How comes online dating never works?

Answer 1

I believe that "On-line" dating can work for some people. There is a rushing feeling of getting to know someone for who they are rather that their appearance. Don't get me wrong, I know that there are creeps out there. One should always be cautious, when meeting someone on-line. The only people I've ever attempted "relationships" with were guys I'd been talking to for years. For any relationship to work it cant start as an "I'm desperate, lets hook-up" situation. Sadly, that's what many relationships are about (On-line and Offline). So the question you ask can be applied to normal "real-life" dating as well. Whether or not an on-line relationship will work out is up to the two people involved and how honest they are willing to be with each other.

Answer 2

Actually online dating works about as well as actual dating. If two people meet online or otherwise and remain honest from the beginning they will either be together or part ways amicably. The problems occur when either or both sides play games lie or generally not take they whole thing seriously.

Answer 3

Online, we can put our best selves forward. We can edit what the other person sees, hears and reads. We have the time to make sure that anything we're sending out is as perfect as we can make it.

In real life, you have to deal with all the psychological warts and wrinkles a person has, and that you, yourself, have. You can't hit the delete key or go back and spruce things up.

Also, doesn't the mystery of an online relationship add something to it? You get to fantasize a little, and - when you meet that person - you're bound to be disappointed because no one can ever live up to a fantasy.

Answer 4

If it is strictly people chatting online then in fact they are not really dating, rather they are just chatting. And quite probably BS'ing each other. But I have to disagree with you if you mean that if you meet someone after chatting with them for a while online that it will end in failure. I was introduced to my fiance on a website and we met and are set to walk down the aisle, 3 years later, next May. So it can definately work, meeting people on line but you have to be so careful as there are lots of users and losers on there. And this includes members of both sexes.

Answer 5

There's actually no such thing as 'online dating'...you cannot date someone online...where do you go? You can chat and get to know one another, but for anything to happen you must meet in person...

Now, offline dating, that began as people meeting online, often works out well...in fact, the vast majority of guys I've dated over the past 10 yrs are ones I met online somewhere/how...

it's a great way to meet people that might otherwise have not crossed our path...but unless you meet in person and get to know one another, it cannot work...and there's no point in it...

Answer 6

Read "Why We Love: The Nature and Chemistry of Romantic Love" by Helen Fisher. When you "meet" someone online you simply read their words and look at a 2-dimensional picture. Love requires the kindling of sexual chemistry, which is fueled by pheromones. People pursue someone online and then feel nothing for them when they meet in person. Likewise, they dismiss people whose online profiles may not entice them, but who in person they might be a good match for. Also, people can misrepresent themselves easier online. My advice is to get out there in the real world!

Answer 7

Because people are just leary of who might be sitting on the otherside of the monitor. It is much too difficult to really meet compatible individuals over an impersonal source like the Internet. Plus, I think that the membership fees to many of those dating sites might turn away potential customers.

Answer 8

It seems to sound like it works for some people; perhaps I am mistaken though. I hear ads bragging about people marrying after meeting through online dating services. I simply do not trust it.

Answer 9

I think it's because the majority of the times people online sometimes are dishonest about themselves and you may not know the truth about them so...It has never worked for me...face to face dating has.

Answer 10

Actually, I met my husband online almost 4 years ago. You just have to be really honest and know you're not going to find too many honest people that like to hide behind their computer screens! Good luck!