How do I get over losing my sister who died?

Question

Sister was pregnant with twins. 6 weeks before they were due she was put in the hospital to rest. She and the twins died within 12 hours of being admitted.

Answer 1

I cannot imagine you will ever get over it. I would imagine seeing a therapist solely for this purpose would be of great benefit to you.

Answer 2

Oh good god, you poor thing. That is so sad, i really feel for you. I have never lost anyone that close and i can not imagine losing my sister especially if she was pregnant. you know i don't think that is something you can ever get over, and unfortunately the only thing that will ease your pain is time. Time can be your best friend, and in this case make you feel a little better day by day. Praying always helps, but i know in a situation like this one your searching for anwsers and reasons. Just take it day by day and i'm sure you'll find refuge. keep a level head and stay strong for the rest of your family, they need you right now. I wish you the best sweetie.

Answer 3

First of all, my heart goes out to you and your family. I am so sorry for your loss. When God calls, you must be ready to answer. He knows best and trust in him that they are in a better place and they are together. You'll see them again. I am a firm believer in prayer. This is heart wrenching because I have a sister with 3 kids and a baby sister who is 12. I love them both dearly and God would most definately have to see me through this if anything were to happen to them. And he will you. Stay strong and stay positive and keep the faith. Your sister wouldn't want you grieving over her too long now. She's resting at peace with her babies. You take care and again ask God to give you strength so that it doesn't hurt as bad and I promise you he will not let you down. Peace be still....And you're welcome

Answer 4

Hi

First of all let me start off by saying Sorry! Although I don't ever think you could get over it, you would just have to learn to live with it. The best thing you could do for your sister is just be there for those twins that God blessed her with. Time is what you need now to grieve and lots of support from friends and family hoped I helped.

Answer 5

I'm sorry for your loss. I have too lost people very close to me, some very publicly and tragically. Time does not make it go away but it will help. You will again find your smile. Seek counseling if it keeps you from going through every day things. It's only natural to mourn after all. Here is a poem I loved to hear.

Only The Best

A heart of gold stopped beating,
two shining eyes at rest,
God broke our hearts to prove,
He only takes the best.

God knows you had to leave us,
but you did not go alone,
for part of us went with you,
the day He took you home.

To some you are forgotten,
to others just part of the past,
but to us who loved and lost you,
the memory will always last.


Anonymous

Answer 6

So sorry for your loss...I've had a lot to deal with and time does help heal the wounds but you'll never forget them. Try locating a nearby hospice. They might have free grief couseling groups and it helps to talk with others who are experiencing the same. Take it one day at a time and don't try to understand (it will only stress you out and create more unhappiness....life is full of the unexplained. Remember the good times and happy memories of your sister.

Answer 7

You will never completely get over the loss of your precious sister but as time passes the pain will not be so unbearable. My sister died several years ago of brain cancer and sometimes the pain comes flooding back like it just happened, but most of the time I just feel grateful because God blessed me with such a wonderful sister and allowed us to share many wonderful years together. I wish you peace.

Answer 8

OMG I am sooo sorry that you lost your family members!! You have my deepest condolences. I really cant tell you what you should do, as every situation is different, but I lost my mom 4 yrs ago and it took me 3 yrs to go to counseling. I would suggest grief counseling to help you to cope with your loss. You can ask someone at the hospital or your local minister for a referral or check the phone books under counseling. You have my sympathies and best wishes

Answer 9

I lost my brother suddenly to a heart attack two months ago, so I can relate. We were very close and I still wake up thinking about him every morning. It is getting easier, though. I pray a lot and I have lots of reminders of him around my house. I know I will never stop missing him, but I know that I will see him again one day. I try to imagine him reuniting with all of our relatives who have gone before and how happy they must be to see each other again. It's hard...very hard, but I focus on all of the good times we had and try to be grateful for all of the time I had with him.

Answer 10

I'm so sorry, I couldn't even imagine losing my sister to anything, The only thing I can say is go to God in prayer he will make your load lighter and with time you will start to heal. So just pray about it I'm sure it's hard right now but keep your head up and God Bless you

Answer 11

Something Specially
For You

I said a prayer for you today
And know God must have heard-
I felt the answer in my heart
Although He spoke no word!
I didn't ask for wealth or fame
(I knew you wouldn't mind)-
I asked Him to send you treasures
Of a far more lasting kind!
I asked that He'd be near you
At the start of each new day
To grant you health and blessings
And my friendship to share your way
I asked for happiness for you
In all things great and small-
But it was for His loving care
I prayed the most of all.

By: Kenny P. aka-Cobra