My girlfriend is 20 years old. We've been together about 4 months and her sex drive isn't very high. I feel like we should be all over each other like a normal young couple, but her sex drive is just not there. It is very hard not to take this type of thing personal, I just wish our sex life would be more exciting at this point in our relationship. I explain this to her often and she replies that she has never really had a very high sex drive. What can I do to increase her sex drive?
2006-11-07 07:28:13 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
treat her with respect, and be gentle and sensual until she gets comfortable, find out where she likes to be touched and tune into her body, you will find pleasure as well, if it is comfortable it is rewarding.
2006-11-07 07:33:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had this problem with my ex wife when we met. It went on through 18 years of marriage. I got a mistress after the first three years. So I didn't care anymore. Good thing too. It turned out my wife was a closet lesbian. She would not admit it to anyone. But when she met a woman she fell for it was all over. She still refused to admit or deny it but it was a fact she was gay. I caught her and her girl friend and I never said anything about it to her.
There are women with low sex drives but not usually at that age. They are usually in their 50-60's and it is a hormone shift. They need testosterone treatment to bring their sex drive up. I had a friend who went through this. She was a very sexual woman but then she went through menopause and she lost her sex drive. Being a nurse she saw a doctor and got treatment. You might tell her about this and have it checked but I have a feeling your girlfriend just does not realize she plays for the other side.
Sometimes depression can do this and the medications associated with depression. You know if you have the skills to turn a woman on. I know I had no problem I have lots of women trying to get a day with me so I knew it was not me. I know how to satisfy a woman. So if you know it's not you then it is her and it may be Testosterone or it may be she is latent gay or depression and medications associaed with it.
2006-11-07 15:43:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I really don't think there is anything you can do because it is about her. I know that I have a low sex drive and I'm 24 and my boyfriend of 3 years does not pressure me to have sex, and when he does it just turns me off. A lot of it can be depressions and if you are on any medication it can also affect your sex drive. If she is stressed out that will affect it as well. You just need to talk to her and ask her if there is anything bother her. Good Luck.
2006-11-07 15:34:19 · answer #3 · answered by princessaranda 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds likes she might have some fears, and that's perfectly normal. Your job is to slowly convince her, by action, that sex is okay. Take one night, from dinner to breakfast, and plan it out. Be as romantic as you know how, and take the night slow. Candles, incense...it's all in the mood. If your room is lit from outside by a flashing neon sign advertising strippers in the bar downstairs, well, don't expect her to be thrilled. Talk to her..is there something you've been doing she doesn't like? Something you might do that she might like? Talk it out. Get to know each other all over again in bed. Cater to her, be hers for the night.
Have fun & Good Luck!
2006-11-07 15:38:40 · answer #4 · answered by The Mystic One 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I really don't think there is anything you can do personally for her actual sex drive. You might try out some things that are a little more risque and daring and maybe even a little kinky....
2006-11-07 15:31:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be romantic if you're already, use some aphrodesiacs (don't know if that is spelt right, but basically it is foods that make the women more in the mood), you could do something new and spontanous that she wouldn't expect and that she would love.
2006-11-07 15:32:07 · answer #6 · answered by drunken_monkey1988 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe she has depression or was sexually abused. or you don't satisfy her because of weak stamina. give her more oral sex . attack her neck like a vampire. wear cologn. take her to a fancy dinner and do it in a public bathroom. Have her try a viagra. found out where she likes to be touched. ask questions, dude!!!
2006-11-07 15:40:49 · answer #7 · answered by Handsome Devil 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to play out her sexual fantasy. My gf wanted to have sex in school. so thats exactly what we did. Try it at different places. SOme girls also like it of theres a chance of beiing caught.
2006-11-07 15:31:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe that should be a message to you. It may be time to move on?
2006-11-07 15:31:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try toys... try teasing her... also go have a couple of drinks... Also there are warming creams......
2006-11-07 15:38:59 · answer #10 · answered by ceemagiclydia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋