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I am sick of my parents. I get ******* in trouble with them if I say "freakin" "sucks" "as$" or any thing like that. I am sick and tired of not being allowed to say them because to them they arew "crude" and "foul language". We don't have cable TV and if I watch any tv besides sports I get in trouble. I am not allowed to watch anything over PG and sometimes not evern that. that's right... no pg-13 movies. I am 14 years old so wtf can't I watch a pg-13 movie, tv, or use "sucks" or "freakin". Plus I can't play sports on sunday and I have to go to youth group every sunday because my pastor told my dad I should go. I am not going to have to go to youth group after December if I don't want to but this is still freakn annoying that I can't say "sucks" "freakin" or any thing like that. It's also embarrassing. Does any one have this problem? Any ideas on how to get them to lighten up a bit? Im not even allowed to do group dates until 16 and single dates until 18! how can I get them tolitenup?

Answer 1

how many times are you going to post this same question???

Answer 2

It does sound like your parents are a bit in the dark ages, I will give you that. However, they think they are doing what is "best for YOU, young man!" .
I don't think you can get them to lighten up. Your dad is probably needs to get a life, or he's a nutter. Let's face it, all parents are nutters!
Put it another way, they may be trying to keep their little boy all innocent and sweet, and out of harm's way. No reason to fault them for that. What does suck is that they need to know that if all else fails, you can leave at 18 and only darken their door when you need money or a bite of good food. You can be as wild as you want when you leave home.
For now, maybe you can negotiate by saying respectfully that if they keep it up, you may well put up with the rules until of age, but if they want to make you want to leave and maybe never come back, just keep being Trolls. [dear God do NOT call them trolls or the beatings may begin]. I think you get the idea. Assert your feelings respectfully, and maybe ask them embarassing questions, like "what you afraid of? That I will do some of the things you did?"

Answer 3

You just asked this question and I'm assuming that you didn't care for the answers you received. Sad thing is most parents try to monitor what there kids watch and say and do. Its not a bad thing its there way of trying to teach you morals and values. You cuss like crazy in this message so we all know you cuss. Is it a big deal? Not really. I'm sure you do it when your not around your parents, all kids do. Your parents seem to be doing the best thing for you and even though you don't like it you will learn to understand why when you grow up. Save this question, one day when you have kids you will laugh your azz for asking such a thing...

Answer 4

Tell them that you hear stuff in school that you know nothing about because you don't get exposed to it at home..

Stuff like in PG-13 movies and on tv.

Explain that you're worried that you might not know how to handle stuff when you're faced with it as you get older. You're also afraid to really tell them anything about what happens at school and stuff, because you're afraid they'll get mad at you for it.

Basically they're being overprotective. It's good to know they care, but damn you're gonna' be in trouble if you only get exposed to stuff outside of the home.

As for "freaking" and all that.. that's just "masking",, you're pretending to say curse words which is honestly just as bad as the real thing. It makes you seem unintelligent to use them when there's millions of decent words out there to get your point across with. It also shows a lack of respect for your parents, especially when you continue to use them.

Despite being 14, you're not ready for the "real world" yet, and all they're doing is trying to let you be a kid. The more of the "real world" they let in.. the more you'll need to grow up.. that's what they're afraid of.

Best bet would be to suggest that you'd like to earn more priviledges, and ask how you can do that. You'll probably need to quit the "masking" too, to show that you're maturity level is getting better, and when you can do that... be sure to tell them so they notice it..

They've got your best interests in mind, and want you to have a good life, they just don't neccessarily know how to get you there, especially if you're fighting them, because that just confuses the issue.

I wish you, and your parents, the best of luck.

Answer 5

Oh my rents were pretty strict when I was growing up. I couldn't do anything to change their minds. I just had to wait until I went to college. Whatever you do don't rebel! That makes it worse! Just keep hoping for the best and you think that you will be going to college in 4 yrs. Your rents probably wouldn't do anything bad and I'm sure they are only doing what they think is best for you!

Answer 6

In 4 more years, you can move out, get a job, get your own cable TV and watch what you want. Until then, it's their rules.

Answer 7

Maybe you should try having a little respect for your parents. There is a reason for them to have rules. Believe it or not they DO know what is best for you. Maybe if you EARN their trust and fix your attitude they might give you more privelages.

Answer 8

face it kid your parents know what they are doing and your just going to have to learn to deal with it, stop feeling sorry for your self show some respect and maybe they will lighten up, but with your attitude if you were mine you would be grounded until your 18.