i..m 21 and i..m going to have a baby next year in march but my boyfriend lives in memphis and i live in texas he tells me i should move out there but i..m in college right now and if i move out there i would not be able to go to college. my boyfriend said if i move out there then i wont have to go to school and he will marry me what should i do?? he tells me after i have the baby he will get into a college out there in memphis and his parents will take care of the baby when we go to school what should i do??
2006-11-07 06:22:10 · 29 answers · asked by Alexis H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You said two different things...
my boyfriend said if i move out there then i wont have to go to school and he will marry me what should i do??
he tells me after i have the baby he will get into a college out there in memphis and his parents will take care of the baby when we go to school what should i do??
You said he said NO SCHOOL and then he said PARENTS WILL TAKE CARE OF THE BABY WHEN WE GO TO SCHOOL.
Which is correct? Either way school is most important for your future and your childs. Also as a man, I would think he would make the effort to move to you? Why does he want his pregnant girlfriend moving from state to state why can't he come to you? Go to school where you are at?
You should stay close to your family support to help you with your new child. Boyfriends could come and go but you and your child are forever.
2006-11-07 06:27:49 · answer #1 · answered by www.treasuretrooper.com/186861 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are an adult and now you really need to start thinking like one. First of all, why do you have to move to Mamphis to marry him..Listen, if he was going to marry you, he would have done it when he found out you were carrying his child. Second, You need to finish school so you can have a good start at a career for you and your child. DO NOT start revolving your life around your childs father. He can't make decisions for HIS parents. If you have a wonderful support system where you are don't leave it. Stay there and have a healthy baby, and finish school. See how he acts after the baby is born and if he is willing to wait until you finish school or maybe he could leave everything for you. TAKE CARE OF YOU AND YOUR BABY FIRST!!!! Take care and I'll keep you in my prayers.
2006-11-07 06:44:09 · answer #2 · answered by ga_gyrl91 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are schools in Memphis. Finish up this semester at your current school, then I suggest moving if you want to marry your boyfriend. But for all intensive purposes it doesn't sound like you want to marry him. Marrying because you are pregnant is never a good idea. Had you discussed marriage before finding out you were pregnant? Had thoughts occured to you that you might want to marry him before a baby was in the picture? If not, stay home. Stay near your family and friends. Insist he pay child support and if he wants to be involved in his kid's life, he's gonna have to move. If he's not in college now it isn't as hard for him to move to Texas.
2006-11-07 06:27:29 · answer #3 · answered by bubb1e_gir1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to take some responsibility here. To help you see this more clearly, I'm going to be very blunt with you.
He's a complete idiot. He has no inclination to take responsiblity for his actions...Here's his answers:
YOU MOVE, HIS PARENTS take care of the baby....nothing changes for him? What's he going to do.
How about he packs his bags and moves to Texas, gets a job and finds a nice school, you two live separately, because there's no way a marriage will work out.....He's SELFISH! Chances are he will not provide child support either, so don't count on it.
I know you are very confused and scared to death...
YOU stay right where you are, finish school so you can support yourself and your baby. Be smart, you and your baby come first. I hope you have a family who will support your decisions. Having a baby is tough. If not try to find a good church or like group for support. I wish you all the best.
2006-11-07 06:56:31 · answer #4 · answered by favrd1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can go to school practically any place!!
I'd really consider going to Memphis. It will give you time to get moved, settled in and get ready for the baby. If things don't work, you can always go back to where you came from. That's what's so exciting about life and all the pathes it can lead!!
You can go to school there, once you've had you time off from being a new mom.
Congrats!!!
2006-11-07 06:27:21 · answer #5 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing congrats on the baby. If hes serious about marrying you he needs to meet you half way. If hes not in college now then he should let you stay in texas and he can get a job here.
2006-11-07 06:26:04 · answer #6 · answered by Short and Thick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the sake of providing a stable home for your child, I would tell you to move. You can take some on-line courses before you have the baby and after the baby is born.
2006-11-07 06:25:22 · answer #7 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oops, so you can't abort the child now right? You are nearly4 months old? Have your baby in texas and continue college. You never know how it goes with your bf and you need to be prepared in case you need a job. Your bf seems rather indiferent... He lives far away even though he knows you are pregnant? Why hasn't he asked you to marry him yet? Don't trust him too much...
2006-11-07 06:43:16 · answer #8 · answered by narcissa_bl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well honestly yeah you may be having a baby with him, but he cant make you move so you can get marry, what!!!!! you need to finish collage because in the end it hes not a good father, then you dont want to be stuck depending on him. !!!! he says hes going to go .... u never no he might not go . why doesnt he move where you are hes not succeding in life for your babay you are. If you want to suffer in the end then go move with him. I know you will regret it. i am 17 and i saw mny mom go through that. but in the end follow your heart. just make shure its right,
2006-11-07 06:26:45 · answer #9 · answered by rubikisses muuah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go through your last few years of college, and give the baby to your mom until then. im sure she'd love to take care of the baby for a while, and on weekends you get the baby back. if you are to far awya for that, give the baby to a good friend, but you will have to pay for the expenses.
good luck
2006-11-07 06:26:01 · answer #10 · answered by lester f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋