I have been talking to this guy for about 2 months and right before me he was talking to this other girl who stopped calling him. Well now she decides to come around again and now his feelings for her are comming back (which i understand because its natural). He decided to bring it upon himself to tell me that he likes me a lot but these feelings have come back he doesnt know what to do (since we r not official).
Great guy, nothing wrong besides this recent thing. But my question is how long should I give him to make a decision and how to bring it up?
2006-11-07 07:01:25 · 22 answers · asked by almond_eyes84 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dont give him no time because look its your time that is getting wasted....go up to him and ask him what is he going to do...stick with you or go to that other gurl.....i mean its not fare to you that you have to wait for him to decide what gurl he wants.....Look if he really likes you like he says he does then there is no reason to even have to think about who he wants......he has to think that, that other gurl stoped calling him not him to her...why is he even going to think about giving her another chance when he now has a good *** gurl? Think about it gurl. Dont go wasting your time....Remember life is short.
2006-11-07 07:08:45 · answer #1 · answered by Sweet Momma 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It all depends on how much time you have to wait but you know the longer you wait, the longer you give him to develop those feelings for her and that could be bad. Make you move and you'll find that you'll either be commended for you bravery or droped like a fly but either way... you have nothing to loose in the end and your less likely to get your hopes too high.
2006-11-07 15:07:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your main problem is that you are Allowing this guy full control. When HE decides who HE wants. When HE ends the waiting for you and this other girl.
Move on, sweetie...this guy should be all over you and can't get enough and if he's not behaving that way, tell him to get lost.
PS. "There are no excuses for bad behavior"-Remember that.
2006-11-07 15:05:52 · answer #3 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a game for real now the question is how much are u willing to take in order to have him with you. You put yourself in this situation and you could get hurt so if he takes his time then you know from there that you fighting a losing battle.
2006-11-07 15:05:40 · answer #4 · answered by brad_suel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't put your life on hold for any guy. If I understand you right, you are going to hang around on the sidelines while he makes up his mind about who he wants to be with.
You have already given him as much time to make up his mind as he deserves.
Take care of yourself 1st. If you are still available when he finally does make up his mind, then I guess that will be his lucky day then won't it.
2006-11-07 15:08:59 · answer #5 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can't have his cake and eat it too! I wouldn't let him go be with her, only for it not to work out and him come back for damn sure. Nope. I would tell him, if he goes, he's gone. I understand he may be a great guy, but he shouldn't be able to get away with this. If you want to wait around for him, then I guess. What ever floats your boat, but I wouldn't let him toy around with me and my feelings.
2006-11-07 15:08:31 · answer #6 · answered by shondak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The day he told you, you should have given him 24 hours to make up his mind.
Keep in mind that if he dumps you and some time down the road trys to make his way back into your life, he'll possibly do it again and make you second in line.
2006-11-07 15:05:20 · answer #7 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a bad situation. I think that if he really likes you as he says, then he would have been able to make a disicion right away. Maybe let him go if he wants he will come back to you, but dont play his second fiddle!good luck
2006-11-07 15:09:53 · answer #8 · answered by laChick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take out for some coffee in a day or two, and ask him "where, do you think me, and you is going?" It wont hurt, and if he chooses the other girl, tell him, that you will be around, but not forever
2006-11-07 15:07:49 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU must take a stand - tell him you are not willing to be ruled by his indecision and that you no longer wish to see him. Men of that type are ususally charming, but cannot be trusted - remember, it could happen again. Lois
2006-11-07 15:16:07 · answer #10 · answered by loiscarr@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋