Before my bf met me he had 2 serious gf's (1+ years). I have no problem with that so lets move on. But I found out after he broke up with the second gf- within a few months he slept with this new girl from work on the first date and had a "f*** buddy" relationship with her. Soon after, she had to leave for college, they "broke" up ("broke" in quotes he would have liked it to continue but she had to go back to school hours away). Well again, like a month after that, he met some older ( like 5 years older than him) woman on the internet with a kid and starting having the same type of relationship with her until she started acting "shady" aka cheated on him. So I just found out just a bit ago that he starting dating me not even a WEEK after he broke up with her. I just kinda feel like if I was a ho like the other two, we would have the same type of relationship. He doesnt make me feel special, I just feel like he knows im a nice girl and wants to be with me just to be with someone....
2006-11-07 07:06:15 · 18 answers · asked by HlpMePlz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I love him but it bothers me he thinks of sex differently than me. Before I met him I wasnt experienced at all, so this feeling is just depressing and it upsets me. How I can get over his past? I love him so much and weve been dating for almost 10 months but it drives me crazy when I think about it!
2006-11-07 07:07:55 · update #1
You really cannot judge someone by their sexual past. My Husband and I have both had meaningless flings in the past and we don't hold it against each other because it was the past. When people are lonely they tend to look for an outlet weather it's sexual, drug use or a million other things. Obviously if you have been together for 10 months you mean something to him. He was probably lonely before he met you. You do need to talk to him and say exactly what you feel. A relationship is built on trust and communication.
2006-11-07 07:16:33 · answer #1 · answered by ~jenjen~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You already know the answer to your question. You said "he doesn't make me feel special" Only you know what you love about this guy so much, but you also know that his past makes you feel uncomfortable. It is better you know now then find out five years down the road like i did with my husband. If i knew what i know now then i would not have dated him at all and now i am trying to make a marriage work based on lies. Leave this guy and find someone that has the same values that you do and that will make you "feel special" and stop questioning yourself so much. 10 months is not a long time and it seems like you know what you want and he is not doing it for you. Trust me on this,it will be easier now then if you wait until you are stuck.
2006-11-07 07:15:18 · answer #2 · answered by micah z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk with him about how you feel and be completely honest too. If you are having any doubt about your relationship, then now is the time to get out. You really havent invested that much time into it. Everyone comes into a relationship with a past and you shouldnt hold that against him either. That all happened before you to started seeing each other.
2006-11-07 07:23:09 · answer #3 · answered by jwylie38 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone's past is what makes them who they are. If you like him or liked him when it all started, then what is the difference unless he is cheating on you now. If you have sex with him, maybe all of his relationships is based upon sex and he doesn't really know what love is. If you have concerns or feelings about this or anything, then you should talk about it with him, good communication is the only sure fire means of a respectful and complete relationship.
2006-11-07 07:13:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me that he's not your type. If you want someone seriously devoted to you, he might not be the one for you. Though then again, most guys are total pigs. And even a pig can stop his foolish ways for a girl he really loves. But definitely keep your eye out for another lady. Typically once a cheater, always a cheater.
2006-11-07 07:10:59 · answer #5 · answered by Dana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"He doesnt make me feel special, I just feel like he knows im a nice girl and wants to be with me just to be with someone.... ".....move on honey........how do you know he isn't doing this sort of thing behind your back......if he thinks it is not a sacred thing to be shared with only important people.....then he is not mature enough for a serious relationship......i suggest moving on before you become even more involved in a relationship with him! God bless!
2006-11-07 07:10:56 · answer #6 · answered by Carolina Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is no different than any other man...they all think that way! This is the exact reason why it is not a good idea to talk about past sexual relationships
2006-11-07 07:09:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is just using you as rebound and i bet you if one of the hoes called him he would have sex with them (CHEAT ON YOU) i know you love him but if you are feeling this way than you dont need him find you someone else that think about other things besides sex.
2006-11-07 07:15:54 · answer #8 · answered by mrsp27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl u need to rid him from ur life
he will never be faithful to u
he a sex maniac
and he cannot control that
push him away and find ur self a man who is going to love u for u
2006-11-07 07:09:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave, get out, and keep him far away, he is just using you, I hate to say it, but he is probably cheating on your right now. You don't deserve such a pig.
2006-11-07 07:13:18 · answer #10 · answered by Fuzzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋