theres a girl im in love with.shes been thinking about me too.we were discussing our pasts and i lied to her about some intimate details about my ex's. because i was scared she would look down upon me..and we later discussed it again and she found out. ive broken her trust and dont know what to do to fix things.shes everything for me and ill die if i lose her
2006-11-07 07:29:08 · 13 answers · asked by all urs nytym 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Youre gonna lose her anyway if she finds out you lied to her. Can you live like that? Better be honest. Look, if you can tell her about your past and she keeps you, then chances are shes reasonable enough to handle the stresses and pressures of a relationship. If you tell her and she kicks you to the curb (which IS a possibility), then youre better off anyway because youd be living under that cloud forever otherwise.
Heres your angle (and hopefully its the truth)!
"Baby I have to tell you something. I care about you and because I do I have to be honest. Youd have never found this out but because of how I feel about you, I cant lie to you--my heart compels me because I value you as a person and hopefully you will respect that..."
Then spill the beans.
Women need and deserve our respect. Man up and handle it. You can do it, and chances are she will respect you for it. If as a result of this new information she makes you jump through hoops then thats what you need to do to earn her trust as long as shes reasonable about it. MAN LAW: Respect your woman.
2006-11-07 07:39:36 · answer #1 · answered by joe r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've actually had this problem before, with my boyfriend. I lied, because i thought he would think i was slutty, and so i lied to him about it. It was the worst thing i could have done because i broke his trust. Breaking trust is a hard thing to repair, but it CAN be done. Explain to her why you lied, explain to her that you are sorry and that you wont do it again. Let her know you are genuine and honest and really love her. If she really loves you, everything will work out and you two will be fine. There were way worse things you could have lied about, not that i'm making excuses for you but just be honest with her next time. Let her know that you love her and you are very sorry, i am sure she will understand. I hope everything works out for you, good luck!
2006-11-07 08:06:00 · answer #2 · answered by Ricki M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You won't die if you lose her. Look her in the eye, tell her the truth about EVERYTHING and ask for her forgiveness. Don't be all down & cry if she doesn't give you forgiveness right away. You broke the trust bond, not her. You have to take responsibility and consequences for your actions. Good luck, dude.
2006-11-07 07:31:47 · answer #3 · answered by daj11551 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made a mistake, If it really bothers her try explaining why you didnt tell her. If she really cares about you its not something to dwell on because it was part of your past. You cant change the things you did in the past there are just somethings that need to stay in the past. It dont have to be part of your present or future
2006-11-07 07:37:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her why you lied and be honest about that. You should tell her that her opinion of you is important to you. You should not have thought that she'd look down on you. If she truly cares she'd let the past stay in the past and would not have thought less of you as a person.
2006-11-07 07:34:27 · answer #5 · answered by sprydle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her you were worried that she would look down on you. By the way, there is absolutely no reason to have to share details of your ex's. We all have ex's and they are all in the past. Next time dont even talk about it to that degree.
2006-11-07 07:34:26 · answer #6 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off tell her your sorry, then explain why you lied and then let her know that your past was and is just that, the past. I think that once she understands that you are trying and that you love her enough to put her first she'll be ok. Make sure you let her know how you really feel about her everyday and DON'T LIE and you'll be ok.
2006-11-07 07:36:13 · answer #7 · answered by beautifultohim 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is your best policy. Ex's are not a good subject in any relationship. If you really feel so much for her just try to do right, just win her trust back,anyway you can!Good luck sweaty!
2006-11-07 07:34:24 · answer #8 · answered by laChick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apoligize send her some flowers and make her a cd. if she doesn't understand call her and talk to her personly have her meet you somewhere special.
2006-11-07 07:36:10 · answer #9 · answered by rachie girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say ur sorry and ask can i hav ur trust back
Please (give a kiss, give her some flowers. ect.)
2006-11-07 07:32:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋