we have been together for 2 yrs and I always have to ask for affection. He want hug or kiss me on his on, I have to do all of it. It's like he is cold and disstant,and sometimes he will tell me,im always on him. He will always tell me he love's me but, not show it!!!!!!!!!Why???????????
2006-11-07 06:18:46 · 16 answers · asked by Brandi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
cut him lose, he is emotionally unavailable
2006-11-07 06:20:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have a boyfriend like yours but I know people like him. Alot of the answers on here are good but in all honesty he is just a unemotional type of person and to show his feeling towards you is like a chore to him so eventually you will aggravate him to the point where he will leave you. So the smart thing for you to do is get out of this relationship and find you someone who relates to you as you do them or you will always feel one-sided in this relationship or eventually get hurt in the end. I know its hard because 2-yrs is alot of time to put into a relationship but to think 2-yrs in and you are getting nothing out of it. Spend your time on something more meaningful. Sorry Girl but it happens to the best of them. Good Luck.
2006-11-07 14:32:07 · answer #2 · answered by Kendra J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In any relationship there are core factors that need exist in it. Love and affection: You need to be held by someone special who will make u feel like your special to them, we all need that. We all need to be loved because love is a feeling that comes from the core of our heart and soul. We need communication because when 2 people are close they need to be able to talk to each other from each others hearts and not the same BS small talk that goes on in this world.
If you dont have these things in your relationship then the heart will seek it elsewhere.
Girl u need to talk to him and tell him that he isnt giving you what u need to be satisfied from this relationship. Im sure you are doing your best to make him happy, he should do the same in return.
2006-11-07 14:24:46 · answer #3 · answered by virgin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been there! :( And let me tell you, I'm so glad to be free from it now. It honest IS BETTER to be single than in a relationship feeling alone, and having to ask for any affection. Trust me, I know it will hurt at first, but you deserve a guy that will love being with you as much as you love being with him. It won't get better, I've never seen it get better. It's best to leave and let yourself heal and then move one. Best wishes! :)
2006-11-07 14:23:08 · answer #4 · answered by Kendra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes There IS Guys Like That My Ex Was But I Come To Find Out He Was A Cheater
2006-11-07 14:23:07 · answer #5 · answered by SexyMandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is there for you mentally otherwise, he may be simply reserved, maybe he really does love you. People have different ways of showing even intense love.
An otherwise decent guy may be worth staying with. I simply wouldn't marry him until I was sure or a better catch comes along.
"Men (or women) are like buses, wait a bit, and another will come along."
2006-11-07 14:28:08 · answer #6 · answered by Charles-CeeJay_UK_ USA/CheekyLad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe this guy does not know how to express his love for you. Also, maybe in his past relationships he showed so much love to his previous girlfriends that now he is afraid that he might get hurt again. The two of you should talk to see where does yall relationship stands.
2006-11-07 17:56:55 · answer #7 · answered by Sophia B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend would fall into this category, but when I pay attention to all the other things he does for me what I see is that he shows his feelings for me in other ways. He is working on the affection, but he's still not very good at it.
2006-11-07 14:23:08 · answer #8 · answered by downlow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very, very weird - I've never had a boyfriend like that. Maybe he wasn't shown affection as a child, so doesn't know how to give it? Talk to him about it. You need affection in a relationship!
2006-11-07 14:22:19 · answer #9 · answered by Lucia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he's afraid of intimacy. looks like there's not much more he can offer you at that maturity level. so if you want someone affectionate, you either get someone new or wait around for him to change. set a time limit if you decide to wait for him and let him know how important it is to you. i have a friend like this and his girlfriend always felt unloved. they went for counselling but in the end it wasn't enough. she needed more.
decide what you need and make your decision based on that. :)
2006-11-07 14:26:11 · answer #10 · answered by cy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called narciccism (sp?) or abnormal personality disorder. They can't be that way w/people. It's not a healthy relationship. I just got out of one.
2006-11-07 14:23:09 · answer #11 · answered by Vanity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋