we are together just 5 months but we are living together.everything has been really quickly.but now after time a can see that he has got his own life.he works 6 days in a week every day 8 sometimes 10 hours.every saturday he has got a football,every thursday he plays football and twice in month he has got a manager's meeting.but the worst thing is that everytime something happens to him he speaks to his friends at first.but he keeps talking that he loves me and he wants be with me till rest of his life.but i think that this is not for me.i love him but he has got too busy life.what do you think?is it normal?
2006-11-07 07:05:21 · 19 answers · asked by anjelik 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no u need to tell him this
2006-11-07 07:07:58 · answer #1 · answered by lost 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but this doesn' sound out of the ordinary.
Once a week football and twice month managers meetings?
8-10 hours a day working? Its no biggie.
If he's talking to his friends about stuff before you then he's probably a mans man. Likes to be centre of the testosterone and all that.
Sorry to be blunt but my guess is you're probably a bit more needy than him. The trick is to give him more freedom than he gives you and then he'll start wondering why you're never there for him.
At that point you call the shots.
2006-11-07 15:29:08 · answer #2 · answered by charlie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I work 8 -10 hours 5 days a week. in the afternoons I deal with the matters of the local society I am member of. almost every Saturday I work in the village ( the village renewal programme) . on Sundays I spend time with teenagers either letting them into my bedroom to use my computer and internet or simply doing things with them- it is a small village and there is very little to do for teenagers. in the meantime I stay in touch with the societies in other villages and help them to apply for money etc.
I write to the local ecological magazine....
still find time to be with my friends ( although i have to put our meetings to my organizer first to make sure i will be free;)
but when i hear that I should find a boyfriend I go crazy - for god's sake could you find a guy who wouldn't like me to quit at least half of the things i do now and spend time with him? who would be so understanding to accept my busy life, which gives me so much satisfacion?
2006-11-07 16:08:07 · answer #3 · answered by ywe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it is normal. Work is rough. Do you go with him to football ? I imagine you should. You also might think about working where he works. You have all Sunday together it seems to me. Maybe you should get some or a girlfriend if u r lonely. Are you getting what you want each night ?
2006-11-07 15:13:23 · answer #4 · answered by glen_loves_fun 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to understand if he keeps it up he's going to have a heartatack maybe.. tell him he needs to think of the time ahead and how you don't want to loss him so find so time to relax and to enjoy the roses and go on a picnic sad he is not putting you 1st yet with the way life is things can get out of hand! so try to show the care he may not see for himself! and maybe go with him to some of these outing and enjoy them with him in a supportive way...
2006-11-07 15:13:26 · answer #5 · answered by tommoore66 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly 5 months is to soon to have moved in together , because you don 't know the person well enough , you have to talk to him about this ,because this will continue and he'll probably think you are nagging him .If he's not prepared to spend more time with you ,then it's time to move out, he can 't have it both way's .
2006-11-07 15:39:13 · answer #6 · answered by MILLION DOLLAR QUESTION 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hunny dats life....you just need to spend the little time you both have together and make the best of it...hey atleast he aint out with the guys doing i dont know what....he's working, and playing a sport, he's doing something with his life, and he didnt want you in his life he wouldnt live with you, he probly wants to provide something good for the future, thats good...! you need to be there for him and support him, cuz if you dont he will get tired of and will find someone else that will....well i hope you get my point....good luck!
2006-11-07 15:12:15 · answer #7 · answered by *NANCY* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends in what you want out of life
a traveling salesman you;ll never see or a relationship where you will spend time together
5 mos, is too soon to be moving in together if youd have waited you have known that.
2006-11-07 15:09:24 · answer #8 · answered by daisymayNY 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really love him talk to him about it and try to work it out maybe he can do football every other week or something like that so you can have more time with him
2006-11-07 15:12:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The second you moved in he should of made some changes to his lifestyle.
Best thing to do is to talk to him, if he doesn't know how you feel he won't change.
2006-11-07 15:31:47 · answer #10 · answered by debs1701 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think hes just trying to set his career to get into a better position to support u. I also did this for my gf and i think she certainly had feelings like yourself. That's y she left me.
I request , please dont dump him. Give him all your support and talk to him about this
2006-11-07 15:11:08 · answer #11 · answered by snip3r_scorpion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋