I'm only fifteen, but please listen to my story, befor you blast me for being to young
Here goes....I love her, now please dont say I'm crazy until my story is over..
Over the summer, I liked her. we seemed to talk all the time, and flirt like crazy. well she kinda backed off, and I kinda smothered her a little bit...so I gave it a while and asked her how she felt.....she said she didnt like me like that...but... a month later...she emailed me..and told me that she was really sad..cuz our friendship wastn wat it used to be ( we've been friends since age 7).. I told her it was just hard for me to get over her.....but I was working on it..and things got better, and we seem to be good friends again..but theres one problem..I love her....I just cant get over her.... I mean I want her to be happy, and if she is thats great..but, she's a huge flirt, ..and it just kills me to see her with these other guys all the time....
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but a couple of things she has said confuse me. when she said she wants our friendship back....she was talking about me moving on and getting a gf......that if I get rejected ..the reason is probably stupid.....and she also said her reason was probably stupid... but the she goes and flirts with these other guys...and I just dont want her to be a **** or sumthing...that would kill me more than anything..I am afraid to get close to anyone else, becuz I'm afraid that this wiill happen again.....and plus..well idk..i love everything about her..her smile, the way she laughs....everything..I know this isnt just another crush..cuz i have had many of those....and this isnt one of those...is there anything i can do?? please help?
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but way back 6 months ago, she told her friends she mite like me......and then she backed off ..so I know she has even the slightest feelings..and other times..I just kinda get that sense..she has thought about it..i just dont know what to do..I mean she is only 13..so I know her mind is goin crazy.but what should i do
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I mean since weve been friends for so long...we see each other every week...... i mean..i know nothing is gonna happen in the next month..but am i crazy to hope for sumthin in the next year or so?? or however long??
2006-11-07 05:48:02 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How many times are you going to post the same exact question??
2006-11-07 05:49:31 · answer #1 · answered by Lt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. I am just a little bit older than you, but my case was different. But instead of boring you I am going to ask you a few question. Then we might find the problem.
Question
1-How long you know her?
2-How many good friends you hang out with?
3-How many females friend do you talk with?
Answer and why I ask
1-This is to see how well you know her.
2-Which type of people you go out with.
3-How many girls have you since.
Remember, knowing long doesn't mean that you two should date. But it is just a feeling that you should. During 16-18 years old. My list of friends was all guy, with one or two girl every year. Of course, i like them, because they are the only one i knew. Now my entire phone list, beside my boss and co-worker, are all female. I am not a player. It is just that I learn to know what i want from women. Respect and conversation. Love is always good, but some women doesn't want love, they just want to be friends.
Your female friend is also like that right now, she know you for a long time, but she is not sure if it just friendship or something more. Talking with her now doesnt help because she doesn't know. But for you, you can tell her what you feel.
Ask a guy, tell her that you love her and want to be with her. If she cannot decide, tell her that you will respect her decision and just be friends. But you want to let the words come out, that way you will free yourself from the feeling of not saying or knowing. Then meet more ladies and talk. Don't date, just respect and listen. That you get you going.
2006-11-07 06:02:42 · answer #2 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello sweetheart, Give it some time,,,,,,, remember she is only 13 years old. She knows that you are crazy about her and that the other boys are not that crazy about her so it is safe for her to flirt with them because more than likely nothing will come of it. But she knows you are head over heels for you and the flirting will only feed your love for her in your heart. Trust me,,,,,,,,, see other girls in your class and continue being a friend to her. When she gets older then she will know what type of person you are and will feel comfortable with you to start something more serious. But for right now just give it a rest sweetheart and concentrate on schooling. And just once in awhile go out to a movie with a girl from your own class. Good luck.
2006-11-07 06:21:21 · answer #3 · answered by Ann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart please listen,
You need to distance yourself from her and as hard as it may seem you need to not be there every time she needs to pick up the pieces. she is using you for her fall back on guy and being that you both are young she may not even realize that that is what she is doing. she should realize it because you have told her how you feel often. The only real hope you have is to let her hurt for a while and i mean a good while next time and then maybe she will learn to appreciate a good man. it sounds like you are much more mature than she is. Good Luck!!!
2006-11-07 07:06:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A little TMI, but....
Thing is, she already told you she doesnt feel the same. She wants to good friendship she had with you and thats basically it. You can wait until your head explodes but I think its a losing battle. You cant control the way you feel about her so theres no sense in trying. But you can try to move on and get a life on your own. It isnt up to you to please her or make her happy since she doenst want you in that way. She may actually enjoy the fact that you pine for her, but your wasting your time.
2006-11-07 05:55:45 · answer #5 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
here my advice to you if you want to keep this friendship last the solution starting by meting other girl lol being there friendship who know you may found someone better and again girl are the hardest thing to figure out but for now your friend dont like you like in love she does want to be your friend if you want to continue being her friend and even get a shot with her does wait lol being there for her lol no matter but lol my advice for you is to stay alway from her for a least 3 week does so you can close your mind and think do you want to your friendship because of this but when you get older and her if you found out that she not the only girl in the world start by going out with a different girl and starting hanging out with your boys if you dont have want start being a friend with them man a true friend is to be there for them not getting in love lol, you may not understand but you will soon really if you have any goood friend starting hang out with them Alright HOPE THIS HELP HAVE A WONDERFUL TIME THINKING OK YOU ARE YOUNG THEIR A LOT OF GIRL STILL WAITING FOR YOU
2006-11-07 06:08:22 · answer #6 · answered by mike2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok for one that was a really long story. But stop being so close minded that is a great idea maybe if you get a gf she will becaome jealouse after she sees you with another girl, shell wonder what could of been. so go ahead and try.
2006-11-07 05:52:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have to give up your friendship entirely if you feel this way. You can't move on from her. Sometimes friendships end and its sad but you want more than she does and you're going to hurt all the time.
2006-11-07 05:52:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't base your happiness on others. If you do, that is codependence. You won't be free, you'll be a puppet.
You need her to be happy. Is that true? Might there be times when you're happy and not even thinking about her?
Question your thoughts, and you'll see they're the chains binding you.
Check out this book; I NEED YOUR LOVE, IS THAT TRUE? by Byron Katie.
2006-11-07 05:52:14 · answer #9 · answered by Joy_Brigade 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your right you are way to young and obviously you are in a very strong like your to young to be in love and trust me it's the friendship that she is missing i know it hurts. but let it go and find a gf and trust me in time she will be like a distant memory but i would try and salvage the friendship considering you have been friends for a very long time and remember y'all are teenagers not adults she has the right to see other guys as well as you with girls lol
2006-11-07 05:59:12 · answer #10 · answered by sexyswells42 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that was long... first let me say you're way too young for this... you should be having fun. and this girl who you know since you're 7 is not inlove with you... obviously, she just wants you to be her friend. cause if she does like you expressing her feelings is not a problem with her. so, wake up and smell the coffee! find someone who'll love you back.
2006-11-07 05:55:43 · answer #11 · answered by wingless angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋