okay, there's this girl i like at school and i like her a lot. She knows that i like her along with the whole entire school. im positive i had a chance at the start of the year, but now its gone way down and she doesnt like me AT ALL. she thinks im a stalker cause i go wherever she goes and never talk to her cause i can never figure out what to say (we have exactly the same friends and we know each other pretty well) so now im like way down in the hole and i like her too much to let her go. if you have an idea for like a "comeback" (like in sports when you're down by 2 touchdowns in the fourth quarter) please list that. im a freshman in highschool so the "comeback" idea you have can last a couple years or sumtin. dont list negative comments cause they put my self esteem down, lol. again, she doesnt really like me, and i want to literally grab her attention towards me! i need ur help so plz help ME!!!!!!! ANYTHING WOULD BE GREAT
2006-11-07 06:49:49 · 20 answers · asked by German L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are acting all desperate...ignore her from now on and act like you dont care..chat up other girls...she will be so jealous that she will jump on your bones.
2006-11-07 06:52:03 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just really need to talk to her. DO NOT put it in writing because she might use that against you later to embarrass you (if she's not a nice girl)
If you have mutual friends ask one of them that you trust to set something up where you both will be socializing at the same time. Don't wait until 3 minutes before the bell rings to strike up a conversation, at this point you need to save it for a quality conversation. Any gatherings you're planning on attending at the same time? Football game? In any case, if everyone already knows you like her then you've got nothing to lose. Just approach her and flat-out tell her "Look man, I'm not a stalker or anything. I just think you're really cool and I've been a little intimidated trying to talk to you. So, you think we're gonna win this game or what?" (or something to that effect to break the ice and not be too personal or uncomfortable) If she blows you off then let her go, she's a jerk, move on. If she continues the conversation or is at least polite and respectful then decide from there what you can do to keep the conversation or future conversations active. Good luck buddy!
2006-11-07 14:55:31 · answer #2 · answered by 'tisJustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I defiantly don't want to sound negative, but you might need to back off a bit, some girls love the chase, and they might realize how serious you are when you stop chasing, but if you really like her and she's not returning your affection, back off a bit. It's very rare that you'll score 2 TD in the 4th quarter, that stuff happens in the in the movies, now I don't want to cause you esteem problems, but if you try something drastic, and she doesn't like you, she will reject you big time, and other people her friends, and others will think your weird, and if you think you had esteem problem now wait till then. Hey your good young man, cast your line into the sea, there's plenty of fish out there
2006-11-07 15:01:26 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok well, I am a girl and im telling you this: its really annoying if a boy follows you and everything. I know you said not to mention negative comments, but you shouldn't of fell in love with her when you didnt no she liked you for sure. Also if you can never think of anything to say, just mention what songs you like at the moment, or even ask her what lesson you have next, something. Please don't go and talk to her without anything to say, think things through. Maybe eventually she will start to like you, start with being friends first, and don't follow her everywhere, she needs her space. I hope I help and good luck!
2006-11-07 14:54:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly there is only one thing you can do, if her attitude won't change you've got to change the attitiude of everyone else. What you need to do is pull some sort of romantic stunt in front of everyone and I mean EVERYONE!!! I'm talking the whole sha-bang; flowers, candy, poetry the works and make it a public display. Wear a T-shirt for crying out loud that says how you feel. If you do it in front of others she will have one of two responses.
1. She will realize how much you care and be touched that you would go to such lengths for her
or...
2. She'll hate you forever, but everyone else will think you're the greatest and there's a lot of other girls in "everyone."
either way a win/win
2006-11-07 14:56:41 · answer #5 · answered by Jeremy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this may sound crazy but go out with someone else for awhile, two things could happen by doing this #1 you might really start liking the new person and forget about the first girl or #2 you can make the other one jealous and she will come running. Or if you have any close girl - friends they might even help you carry this out.
2006-11-07 14:54:07 · answer #6 · answered by Arual 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her like she is one of your friends do treat her any differnt then she will know that your not just out for you know what then when you feel more comfortable then give her the 411 or ask if she wants to meet up and go hang out with your friends that will help take some of the ackwardness of your shoulds because its a crowd, and then if it goes well then ask her if she wants to hang out with just you sometime if its good for her. Hey you will never know unless you try.
2006-11-07 14:56:39 · answer #7 · answered by bettyboop 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first, think about what makes you so nervous about approaching her. girls like confidence!! she is probably turned off by your shy-like behavior that comes off weird and stalker-like to her. Have you tried to make her jealous? Ignore her for a while and maybe she will start to search you out. girls like hard to get... at least i do. if you stop giving her so much attention, she will feel something similar to what you are feeling and wonder what she did to make you less interested. then maybe she will try to get closer to you if she feels you are not so interested. do you know if she likes another guy? look at what attributes he has that may be attractive to her. he's probably very self confident and acts like he knows what he wants.
2006-11-07 14:56:00 · answer #8 · answered by cami 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok try this....Next time she is by herself, ask her if you could speak to her for a minute. Have on...it is important...face. When you have her attention just ask her if she has a boyfriend and if she hasn't is she available for one. Whatever answer she gives will not be a rejection. Just information for you to work with. I won't bother to ask her out or now is the time to ask her out. Good luck.
2006-11-07 15:01:00 · answer #9 · answered by enigma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for starters you need to talk to her cause if youdont she will think that you dont like her then start with small talk like how are you just little things like that then after awhile just tell her that you screwed up in the beginning of the year and would like to date her. dont do it in a front of alot of people cause your friends and hers will make a big thing out of it and she will not even want to talk to you
2006-11-07 14:55:02 · answer #10 · answered by angie f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you need to find a way to talk to her cause if you dont well then she'll think ur really weird and be frightened of u.You need to make urself comftable round her and take a risk and ask her out
peice
2006-11-07 14:53:33 · answer #11 · answered by dj s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋