how to stop loving a girl ,who i love very much?

Question

i love a girl very much and i was abt to propose her when i came to know that she already has a boyfriend,i want to stop loving her,so i avoid to see her ,but my eyes are always searching to see her and i am not able to get her out of my mind.plz help me out

Answer 1

Ummm, why would you propose to a girl if you werent her boyfriend???? I mean, if you found out she already had a boyfriend! It sounds like more of an infatuation/obsession than love to me. Just try to keep your distance from her, don't call her, find other things to do to keep you busy- only time can heal your heart.

-EA

Answer 2

Look for the "bad" in her and not the good. If you want to take her off the mental pedistal you've put her on, find her faults.
While you long for her, don't stalk.
Remember that "absence makes the heart grow fonder" in many cases. Sometimes avoidance doesn't work and when you Do see her again, it'll all come flooding back.

Ask yourself WHY you think you're in love with her. Why did you want to propose to her?

Maybe it was more lust and attraction than love - and if she has a boyfriend now maybe she wasn't serious about you to begin with if you had a bit of "fooling around" on the side.

Answer 3

I realize you have many answers to this question. You have probably tried most or all of them and they have failed. Unfortunately she was wrong for what she did and maybe she was lacking something you could give her. Either way she is still with her boyfriend and you are left broken-hearted.

It is almost impossible to forget someone that you shared something with. I am going through something similar at the moment and it does not feel too good. Keeping yourself busy by preoccupying yourself with hobbies and work will be a start. Also hanging out or going out with different females can be of help too. It makes you see there are other females out there with better qualities and females you can trust. I am not saying start a relationship but go out and experience new things without hassle.

I hope I did not confuse you anymore than you already are. Good Luck and God Bless!

Answer 4

Well, I would just like to know what dummy told you that you can turn love on and off? You can't do a thing for love but ride it out. You may win or you may get your butt kicked but it makes you stronger in the end and it helps make you the person that you will grow to be! So if you truly feel like you love this person than just be there for her because if it is meant to be you will be there to help her pick up the pieces when everything falls apart! And I know it hurts now but when you love someone you will let them do whatever if it makes them happy! Sometimes it is best if you have that love experience above all else because what doesn't kill you makes you stronger and molds you into the person you grow to become!

Answer 5

You won't, you can't.

And that junk about time healing all wounds or mending broken hearts is a line of guff, too. However, you will notice the feeling lessen over time.

I think you're best bet is not to rush out and try to find someone else. You're likely to start comparing the new person to the old one and will never be satisfied. You may end up jaded.

Try keeping busy. Find something to do. If you don't exercise, now's the time to start. If you do, put more time into it, get that work-out high and feel good again.

Answer 6

Find someone else. Only time will help you get over it.

I once loved and dated the perfect young lady... beautiful, intelligent, funny, easy to talk to, cool to hang with... the whole thing. She had a female roommate. Turns out the female roommate was also her "girlfriend," or lesbian lover... whatever you want to call it. I truly loved this girl, and she said the "roommate" was cool with her seeing me, and accepted her bisexuality. I couldn't deal with it. I was heartbroken, and I was still madly in love with her. In fact, I still love her, and often wonder what she is doing. However, the hurt is gone. I have since gotten married to another wonderful lady, and have two lovely children.

I hope that helps. Heartbreak is part of experiencing life.

Answer 7

Does she know you love her? If things aren't too serious w/ the boyfriend maybe you should sit down & talk w/ her about how you feel. I don't think you should give up loving her unless you know that there is absolutely no way that you two can be together. Just talk to her before you make any final decisions.

Answer 8

hi,
its just immpossible to forget some one whom u love so much ,but love doesnt mean just to posess some one , u told that u loved her but now knowing that she has a boyfriend u dont want to love her and just forget her means u never loved her,so be brave n try to divert ur mind only thinking that she was never yours she never came to u that love me it was ur heart which started loving her without knowing about her heart which is not urs,but if u have a real good heart u will get somthing better cause always remember one thing in ur life all that happens just happens for ur good may be god has selected somthing more better for u
bye

Answer 9

Aww, ok if you have female friends just chill with them but what ever you do dont listen to and love songs, hear break sonns, movies or pictures too you have to distract your self long enough to build up strenght to let go. Even if you still love her there is a wa yto let go.

Good Luck hun

Answer 10

What I have done in the past if get busy. Always look for something to do. Call friends. Go to sporting events, go out and stay busy. It takes time. But staying busy it helps.