..there is still a huge physical attraction, yet the decision was made to remain friends only. Some men are afraid to recommit, like he is..
2006-11-07 06:55:26 · 24 answers · asked by Dana 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That's only possible if you guys had a decent friendship before you got romantically involved. Otherwise, you'll be asking for trouble. Somebody's feelings are gonna get hurt.
Who made the decision to remain friends? Sounds like he did. If that's the case, it would mean that you would never be just his friend. You'd always be looking for a way back into a romantic relationship with him, which would only piss him off and push him farther away from you.
You then would feel rejected and neglected. You'll be wondering what you did to turn him off, or what the other woman has that you don't. He may not be afraid to commit. He just might not want to do it with you.
Only true friends can see both sides of that picture. If you don't think you can see it from his point of view, and him see it from yours, make a clean break. It will be hard at first, but you'll live through it.
2006-11-07 07:06:31 · answer #1 · answered by peter n 3 · 4⤊ 2⤋
This is a subject that I enjoy. Depending on how long you've put into a relationship, you figure that it had to start somewhere, usually as friends. I have only been in one relationship in the course of my life, where I have not been able to remain friends with the person after. To me, it took time to build a friendship up that grew into a relationship and if two mature people want it, can still be a great friendship. Those two people have to put all things aside, and just move on. Sometimes we don't want to admit it, but the person we are or were with is not the person for us. That doesn't make that person any less of a human being or worthy of a friend. That person was part of your life for however much time, and shouldn't have to be cast out of your life, unless you want it that way. It is possible to remain friends with an ex, if you want it to be that way. Just put all other feelings aside, treat him like you would any other friend. It might be a little akward at first, but you'll get over it and get used to it.
2006-11-07 07:01:24 · answer #2 · answered by bettedaviseyes79 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Leave him in the friend column. Do you know how lucky you are that you can put in there? Lots of folks cant say that.
Many people break up and then carry that baggage of the unresolved/estranged past relationship, and it wreaks havoc in the new relationships. I wouldn't worry about reconciling this relationship, just be grateful you won't spit on each other or something else crazy, when you encounter each other. Hey , if you had the hots for him in the beginning, you will at the end too. And, lastly, there is always a reason they call them "ex-es", just let it go, and say NEXT.
2006-11-07 07:03:27 · answer #3 · answered by Lucky Lola 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it is wiser to let this relationship go by the wayside. You THINK it'll only be a friendship, but since he is still attractive to you and with the comfort of familiarity, you would probably wind up just as you were before. Even if you did remain just friends, it could cause much discomfort to a new girl/boyfriend that may come along for either of you in the future. Best leave this one alone.
2006-11-07 07:01:30 · answer #4 · answered by smcdevitt2001 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I believe its a bad idea to remain friends with an ex. It is very important to completely get over him/her before becoming friends and IMHO the only way to do that is with distance. Unresolved issues will always resurface if there is no closure.
2006-11-07 06:58:34 · answer #5 · answered by Creole 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sometimes its okay depending how the break up was and how long did u go out if he broke up with u because he wants to date ur friend or cause he got a new girl then you really should think about not being friends if the break up was a good break up an understanding one then yall could still be friends hoping hes not doing it to show his friend look i can still have her either way
2006-11-07 07:00:48 · answer #6 · answered by destiny d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it's hard to remain friends with someone you have been intimate with. Even though you say your friends, sometimes it's easy to get jealous and hurt. If you both want to be just friends, then do it. If you are feeling more and still want to remain friends hoping to reconcile. Be Careful!
2006-11-07 07:00:07 · answer #7 · answered by corinasanc 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Nha, i think u shoudl pick up and move on
its not a good idea to remain pals w/ the ex cause there are always issues like jealousy and god knows what - so move on
2006-11-07 06:57:30 · answer #8 · answered by THE=GIRL 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
once you two have been together, the friendship can't be the same, you two will have flash backs of those times when your both friends, you can still be friends but it just won't be the same. that should not stop you from being friends, just remember that here will be times when you both will feel uncomfterble
2006-11-07 06:59:15 · answer #9 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I've been friends with my ex for 20 years now, certainly relieves the stress better than trying to rekindle a fire.....
2006-11-07 06:59:14 · answer #10 · answered by village_idiot465 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋