secretly want to be a stripper? haha I cant b/c my b/f said he'll break up with me...he even gets mad when I suggest it, so I applied as a cocktail waitress ( my night job, lol), and he still got mad b/c " everyone knows guys hit on the waitresses b/c they cant get with the strippers" is that true? ..
2006-11-07 05:51:03 · 21 answers · asked by RANDI B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
strip for your b/f and leave it at that!!
2006-11-07 05:52:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
What is your motive behind wanting to be a stripper or cocktail waitress? Is it the money or is the attention you get from the men or both?
I am the first to admit it feels good to get attention and compliments from men but you have to have respect for your self. (I am not saying you don't have respect for yourself.)
The attention you get from the kind of men that enjoy that life style is very negative and degrading. There are other ways to make great money without having to lower your standards.
Also with your boyfriend on this situation it is not a control issue, he doesn't want the woman that he loves exposing her body for all these other men to see. How would you HONESTLY feel if the roll was reversed and he wanted to be a stripper or bar tender and have all these drunk woman lusting after him, giving him phone numbers and asking him out. If you love him you would not like that.
I would say if you love him (and yourself) then have respect for the way he feels, consider his feelings. Relationships are 50/50
2006-11-07 14:22:53 · answer #2 · answered by horsecrazy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you secretly want to be a stripper thats a cool fantasy. I wouldnt mind, but my morals are too strong. However...it wouldnt stop me from stripping in the bu'diour!
Now...the part about applying for a cocktail waitress...that might make him think that you just wanna attention from other guys..if just because you couldnt strip you took it as an alternative. Thats saying is not true,if a man wanted to hit on you, he'd do it in a movie theatre, a store, a concert....etc. They dont just flock to restuarant waitresses when the strip club is closed.
Good Luck!
2006-11-07 13:57:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonstar 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I see all these answers about "it's your life, do whatever you want" and I think it's sad. It all comes down to this - do you care about your bf? He has every right to not want you to be a stripper, or a cocktail waitress for that matter. If you care about him at all, respect his wishes. If you don't, why are you with him in the first place?
Just remember this if nothing else - you can choose your actions, but you can't choose the consequences of your actions.
2006-11-07 14:09:58 · answer #4 · answered by someguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have very little care about what your boyfriend feels and the fact you want to be a stripper of ALL things is a sure sign of emotional issues.
Why not go to college and get a legitimate job where men dont use you and then forget about you like a filthy rag?
Why not pursue a rewarding career rather than a career filled with severe drug abuse, alcoholism, sexual abuse, possibly rape and extremely low self esteem?
You were raised without a father correct? or possibly a father who paid no attention to you? if you were sexually abused seek counseling. Trust me stripping is NOT the way to go. You are seeking attention because of something going on in your head get the help to heal and your life will be MUCH better.
Stripping destroys lives emotionally more often then not.
2006-11-07 14:05:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
strippers represent sexyness in a woman and erotic dnacing. You seem liek you want others to notice that you'ree a sexy. beautiful girl and that maybe your BF doesn't appreciate your body and beauty adn you need the attention from other men to tell you you're beautiful and admire you. IT's ok! i went through something liek this but look at it this way- those girls that work in those places like easy money and are extreme flirts. IF you can handle a guy throwing money at you and trying to touch you and tell you that you're a sexy little slut- go for it. I wouldn't be able to handle that without wanting to slap a guy. Plus- if you want to get married in the future- it doens't look good if you tell your soon to be hsuband that you stripped for a living at some point in your life. Think about it because no matter what your man says to you- you're gonna do what you want and you shouldn't feel like you should ask him for permission to do soemthing you want to do but think about it if it's worth you loosing your BF and the respect of your family and friends??
2006-11-07 13:57:25 · answer #6 · answered by Ms.Budonkadonk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's true. If you want to be a stripper, be one. You might not have any boyfriends anymore.. ever, but hey do what you want and live with the decision. Strippers can make good money and alot of girls put themselves through college this way, but usually live a few towns over so there is less chance to be seen by people they know.
2006-11-07 13:55:13 · answer #7 · answered by notfreeinnh 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
yes that is true and yes it is weird if i was ur bf i would break up with you 2 if u became a stripper because its not just dancing involved there are some men who actually get attached and think about if ur bf became an exotic dancer would u want other women getting attached to ur man?
2006-11-07 13:54:59 · answer #8 · answered by gurl_balla14 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's sad that with all the opportunities for women these days, taking their clothes off for money is they best they can do. Whether it's true or not, is that the environment you want to spend your time in?
2006-11-07 13:56:18 · answer #9 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I can understand your bfs feelings on this, I wouldn't want a lot of guys staring at my gf's naked body and I wouldn't want her giving them lap dances.
But if that's what you want, then you need to decide him or stripping and get on with your life
2006-11-07 14:04:57 · answer #10 · answered by anjel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not weird, a lot of woman have that fantasy. I even thought of doin an amature night once.
2006-11-07 14:20:11 · answer #11 · answered by belle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋