Here is the situation. Me and my friend knew each other for about 15 years. We always talked and hung out. One day he found a girlfriend and basically stopped talking to me. He doesn't answer his e-mail and doesn't pick up his phone. Why do you think this is? Was this his plan all along or is his girlfriend to blame?
2006-11-07 05:41:52 · 12 answers · asked by psuman2100 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Here is the situation. Me and my friend knew each other for about 15 years. We always talked and hung out. One day he found a girlfriend and basically stopped talking to me. He doesn't answer his e-mail and doesn't pick up his phone. We are both in are mid-20's and work full time. I don't expect him and I to hang out every week but maybe once every 3 months could be reasonable!
Why do you think this is? Was this his plan all along or is his girlfriend to blame?
2006-11-07 05:55:08 · update #1
Crack. Thats the sound of the P whip.
2006-11-07 06:05:08 · answer #1 · answered by FF Geek 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, you "should not" be taking this personally. Which you are doing.
It is very common, when someone starts dating that, all their time is consumed, by that new date. It could go on for years.
You're friend does not know how to put it into words, that at this time in his life, he can't find the time to spend with you, because he is completely involved with the girlfriend and does not have time for you right now.
The ball is in your court.
Email him, and tell him that you understand that his time is occupied right now, and may be for a long time.
Let him know that as your friend of 15yrs. that you except that the time you both had together, will once again be filled in the future when he is married to this girl. (wink, wink). And the kids are dragging him out of bed on a Saturday morning to go to the park. ( Tell him you will bring the coffee's to the park).
Just be his friend. He may be in love. And if you can't handle this separation from him now, then what will you do when he gets married, and his time is pretty much committed to his family.
This is a transition for you, to decide whether you are his true friend or not. Is he worth even some time spent in the future, then no time spent as a friend. Don't be greedy. Share him with others. That is a true friendship....not having him all to yourself.
2006-11-07 06:07:27 · answer #2 · answered by sweetcitywoman2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure it wasn't on purpose, but friends get caught up in relationships. Either she's the first REAL Girlfriend he has had in a while or she's dam selfish with his time. But Get to the bottom of it and visit him. Its usually the Girl syndrome: where the guy closes everyone off for the girl. Just to make her every desire come true. It only last for up to 6months to a year. Then it wages off, but if he's your very best friend this shouldn't matter. Get your butt out there and visit him. Make sure he's surviving! lol...
2006-11-07 05:49:47 · answer #3 · answered by deadgrl6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was the wrong move. Threats are bad in all relationships and yes that is what you gave her, a threat to break up with her. You should have asked her why do you want me to stop talking to my best friend. I have done this before to my husband who was my fiance at the time. BUT I HAD A GOOD REASON. Listen to my reason and maybe you can understand why you should have asked her why. I started dating my husband and than we got engaged. He was friends with this girl who we will name Amy (I'm going to protect her identity) before I even met my hubby, we will call him Brian. Amy was dating Brian's best friend who we will call Sam. That is how they met and became friends. Amy and Sam broke up and got back together a lot. Their relationship was disfunctional. When they broke up for the last time Brian found out from Sam that Amy had done something horrible that Brian didn't approve of so they stopped talking. Than Brian met me, we started dating, got pregnant, had a baby and than got engaged. Amy found Brian on facebook and they started talking again and he found out Sam had lied to him. So he apologized to Amy and they started being friends again. He hung out with her and eventually brought her over to meet me and our daughter. No more than 2 weeks later he tells me he is leaving me. He also tells me he likes Amy and because she is only 17 and he is getting ready to go into bootcamp for marines, they are going to wait 2 years to start dating. (Sam started dating her when she was 15 and he was 19). He didn't want to ruin his career in the marines before it had started by dating a 17 year old when he was 21 and she didn't want to make her mom mad by dating a much older guy when she was underage. Long story short, he went to bootcamp a week later and realized he was an idiot and wanted me. We got married shortly after he got out of bootcamp. He wanted to stay Amy's friend and they were doing really good with it for a few months but I couldn't take it anymore and I told him it had to end. Your gf may have a reason and it may be good. If your best friend is a guy, maybe he said horrible things about you behind your back or about her, maybe he hit on her, etc. If it's a girl, maybe she has been hiting on you and you don't notice, maybe your gf found out she likes you, maybe she hates your gf, etc. You really need to talk to your gf and ask her why. If she doesn't have a reason why, tell her I can't get rid of my best friend unless you can give me a good reason.
2016-05-22 07:56:19 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be a series of a few things, maybe he is busy getting to know his new love. This happens in new relationships. Have you met her? Maybe she isn't real comfortable around you and feels like he needs to choose one or the other.
One more possibility is, maybe he is upset with you and you just don't know what about. I would just keep trying to contact him. Good luck.
2006-11-07 05:47:07 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle Lynn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u r not the 1st 1
i helped a frnd get a date n then helped ger make her his gf
n after that he forgot me
its an old sayin "he forgot his best frnd for a grl
2006-11-07 05:46:06 · answer #6 · answered by Angad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is basically taking up all of his time. It could also be possible that she feels that you occupied too much of his time and told him to let you go. Its up to him to stand up for himself and your friendship.
2006-11-07 05:45:57 · answer #7 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is spellbound by the passion of the moment. When it passes, he will come back alright!
2006-11-07 05:44:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey go to blockbuster and rent the movie: BROWN SUGAR... then u decide.
2006-11-07 05:53:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wants to give all his time to her/or maybe she is asking him to not see anybody of his friends
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2006-11-07 05:47:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋