I have become good friends with a man that I have grown to care for a great deal and have recently found out from one of his family members that he is a paraniod scizophrenic. I'm having a hard time dealing with this but I still care a lot about him. Is it possiable to have a relationship with him, and do I let him know that I know what is wrong with him? I still care for him but is it going to cause me more pain in the long run? Any seroius advice would be helpful.
2006-11-07 06:35:13 · 10 answers · asked by ozzy 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Two things; PS is just an illness, would you feel the same if he had diabetes? For most people who have PS it is no more serious than that so find out and that leads to the second point; if you want a relationship with anyone, no matter who, you need honesty between you. Ask him if there is anything you should know but let him know first that you care and you are not likely to do other than listen and continue caring. He is a person Ozzy and if you care for him he probably deserves it as you are asking the right questions. I think he is a lucky Guy so Good Luck to you both!
2006-11-07 06:45:02 · answer #1 · answered by Samuel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If his Paranoid Schizophrenia is under control with the meds then there is no reason for you to not have a great relationship. My brother is Paranoid Schizophrenic and is on the proper meds and was doing great until he started drinking beer again. Alcohol reverses the effect of the meds and it is like he isn't taking the meds at all.
Good luck with the relationship but you need to do a lot of research about the disease.
2006-11-07 06:41:45 · answer #2 · answered by Patti T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get online and educate yourself thoroughly about this mental disorder. While he may seem "normal" when on his meds, he will undoubtedly go off of them (part of the disease) and you will get to see how the disease manifests in him.
Of all the types of schizophrenia, the paranoid type are more likely to become violent. Your life with him will be a roller coaster at best, dangerous at worst.
Now, that being said, if he responds well to you and is able to maintain a normal relationship, it would seem harsh and cruel to end a relationship based on "what could happen". Only with loyal family and friends do such individuals stand a chance at a "normal" life.
After you have found out a lot about it, you must make your own decision.
2006-11-07 06:41:30 · answer #3 · answered by finaldx 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The answer to your question is this. (I speak from experience) If they take their medication and it controls their symptoms. AND they are commited to taking it. You will be ok.
If they have a history of getting off their meds then you are in for a never ending world of drama and pain.
Most mental disorders can be controled and the people live normal and productive lives. Just note that they will almost always need the meds for the rest of their life.
2006-11-07 06:56:23 · answer #4 · answered by fuzzylogic_y2k 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello. My mother is a paranoid schizophrenic and IF she takes her medicine, she is as normal as you or I. But should she exude her paranoid side and decide not to take it, look out. If he is taking his medicine and he seems to you like he is fine, then I say talk to the family member again and find out how he is at home. Go with your gut instinct. Schizophrenia is a disease just like cancer or any other illness, just affects the mind. It can be controlled with medication. BUT should you find out he exhibits dangerous thoughts, (ie: GOD tells him to kill everyone wearing red shoes) then please steer clear as it is hard to tell when their delusions may include you in them. The voices have a lot of control in their heads and if it is dangerous control, then i guess you get it.......Hope this helps :)
2006-11-07 08:22:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
While you can have a relationship. You are going to be putting alot more into this relationship then he is.
As long as you know what you are getting into by reading up on this as much as you can.. you can work it out,but remember it's not him that's freaking out on you, it's his disease.
2006-11-07 06:49:52 · answer #6 · answered by Jas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Continuing a relationship with this person is taking you for a roller coaster ride through life, and it is never good.
Lived with one for years. Drainning.
2006-11-07 06:46:02 · answer #7 · answered by whymewhynow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey my name is devon and i have paranoid schizophrenia... the best advice i can give is to just listen to him and be there as a friend and also to question him about his illness...just keep him away from bars
2006-11-07 06:45:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read the book, "Wherever You Go, There You Are."
And have him read it also. It will help a great deal !!! Without a doubt, the book will help ALOT !!!
2006-11-07 06:39:39 · answer #9 · answered by Thomas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of drama coming for you unless you dump him,good luck.
2006-11-07 06:47:59 · answer #10 · answered by frank m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋