He treated me like a dirt. What should I do?

Question

It started like this. I knew him five years ago and we were friends since then. A couple of years ago we use to flirt with each other and one day he asked me for a kiss, and I gave it to him with the condition to remain as friends and that's it. I saw him again a year after graduation, we talk for a while, he wanted a kiss and I gave it to him. I liked the feeling I got when I kiss him, that is why I did it. After he told me that we are better off as friends and I agree with it. Later on he tried to go for a kiss but I did not let him. Another day he tried a second time, this time he was a little more aggresive by insisting it and moving towards it, even though I said no. My "no" was weak so he took it as a yes or maybe. I asked him why is he doing that he said because he wants it but relationships are complicated. So yes besides kissing we went on to further things like when he placed my hand on his penis and his hands we going through my breasts and my vagina. I know I was a fool

and such and idiot. Today I realized that he wants nothing more than sex with me. The worst thing of all is that I alloed him to do that, therefore he has no respect for me now. I feel confused and quite unconfortable. Ok, as a human I have brains too and I know that even though I messed up this time I will not let him do that again. If I have to be rude (since I am sweet and shy) I will be.
The problem is, how will I handle his disrespect to me, and what if he tells his friends (which are mine too!!). Before I was quite respected among my peers as a mature an d a smart person. My reputation will be ruined. How will I handled that. How can I earned it again?

Answer 1

At least you were smart enough to realize your mistake. Take back your respect as a woman. Let him know that unless you both want a relationship, you do not want to get physical. Some men don't want to buy the cow when they can get the milk for free. But you should not and do not have to be treated like this. If you want to be treated like a lady, command it. ;)

RSillas19 said it best: "Don't throw your pearls to swine."

Answer 2

You need to cut him off, guys are famous for this, that why there are so many question here titled, "Why are men dogs or pigs" you know what you need to do, it's all over your question, remove your self from him, you will get your dignity back, don't hold anything back from your friends, tell them what happened most people wont care one bit, Girl find something you can believe in thats bigger than your self, you have so much to offer, Please don't throw your pearls to swine.

God Bless
RS

Answer 3

damm girl thats a rally hard situation. I really dont know. I think that maybe you should tell him how you fee. he wont care but scream it out show him your strong and you dont neeed him. Ignor ehim, hate him, he will miss you and in the end hell realizise he ****** up. its all you now turn the game around. !!!

Answer 4

You've already answered you're own question, silly rabbit.

If he's treating you like dirt, then WHY are YOU even still there?

Answer 5

thank God you were smart enough to figure him out tell him you want nothing to do with him,and if he tells your friends tell them you dump him because he was a lousey lover

Answer 6

Ignore it and rise above it. Refuse to talk about him or anything that happened. If he gossips about you, he'll start to look stupid.

Answer 7

By telling him NO. He is no friend if you ask me.

Answer 8

treat him like a dirt back

Answer 9

JUST GIVE HIM A SLAP I"M A BOY I KNOW HOW GIRLS FEEL WHEN SOME ONE DOES THAT SO...

Answer 10

kick him in the balls as hard as you can and then do it again.