im outraged!!! the elderly of today?

Question

are on the whole nice and kind! but today TODAY i have been most offended! heres the sitch.
i was on the bus when a whole heap of people got on at one stop and the last on one was an old lady 65+.before she sat down the bus had to stop suddenly and she went flying! nobody got up to help apart from me. i let her get her barings, helped her up and gave her my seat and made sure she was alright. what annoys me is that i never got a word of thanks! it wasnt that she was too shaken up to speak as she carried on to some other old lady about the incident! grrr im so angry though i helped her up and made sure she was alright and no thanks!!! who else has had a similar experience?

Answer 1

Well girlfriend, I had the totally opposite experience. I am a senior, 65 this year. I look 50, am 5'4" ll5 lbs, and very psyically fit. Ride,swim,camp,travel,etc. So here's what happended to me on the bus, and (thank God, i don't have to ride it too often). ps: I live in Toronto, Ontario, Canada, on a very busy bus route. Here's my experience: It's 8 or so in the morning, I have a large pkg with me and my almost large purse. I enter the bus, and ALL the "senior and disabled" reserved seats are taken. And by WHO, students on their way to High School,College,whatever. The bus is full, its a long way to the back, which I look and it's full. I look down at the students, and ask them if the can "READ", they look astonished - and then I TELL them to get out of the seats, that's why my taxes are paying for their schooling, to LEARN to READ... So darlin' girl, where you sitting in the seats reserved for the elderly? If not, giving of oneself is called "compassion" and God doesn't give it to everyone. I still give my seat UP for a pregnant woman or a person who needs it more then me. Never look for a thank-you - the Blessings you receive on this earth will come to you, because for Every Action there is a Reaction, and little act of "compassion" will be Rewarded, in ways that will amaze you. Good Girl, and to All who answered, as I read them, I am so Proud of all of You - I have raised my children to be Just Like You. Tell your parents - they have done a great job. You WILL have a good life.

Answer 2

I'm not excusing the ladies lack of manners, she should have been grateful But consider that she may have been embarrassed, or hurt, or in shock. Maybe her mental status was already a little foggy.. And she may have been frightened, there are people out there who would take advantage of a the situation, and try to steal something from her.. Some older people do not want any help, they think accepting help is giving up a little piece of their independence.
And what was the bus driver doing during this time? He should have been checking on her, and I might have said something to him, like, hey, do you know there is a woman on the floor back here? She fell when you jammed on the brakes back there. Oh, boy, lawsuit in the making for the bus company!
I have not had a similar experience, I find older people to have more manners than younger. Next time, wait a little bit, or if your stop is before hers, ask, are you sure you are all right? If that does not bring a thank you, you would be right, mean old lady.

Answer 3

No I haven't had that.
When I saw an elderly lady had fallen down on the pavement, when I was on a cycle, I helped her, and she heaped praise, and appreciation onto me.

But don't be angry, you did the right thing, not because you wanted a reward, but because you wanted to help someone.
The fact that she was okay, and talking to someone else, shows that you did a worthy thing.

When you asked her if she was okay, did she just say 'yes' or 'yes thank you.'? If the latter the 'thank you' could have been for more than you asking if she was okay.

Good deeds sometimes get done without a show of appreciation, it doesn't devalue the deed, in fact in some ways it increases the value. Parents often work hard for their children often being taken for granted, the fact they keep at it doesn't make the work less valued, but occasional displays of appreciation makes it all worthwhile.

Thank you for helping her, I hope if you see her fall again, you will still be strong enough to help her again.

If she didn't appreciate it, a lot of people do.

Answer 4

I do sympathise with you! But I do not think its an age thing, and it would be wrong to generalise on this. But I do agree, there are some terribly ill mannered people about these days!

I have lost count of the times I have stepped back or held a door open, without so much as an acknowledgement.
Having been brought up correctly, I try to do the same with my children and grandchildren, but sometimes wonder why I should bother. Sadly.

But every now and again a door is held open for me, and the world suddenly becomes a much nicer place!!!

So good on you!

Answer 5

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Answer 6

Well, you get the gold star for good behaviour. The elderly are just people. Some are nice, some are not. Some are really rude, others are very thoughtful. Just like teenagers, actually. You got a bad one, but you did the right thing, so give yourself a pat on the back. And I'll say thank you on her behalf.

Answer 7

Looking at it from another angle though someone from work came in the other day and said that she was on the bus on the way to work and some old lady with a walking stick got on and there were no seats not one person offered her their seat.

I think it is a case of young and old having no respect for each other now

Answer 8

Well yeah thats how a lot of people are today. They beleive you're like the kids who teepeed her house, so why be nice to you...? I know where you are coming from, but don't worry about it. The only thing that matters is that you did it. I'm sure some people saw you and were really heartwarmed and guilty they didn't help, but if you put them off by acting all pouty you haven't accomplished anything.

Answer 9

You did the right thing, take that as comfort enough. Not saying thank you will bite her in the *** someday as she'll grow very lonely someday when no one wants to make an effort for her. Keeping in mind, it is possible she was shaken up, older folks are much more sensitive to falls etc and she may have just not been herself for a few minutes.

Answer 10

You did a good thing. Its to bad you did it to a very bitter old woman. She was probably embarressed and bitter that her crippled old body doesnt allow her to function as she used to. She mabye feels weak and embarresed and resentful even though you were very helpful. I am kind to a lot of elderly people and 90 percent of the time when I hold the door open extra long for or help them out or pick things up when they drop them I get a very nice thank you. But some old people are just as nasty as crap because they are miserable. Dont stop helping them because alot of them are very kind. Some of them are rotten but dont feel bad..they arent as plenty as the nice ones.