moving in?

Question

me and my fiance are moving in together sat,hes nearly 22 and im 20 and been together for 4 years,but hes mum is being really weired about it like im taking her son away why is she being like this?

Answer 1

When my daughter moved in with her boyfriend, I tried to be supportive, yet I didn't like the idea of her living with him. I'm not the kind that likes the live-in idea, but I was there and helped them move. They had been together for some time, so I hoped it would work out fine. I'm sure they thought I acted weired, too, but I didn't say anything. Anyway, 4 months later, I was back and helping her pack her things and move out. I didn't say anything then, either. It's a mothers job to be concerned and worried that her child is making a mistake that they will later regret, and mom will be there to help pick up the pieces. I hope for your sake this is a great move and that your lives together will be wonderful. She will come around, give her time. Someday, when you have children, you will come to understand how we mothers have a built in protective instinct to us when it comes to our kids, no matter how old they are. Be nice to her. Good luck and hope it turns out well.

Answer 2

All p[arents act weird when you move out his parents have probably looked at him to help around the house and you are taking that away from them therefore your name will be "muck" for a while your folks will be acting weird cause you are leaving, and trust me i was there not that long ago and you can't do anything right with either parents and it puts a strain on your relationship!!!!! But when you are goe thing will settle down and get better trust me!!! i am at that stage now and it is nice....... just grin and get on with it for now!!!!!!! Good Luck in your new home!!!!! xx

Answer 3

It is only because you are taking her son away she still see him as her little boy but she will get over it! Good luck with the move on Sat!

Answer 4

My partner's mum is like that too. Maybe it's something about mums and their little boys. You often hear that no-one is good enough for their little soldier. I'd ride the storm and it will settle in time. My partner's mum is gradually improving, especially now we have a baby of our own. I think she just finds it hard to let go. Ask her questions such as how to cook his fave meal and make her feel important. It works for me!!

Answer 5

you miss your children's when they grow up and move out , she is probably just missing him and it's just the fact that he's moving on , you have to be a parent to understand this , especially a mum give her a chance to get used to the idea and she'll be fine then , hopefully !!!!

Answer 6

She is just being over protective, its only natural especially if he is her only child/youngest or only son.

Don't take it to heart, when she sees her son happy she will be happy.

Answer 7

Mum's get like this with their 'little boys'. she'll come round but for now its a major adjustment for her.

Answer 8

agree with first answer. Best way to deal with it is treat her cheerfully, politely , and don't let her see her attitude to you ever gets you down. Eventually she will learn to 'grow up' and cope

Answer 9

she is probably just worried about him, dont forget she has looked after him all his life and she is probably just worried you wont do a good a job as what she has done, prove her wrong and all will be well. also she is a little jealous......

Answer 10

Jealousy just take no notice and get on with it.