with an intelligent child- see if she can be moved up to the next class. Just because your child exhibits intelligent characteristics is not a reason to shun her! What if there was a child with a disability in the classroom? Would this same teacher make comments regarding that child's mentality/ability? Intelligence is not a reason to discriminate against your child- and a good teacher doesn't discriminate. This teacher needs to move to another profession... she is doing great harm to the field of early childhood education.

Answer 4

i'm a daycare provider. I even have watched twelve toddlers at a time for fifteen years. So i'm a professional. My advice to you is to stumble on a sparkling daycare. My feeling as i grew to become into analyzing your placed up grew to become into that the academics on the daycare must be waiting to safeguard the habit your son is exhibiting with out even having to permit you already know approximately it. it particularly is totally frequent 3 year previous boy habit that they must have had adventure coping with many cases interior the previous. they must be waiting to handle the habit your son reflects at daycare. it particularly is too problematic which you are able to handle it after the fact. i purely can't think of asking to fulfill with a be sure purely with the aid of fact a baby your son's age threw some blocks. the only time I talk with mum and dad approximately habit is not any count if it particularly is extremely undesirable and has been happening for somewhat a while. after i've got confidence like quite a few my avenues are exhausted, I then deliver it as much as the mother and dad and ask for some help from abode. My mum and dad in daycare understand this and comprehend that if i'm citing a habit subject, it would be undesirable. good success to you, Marcia Reagan

Answer 5

Looks like you took the proper steps and talked to the daycare people. Sounds like they think they can do whatever they want. I'm sorry for your situation, being a single mom and having no support. That has to be really tough. My only other suggestion is to look for an in-home nanny who will be flexible as far as hours go. Keeping your child at that daycare really isn't an option at this point since those people do not have your child's best interest in mind.

Good luck.

Answer 6

I work at a daycare and i have 3 kids.My Oldest, Elsie is 7 and she goes to actual school but my youngest, is a newborn and i had him like a week ago. His name is Ryan and he comes to daycare with me. My middle child, is 4 and her name is Bella and she goes to daycare with me as well. What i would do is take her to another daycare and no, its not right if they are a good kid and they say they are not allowed in daycare. And i personally think that they should fire that girl who said those mean things about your daughter. Its not bad to be gifted.

And its not true that you wont have friends if your really smart. Nerds are usually boys ( no offense ) but girls are just smart and pretty, you never know, she can be the smartest person in high school, and the popularest.

Answer 7

Look in your local phone book for "THE CHILDCARE CONNECTION AGENCY" they keep records of all complaint filed, hour, accreditation's, extras that a facility may have, prices, hours, and normally how many openings they have. I would take an afternoon to do a little research on the local facilities and they surprise visit each one. Legally they can not say anything to you if you would like to observe a class for a few minutes. If the kids are responding well to the teacher and there surrounding then I would give them a check mark on a list and then narrow the list down from there. GOOD LUCK

Answer 8

Well regardless I would report the overall daycare, they have no right to say that to your child or to say that she doesn't belong there. A teacher who assumed responsibility for the welfare of your child has no right to tell your daughter that. I really think that you should take action on this because you do not want your daughter to be ashamed of being smart, she should know that the teacher was wrong in saying that to her. There is a number to call all daycares should have it, if you don't want to ask that daycare you can call any daycare and ask them for the number.
Good Luck!!

Answer 9

They can kick a child out of daycare for some reasons. But i only thought it was if the child was bad. But i do know that the teacher should NOT have said that to you child. Is there someone over the director? I work in a daycare owned by a church..so the church is over my director. If there is someone over that one, i would say go and talk to them. But i would deffinately be looking for someone else to take care of my children, i wouldnt want them there any longer than they had to be...good luck

Answer 10

It is tough to find child care when you have a difficult schedule BUT you just can't expose your daughter to this kind of negativity. If she is indeed advanced, she's going to have to face this for a long time to come. She shouldn't start kindergarten thinking she's got to dumb herself down to be accepted.

It's hard to know what cause this change on the part of your daughter's teacher, but it really doesn't make a difference if she's "sorry".

Make finding new childcare your top priority. If this is truly the only facility that works with your schedule, put her in pre-school part time and find a sitter to accommodate the rest.