What is to do when you feel misunderstood by others?

Question

(no matter close or distant ones, does it matter really?)
i'm looking for personal experience advice or ..........feel free to share....

Answer 1

i used to be in a bad state of mind. i was ignored by my dad, fighting with my mom, getting bad grades, my aunt died and i felt misunderstood by my peers. you know what i did? i cut, tried suicide, drank, did drugs, hung with the wrong people.


DONT do that. i am TOTALLY over all that now. what you need to do is find yourself. i was being someone who i wasn't and that's why people misunderstood me. the people i was hanging out with told me i needed to look a certain way. and theses people helped me do the bad things i did.

if you EVER need anyone to talk to, you can message me and i'll send you my e-mail. k? good. haha.

peace

Answer 2

In most cases, it is logically improbable that you are right and everybody else is wrong. (there are, of course, exceptions.)

Therefore, it is probable that if many people around you interpret your behavior in a similar way, that they are right.

So,... If you feel generally "misunderstood," you're probably in denial about your motivations, or failing to listen to the good advice of others around you.

Don't feel bad, though, this is a pretty common mistake that people make. Just re-evaluate things logically (try to take the emotion out of it) and try to see things their way.

Good luck!

Answer 3

No matter the issue, it is you that is the answer. Are you happy with yourself? If you feel misunderstood by others, sit with them and explain how you feel. It dosen't matter that they understand you just that they have heard you. The rest is up to you. Be happy that you have done your part and be happy w/ yourself.

Answer 4

I spent most of my life feeling like others were incapable of or unwilling to try to understand me. Two things that have helped are 1) a book called Please Understand Me II, by David Keirsey and 2) a book called Feelings Buried Alive Never Die.

The first book helped me to identify some things about myself that I didn't understand, things that I thought were contradictory about myself. It also helped me to understand the difference between someone being different from me and someone being wrong. It eased my heartache about feeling like my dad didn't comprehend what I was all about on many levels. It also helped me to better identify individuals who can and do understand me.

However, just knowing the differences didn't fully help me to accept them. I still wanted to change other people and make them understand me, make them want to understand me as deeply as I wanted to understand them and myself. This was a controlling behavior within myself that at times showed itself outwardly in my relationships and caused undue friction as well as physical discomfort and illness.

Enter book #2. Feelings Buried Alive...speaks about a technique that has greatly helped me to simply be content with who I am whether other people understand, agree with or disagree with me. I've been able to let go of some of my resentment toward others for not understanding me and loneliness.

I hope this helps!

Answer 5

If it's a few people only, then as long as you are doing the next right things don't worry about it. They'll either come around...or they won't and that's on THEM.

Is EVERYONE in your life misunderstanding you--or at least you feel that way? Then it's you. Everyone can't be wrong. You should get some counseling.

Answer 6

I feel that way sometimes, but what helps me is to just forget about what somebody else says, you know? Maybe try to believe in yourself and your importance a little more. Connect spiritually to yourself and know that you are never completely misunderstood.

Answer 7

Strive to be a ready listener. One who is quick to hear, but slow to speak, and slow to getting angry with others.

Make it a persons goal to love and accept a person the way they are.

And as they are talking, do not think on what you want to say as they are talking, Really Listen attentively.

Do your best not to judge a person, as they are speaking to you.

And read the book: "Wherever You Go, There You Are !" By: Jon Kabat-Zinn

It helps a person to understand themselves, and to understand others, and helps people to see things with clarity as they (as things, people, etc) truly are !!

Answer 8

You simply need to work harder to make yourself understood. Be very clear when expressing ideas. Don't make the mistake tho, of expecting people to always accept you. That is not going to happen. Acceptance, and understanding are two different issues.

Answer 9

Just keep being yourself. If people around you don't
understand you then they aren't looking hard enough
at you nor trying to understand you. If you want people to understand you you'll try harder to make
yourself understood. I love being a mystery. It's
fun to see the expressions on faces when I am being
me and no one understands. lol

Answer 10

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