i can,t stand her boyfriend but i don,t want to push her away so what should i do they do have 7 kids toghter she tol me to leave if i don,t like her boyfrind mother needs help please
2006-11-07 07:26:36 · 11 answers · asked by ashley 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
7 kids! holy crap. well does he not treat her right or something? why dont you like him? just cause hes younger? if they have 7 kids together they must really want to be together.
2006-11-07 07:29:09 · answer #1 · answered by spooner 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! All that I can say for that one is make your stand, then let her be. She will be the one to regret giving her mother a ultimatum. My mother gave me the same stuff, about a boyfriend. I had a son, he was 1 1/2 years old, and I was 18. She told me to pick her or him, and I left. I regretted moving out of my mom's home so much after. So much that I ended up moving in the apartment right across from her. It ultimately her choice who she is with. You can be her mother and express your feelings on the situation, but there after it is totally up to her. And trust me too, she knows in the back of her mind that it will never work. I knew it with my boyfriend at the time. I just told my mother let me be, and let this run its course. I knew it was going to be over, but it had to be on my terms not hers.
My question to you is, are all of the kids theirs together? Or are any of the kids theirs? That too makes a bid difference!
But if you speak your mind, and tell her, you might feel better about it all. Other times it might bite you in the butt. It is all up to you, and how you feel the situation is. How you feel your daughter will react, and if she will hold things against you. It has a lot to do with your guys' relationship with the other.
I honestly don't know what else to say! I hope everything works out for the best for the both of you. You are the only one who can make this decision, and your the only who knows your daughter inside and out.
2006-11-07 15:44:25 · answer #2 · answered by Whisper J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry there nothing you can do... after 7 kids nothing will change.... Just be there for her... help her and be the wall. Be there for the grandchildren.. The more you fight the more you lose. Gain her friendship and then work on her slowly but dont push... Is he a bad husbend? He is doing what hes suppose to do? If hes is then you have nothing to say.... If you have a reason likes hes beating her or the children or not treating them right at all. then your warrented. other wise just be the supported mother in-law.. Good Luck !
2006-11-07 15:53:32 · answer #3 · answered by ceemagiclydia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am really surprised that you want her to leave the father of her children. Do you realistically think your daughter can raise all those children without a father. It's crazy you prefer this for your grandchildren simply because of how you feel about their dad. I could see if you posted that he cheats or beats on her and the kids, but just because you don't like him is not a good enough reason. Your daughter is an adult in which she chooses what she wants for her life. You really should lighten up on him as this is what your daughter wants. You need to respect your daughters decisions and remember it is you who raised her to be who she is. It is understandable that you want the best for your daughter but have you thought about what is best for your grandchildren? If you feel that this man is causing harm in anyway to his children or girlfriend than you have a right to be concerned. But this really seems to be an issue of what you want for your daughter rather than your daughter's wants and needs. Personally this just seems selfish considering the known facts. You should evaluate why he bothers you so much and be realistic. There certainly is a problem here, but exactly who has the problem is the question!
2006-11-07 15:52:46 · answer #4 · answered by zero 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes 10 yrs younger. Age dosent matter. It just depends how they love each other to have 7 kids.
You should leave her alone before you push her any further away.
Im with a guy that is 17 years older then me and we have 2 kids.
All it matters is the love. Age is just a number.
2006-11-07 15:46:33 · answer #5 · answered by kimmy_raven2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mom get over your selfish ways& your motherly concerns! If your dauther is old enough to have 7 childern she's old enough to make her own decisions so let her. It's not your busniess anymore. Just pray that you raised your child right & IF this man is surely not good for her that she'll wake up & smell the coffee.Don't make it a bad situation that will cause you to loose your child & grandchildern.
2006-11-07 15:34:02 · answer #6 · answered by lee lee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a life she obviously has her own they have 7 kids together get over yourself you cannot do anything about him. leave her alone you are just going to mak eher miserable if you keep pushing the subject. listen to your daughter if you dont like it leave.
if he is not beating her or hurting her and is a good father you have no right to butt in
2006-11-07 15:30:05 · answer #7 · answered by The Weed Fairy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the way i see it if she has 7 kids and you have put up with it that long, he must love her, so i would say leave them alone, what happens if she leaves him and comes home to you?
2006-11-07 15:35:33 · answer #8 · answered by Kathy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call Jerry Springer. This would make a great episode.
2006-11-07 15:28:51 · answer #9 · answered by Ginger Sling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kill him with kindness. worked, sort of, with my mother in law.
2006-11-07 15:39:53 · answer #10 · answered by slippped 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋