If you agree with biting back to teach a child a lesson not to bite tell me why but only after reading this above from the babycenter. It is for my school project. Thanks so much.
2006-11-07 07:31:37 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
What monkey see monkey does.
We are trying to instill healthy attitudes amongst our children.
A biter should be 'removed' and placed on a 'special mat', and remain there for 'time out' each time the biter bites.
Biting back a biter, promotes the idea. The more you persist that 'do not bite', or smack/bite back the more they will resist. My Mother believed in biting back and she did, yet I do not bite my child. Nor do I smack my child, and this has nothing to do with not 'being allowed' to. It is all to do with do unto others as I would have them do unto me. My child knows when he has done what I perceive to be 'wrong'.
He has been the victim of a biter at Kindy. The teeth marks took a long time to disappear. So did the biter who became a bully later.
Biters I believe are being mentally bullied, by 'someone' and that 'someone' is unaware of their bullying tactics or lack of attention however, the child is reacting when left to their own devices...such as at Kindergarten or Creche.
He would be utterly shocked into disbelief if I was to bite him or smack him, and only God knows what that would do to his confidence and self esteem. My Mother killed mine. It took me over 30 years to fix myself from being her victim. I can not comprehend when one wishes to hurt another physically.
The one who does the hurting is being 'hurt' on some level within their own lives, biting is their only way of purging frustrations. These become judged as the child being wrong, not the situation.
If one were to look at the situation, as in the bigger picture, one would see that the bite is a reaction to 'something else'. Find out the something 'else' and you will have found a solution.
Biting Children are frustrated Children. They need to be 'heard'. Some do not know how to explain due to lack of communication skills.
Biting says it all.
Blessings be in light and peace
Harriett Potty
2006-11-07 09:28:32 · answer #1 · answered by harriettpotty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children who bite are trying to tell you something. When they bite books and toys, they are exploring. They are getting to know the world around them. That is why when they find something on the floor, they put it in their mouth. When they bite someone, they are trying to say something. They are frustrated inside and do not have the voice to say so. When the child bites there is something bothering him. Bring him to a different place. biting back is NOT an option. that is only teaching them that it is okay. When you bite them they see you do it and think that it is okay. They learn from you from birth. All the way from sticking out their tongue to the way you talk and body language. Watch what you teach your child.. they are learning EVERY SECOND!!
2006-11-07 10:02:19 · answer #2 · answered by WestWife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when my 14 yr. old was younger she would bite other kids and i bit her the same way and she quit bitting. also i did that to my other 3 boys and they quit bitting. i agree that if u bite ur child just not too hard to draw blood or leave a mark after 24 hours to be consider child abuse then they will stop bitting others.
2006-11-07 13:19:05 · answer #3 · answered by mizbiach2000 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No i wouldn't do that to my daughter, they bite because they're in pain and they can't speak we must have done that too its normal child behavior. if you keep doing tit for tat with kids they'll never know the difference in what's wrong and what right.
if kids bite i think you can explain it to them by saying"IT HURTS".or just scream as loud as possible they get scared and then they immediately leave.
when my daughter did that onetime i gave her a piece of carrot and she knew exactly for what reason is she being given that...
one more thing if kids bite you should not scold them leave apart hitting or biting in return because then they start understanding it annoys us and thats what they want to do when they want to irritate us.
2006-11-07 09:58:00 · answer #4 · answered by t_k 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is necessarily wrong to bite a child. You are probably not going to bite him hard enough to hurt him, and it would only be to teach him a lesson. Still, I would like to think there are other ways of disciplining and teaching our kids than to do exacly what they do. We have years of experience and knowledge at our disposal, as well as having gone through all the same stuff they're going through, and we couldn't think of a better way of handling the situation than "an eye for an eye"? I'd like to think there has to be one.
2006-11-07 07:39:12 · answer #5 · answered by localgod208 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Nope I don't agree because it shows the kid that bitting is a way of showing who is boss. There should be a time out or a toy removed or something that is better in building character in the child.
2006-11-07 08:11:01 · answer #6 · answered by mommy of two 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok, I study the object. and that i think of it has good recommendations of ways a be sure ought to safeguard a typical toddler. yet i do no longer agree that words will consistently artwork. i think of you ought to attempt with words and spot if it works. i'm previous college and while my teenagers bit, if I caught them, on the time they did it, they have been given advised as quickly as and in the event that they did it returned, they have been given bit. And it worked for them. some teenagers are very problematic headed. i in my view theory the story of the mother that reported the brother grew to become into no longer for biting, however the sister ought to chew something else grew to become into very weird and wonderful. It grew to become into nevertheless telling her that biting grew to become into ok, as long because it grew to become into no longer her brother, and he or she ought to nevertheless get harm biting something or swallow something if she bit to problematic and ended up with something in her mouth or throat. toddlers do no longer understand any greater desirable. toddlers would possibly no longer understand they are inflicting somebody discomfort via biting them. babies are gaining knowledge of. It relies upon on the baby no count if or no longer biting returned it a thank you to safeguard it. some mum and dad think of that spanking a baby is coaching violence too and is considered abuse. i do no longer purchase into that.
2016-10-03 09:37:20 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree. When I was little I bit my mom then she bit me back "kinda hard" and I never bit again. That broke me. Now, I've got a 16 month old, and when he tried to bite me, I bit him back "kind of hard like my mom had bit me, but not enough to draw blood" and he's never bit again. So I think it works!!!
2006-11-07 07:34:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
no i don't. i have seen children that bite and they will take a chunk out if not stopped soon enough. if we bite a child that hard its called abuse. when i was little my little brother use to bite.my mom started putting Tabasco sauce (just one drop) on his tongue. it only took 2 times of that and he stopped biting.
2006-11-07 07:51:09 · answer #9 · answered by BLOODHOUND 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋