what is the best way to suggest sex tips without hurting their feelings?

Question

This guy isn't satisfying me enough...and he doesn't last that long. Does anyone have any suggestions in how I can tell him how I would prefer we have sex without hurting his feelings or his ego?
Also, there are condoms that make you last longer, do they really work? how should I suggest he use those instead of the ones he uses now?

Answer 1

Tell him that you are taking the lead in bed and you are his master and whatever you say he has to do...he will love it and so will you.

Answer 2

My husband and i have the same issues and here is how we handled it:
I started telling him what i want during sex. Make it sexy and a little dirty and it will probably turn him on. Also, give him some oral or other way to get him off first, then go at it a second time. He will last longer the second time. He knows he is not lasting long enough so just tell him to wack it in the shower before you get together,or get him to spend more time on foreplay for you so you have a chance to get off. If you are close then you can talk to him about this. Just come out and say it and he will understand. Every guy has a complex about how long they last and are usually open to suggestions. If he wants to keep you around he will understand and listen to you. Just don't bash him when you talk to him. As far as the condems go, i don't know, i just bought some for my husband and we have not tried them yet.

Answer 3

The fun is in teaching him. Seriously you need to be straight up with him and say "listen my orgasm is as important as yours help me out here what can we do to insure we're both satisfied"

If he responds negatively to the comment youre probably wasting your time because truth be told true lovers are born not made.

However if you want to spend some time honing his skills. tell him how you really feel and what he can do to please you. Any man that cannot take constructive input by his mate in bed is
1. insecure

AND

2. selfish enough to consider leaving behind

So give him a chance and see what happens he may come around if he doesn't then make your decision from there....Good luck!

Answer 4

you can't break up without hurting feelings. 10 days or 10 months. You need to do what will make you happy. relationships come and go, but you're happiness is more important than not hurting someone's feelings... p.s. not trying to say you should be really mean to her...

Answer 5

Any condom makes me last longer. Just tell him how you want it. Or do some oral first. Maybe use some toys.

Answer 6

I say buy the condoms and say you heard great things about that brand and see if they work

Answer 7

First buy the condoms. The just say, "hey you k now what would be great?"

Answer 8

How about you say.....'Show me what it's like when you do.....etc' That way it's like making him think it's his idea.....or at least you learned about it together.

About the condoms......same approach, but I don't know much about the different sorts, sorry.

Answer 9

If your not grown enough to talk about sex with your partner maybe you should not be engaging in the act.

Answer 10

I say you just let him know that there are some new things that you want to try and then just let him know what you are thinking....see that way you can maybe get him to try it and not hurt his feelings

Answer 11

hmm... you need to e-mail me on that one.

There are ways to prolong ejaculation, take a bit of training. Also, there are lubes you can get to numb the pen!s but may adversely cause him to lose his erection.

As for other ways, ur just gonna have to e-mail me.