What time should i work after giving birth?

Question

I have to go back to work 6 weeks after i give birth and Im not sure what to do about my schedule, me and my husband can choose what shift we want to work but I dont know what will work for us if me working in the morning or him, We dont want to hire a nanny or send te baby to a daycare and I want to keep working, Im very independent and always looking towards the future so I want my job and save as much money as I can, I stopped working in my first trimester and i miss it. This is our first baby and I want to be home when the baby needs me the most of course that will be always but I need the advise of people that have done this or what system worked for you and your partner if you both worked and didnt need a nanny. I can work anytime from 4am to 10pm and choose how many hours to work, i plan to worn no more than 6 hous a day, my husband can work day or night

W both have weekends off and the reason i only have six weeks is i left work on my second moth because I was at high risk, however i do plan on asking for more time after i give birth maybe 3 more moths. Its very nonsense saying why bother to have kids if I wont stay home and raise them! Im working part time not even 5 days a weeks, that will not make me a horrible mother, im not the first or last to do it

Answer 1

i would really recomend working nights. i have 2 kids and i work at night. i love it. i can spend all day with them and take my daughter to pre k.

Answer 2

I know that you sd you dont want a nanny, but it may not be such a bad idea to consider one! Even on a part-time basis! Perhaps just 3-4 days a week, because you don't want to create a situation where you and your husband NEVER see eachother, or you only see eachother in passing. If one of you is working evenings while the other is sleep at home, then when it is time for the other to work, then how is the other going to get rest AND give the baby their undivided attn? How/when are you going to sleep? Who is going to watch the baby while you are resting? Are you going to sleep when you reach work? How are you going to give an effective performance at work if you are tired from lack of sleep? There is nothing wrong with admitting that a little help is needed. And a nanny may not be such a bad idea. She doesn't need to livw w/ the family , but she will be helpful in allowing you and your husband to get "us" time such as sitting down and having a meal at a resteraunt, going to a movie, visiting a friend, you need this every once in a while. Don't deny yourselves just because there is an addition to the family! -Janet

Answer 3

Seriously consider the impact this arrangement with have on your marriage.
If you want to have a strong, healthy marriage and a well adjusted child why not stop working until your child is school age? You'll have the time for your husband and your child in addition to not feeling guilty for getting away with your friends every now and then.
It doesn't make you less independent or important to do the best job in the world FULL TIME. Moms are important to children no matter what anyone says :) And wives are important to husbands as well. Build a strong family foundation and you will never regret it.

Answer 4

I don't mean to be disrespectful, but 6 weeks is too early to be going back to work. Like you said, baby needs you always. You know, your children are only young once, why bother having them if you're not willing to stay home and raise them. It's one thing if you can't afford to stay home, but that's not what you said, you said you want to go back to work that soon. So, you're putting your own desires ahead of your babies needs. I think you should at least stay home until baby is 6 months. That being said, as far as scheduling, I would suggest 1-5 pm, so that you are gone mostly during baby's afternoon naptime.

But like I said, I think you need to re-evaluate your priorities!

Answer 5

When our first was born, I was at home all day with him. His dad met us at my work and took him home. I worked from approx 5:30 to 10:30 p.m. usually 4-6 days per week. (So usually 12 to 35 hours per week, depending what was happening at work at the time.) When the baby wasn't with me, he was with his dad. The few times we had work conflicts, he would go to his Grandma or his Aunt or Uncle for a couple of hours until one of us could go pick him up.

Answer 6

Both you and your husband are lucky because most jobs are not considerate enough to work with their employees schedule so take advantage of it. Since you don't want to hire outside one of you guys have to work at night.

Answer 7

that's entirely up to you. you may want to work days at first, and have your husband stay homewith the babybecause babies usually sleep a lot during the day, and not so much at night. after a while though, you may want to switch.