What do you think of two people who are in love getting married at 18 years old?

Question

Someone asked this question yesterday and I was really interested in seeing the opinions, but also curious as to how it would breakdown age-wise. So it's the same question that somebody asked yesterday, but with the added question of how old are you?

Answer 1

I'm in my forties and i know of one couple who got married that early and stayed married.You are still growing (mind wise) at that age. You need to be able to date around , see and experience new things with an open mind and it's hard to do that when your married.I know of 12 other couples who married that young and divorced..take my advice..wait until your at least 25..

Answer 2

I am 24 and recently married. I think that 18 is too young. I was a completely diff person at 18, it I would have married the guy I was "in love with" at 18 that would have been a huge mistake. Attitudes change as do feelings. There is so much to experience after you get out of high school at 18, new surroundings and people. I think that if your "in love" you can wait it out a year or two and see where it goes.

Answer 3

I think it is a lovely, romantic idea. From that point, it is hard to give an opinion. Do they both have a good way of earning a living? Have they families with money who will help?
I can't say it is a completely bad idea, but there is a chance they will keep maturing over some years and maybe not together. By then children may be present.
I know of a couple who got together at 17, were pregnant at 19, and now he's 24, would rather w_ank to porn than have sex with the woman. This woman is a complete knockout. A bunch of his mates think he is barmey.
She never worked, he rides a bus and bicycle over ten miles to work, and they have little chance of ever moving out of a marginal flat. Imagine transporting a sick child or two on a bus to the clinic, or having to ride on bus with children for a couple hours to visit friends. All she has is two kids, her computer, and a male who never grew up. Neither went past tenth year in school. He got this job only because of his father's pull.
"B**tch slaps his mate for not giving proper attention and love to one of the sweetest, most attractive girls on earth!"

Answer 4

If you are really in love and have been together a while(like most of high school), then I think it's okay. My bf(21 now) and I plan on getting married when I graduate. We've been together almost a yr now and will have been together 2 yrs by then. I am 17 now and I'll be 18 then. Age really is nothing but a number. A number that tells the world how long you've been on this earth.

Answer 5

I'm engaged right now and I am 18. My fiancee is 19; we have been dating a year. I would never put an age limit on our lives. We love each other and although people may think we are moving to quickly, we know in our hearts that we belong together. There is no age when it's okay to love someone. The love I felt at 14 for my best friend is the same love I feel now. My fiancee never escapes my mind. He is my rock. When I am overwhelmed, I know he believes in me. He keeps me pushing. When I am ready to give, he fights for me. He gives me strength. I never thought I'd find someone who makes me cry from joy. We don't fight. We bicker and when it's done, we both apologize. If I am upset, I know I can yell at him and be frustrated and he understands. When someone pisses him off, I am the shoulder he leans on. I listen to a normal song, not even a love song, and I think of him. At night, I stare at him and wonder why I am so lucky. When he's at work, I am looking for an excuse to call. I trust him completely and totally. Without him nothing even matters. I would sacrifice it all for him. That's love and i believe that your numerical age doesn't change the capacity for love in your heart. Before it was him, her. Then him and her. Soon, there will be an us. And honestly, I would have it no other way.

Answer 6

I think if they are fully aware of the sacrifices as well as the gifts (emotional ones, not registry gifts) then go for it. I would recommend some good pre-marital counseling before making the final decision. After all there is no time limit on an engagement. If they want to put it off a few years till they feel they are more ready, then that's fine to. But if they can accept the monotony (marriages can get monotonous) as well as the surprises that go hand in hand I think it's fine.

I'm 22 and got married at 21.

Answer 7

I do not thnik that people as young as 18 should get married because they still have time for that. They should enjoy their younger years; have all the fun they want. When they get a bit older, then they are emotionally ready and hopefully financial stable to enter into a marriage.

Right now I am 26 yrs old. I did not meet my fianve until a year ago. I did all the things that I wanted to do and I graduated from college. Once all of this is out of the way, you can do whatever you want.

Answer 8

It's too young. You change so much between 18-25 that it's truly best to wait. If those two people are really in love and in it for the long haul, why can't they wait until after college, at least?

Also, you should both be dating around until 25 so that you know what you like and what you want in a person. Getting married to the first person who looks at you is risky.

Married 1 year, I'm 28, husband is 36.

Answer 9

again, unless you are financially and emotionally independent, i would wait.

my husband and i got married at 23, after being together for 5 years and engaged for 2. we decided to not get married in college because we didn't want to mess up our financial aid, taxes, etc. The age one gets married at isn't the important part. What is, is maturity, dedication, seriousness, ability to commuinicate, etc. I would suggest you read a book called why marriages suceed or fail. Also, i would consider the pressure that OTHERS place on married couples despite the age- people asking you about children, assuming you don't go out and party etc, other things people your age might sterotype about you because of your young age.

Answer 10

I think its sweet. I always wanted to get married to my high school sweetheart right out of high school, but I never had one. I think for some, it may work. For others, they really aren't ready for marriage and it ends in divorce. Most parents would say 18 is too young, and I would have to agree, now that I'm bit older and wiser. I think there is a lot of life to experience with out being tied down so early. Its a tough decision to make. I want nothing more out of life then to be married forever to the love of my life, make babies and live happily ever after. If God himself came to me and said it will last for the rest of your lives and you will be blissfully happy, I would get married ...yesterday. But, with it being so difficult to tell, and life constantly changing, I would say wait until there was a little more of real world experience under the belt.

Answer 11

I got married at 18. Its been really hard. Im not lieing and we havent been married that long about 6 months actually. And its been a lot of work but we love each other so we just work at it. It will work if you really love each other. Esential ingredients is: love, good jobs (stable), and you HAVE to be willing to work with it. So if you have all that it'll work. I am 18 and my husband is 21. We got married at 18 and 20!