I am very concerned that my gf is not truly over one of her ex's. She has been open with me about all of her other ex's, but doesn't like to talk about this one, we'll call him Al. She dated Al about a year ago and all I really know is that things were going great and she really liked him. But she ended things with him to get back with another ex who had just gotten back from Iraq. She said that she had regretted breaking up with Al, but is over him now.The following red flags have really made me wonder...
-She has an entire folder on her computer of pictures of him and them
-I found a picture of them in her car
-I asked her to take him off her buddy list
-He reappeared on her buddy list a week later
-She gets upset with me if I bring him up
-She has consistently been checking both his, and his gf's myspace pages like once a week
These make me think that she is not over him. How can I tell?
2006-11-07 06:53:05 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You idiot...everything she is doing is guilty....shes a mad stalker..get away from this cheap tart...its like fatal attraction.
2006-11-07 06:55:52 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From the outside looking in, im sorry to say, it seems like she still carries a torch for this guy. Lets be logical. If she is still interested enough to constantly look at their myspace pages and continue to have pictures of the two of them, then she is obviously still stuck on him. If she really was over this guy, it wouldnt matter what he is doing. He would be non existant to her, or at least should be. Her focus should be you and the relationship she has with you. If she still has pictures and other memorabilia from their relationship its time to give her the ol' heeve hoe-- catch my drift? Nothing else and no one else should matter to her. She is not over him and if you ask her to get over him, she wont. She has gotta do this by her self, which she obviously hasnt . Good luck with this girl.
2006-11-07 15:13:13 · answer #2 · answered by Mia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have already got a clear answer. She isn't over him. If you found a picture in her car, that is probably because she wants to remember him daily. Not a very good sign for you :( If you want to try to get more clues, just bring it up one day and i she tries to change the subject and starts talkin with a different voice and quickly, she probably still likes him. Sorry man, good luck ;)
2006-11-07 14:57:42 · answer #3 · answered by J&B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you just have to trust your gut. I think your accusations are standing pretty solid and if I were you I would definatly be concerned. You have to decide how worth it this girl is. Is she's very worth it, tell her everything you just said in this paragraph. Tell her you placed the question on Yahoo Answers because you honestly can't figure out what you should do. And finally, tell her that the future of your relationship depends strongly on her future actions where her ex is involved.
If she's not worth all of that trouble, you know what you need to do.
2006-11-07 14:57:30 · answer #4 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually if you even have to ask yourself this question theres probably a reason why. I would say that she is still pretty attached to this guy - and I wouldnt buy the just friends line with all the things you listed.
2006-11-07 14:55:19 · answer #5 · answered by radiancia 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is one of those, "if you have to ask..." questions. If you have to ask this, then there is something going on. Personally, putting him back on her list and checking his site weekly are a sure signs that she is still somewhat obsessed with him.
You should have a "its him or me" conversation with her, because I don't think you have much of a future with her otherwise.
2006-11-07 15:00:31 · answer #6 · answered by Wundt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your are so right....she is most definitely not over him.....sit her down and have a talk with her and tell her exactly how you feel.....give her a choice.....either respect you by not having all of this "ex boyfriend baggage" or end the relationship.....if she's really not into him anymore she will continue to be with you and respect your wishes.....if not....maybe you will find somebody that respects you....
2006-11-07 14:58:48 · answer #7 · answered by MoneR 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you already have! If she is constantly checking their myspace pages, she wants to know what's going on in their relationship.
Sit down and talk to her about it.
2006-11-07 14:56:12 · answer #8 · answered by eloquence0122 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you tell? You just told us how you can tell, and you're right. She's not over him. How many clues do you need short of finding them together in a sleeping bag?
2006-11-07 14:56:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately it doesn't sound if she is completely over him. you could tell her about your suspicions and ask if she wants out of your relationship to get back with him. if she says no, then ask her to, out of consideration for YOUR feelings, break off all contact with him, quit talking about him, etc. maybe that would work. good luck!
2006-11-07 14:56:48 · answer #10 · answered by rnash0305 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No she is not over him. I would find someone that cares more about what your doing than what the ex is doing.
2006-11-07 15:00:56 · answer #11 · answered by LittleMiss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋