Any one out that suffers from depression is there any way to help my husband understand what I'm going through and that I don't to do the things I do and say.
2006-11-07 05:41:23 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Have done so but recovered from it. One really good help was my reading inspirational books, some which brought me a greater understanding of myself and of what was happening to me and why and some which completely changed me. Best one was "The Game of Life and How to Play It" by Florence Scovel Shinn. It's an older book but you can still get it. Many people have been helped by this wonderful book. When you change, all your
relationships with others will automatically change for the better.
2006-11-07 06:00:41 · answer #1 · answered by Mukunda M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to read up on 'clinical depression' and explain to him that it isn't the same as the general public's idea of 'being depressed' meaning 'just feeling sad'. One common misconception is that you have to be sad 'about something'. Sometimes it comes on for no reason at all. It isn't triggered by a specific event.
Here's a link to the Mayo Clinic pages on depression. Its also a good idea to buy a short book on the subject. There are plenty on the Amazon bookshop site. A good book can explain about temporary manic episodes, depressive episodes, odd behavior and how to support you through it. You need to cut him some slack. Without being told what to do by a book or website or health-professional, you can't expect him to deal perfectly with a new and complex situation. Tell him what you want or need. Don't expect him to just know.
It might help if you just ask him to listen while you explain in your own words what its like to suffer from depression.
Remember not to make any major decisions while depressed and don't do anything that might damage your reputation. Things will get back to normal with time, even if you don't believe it right now.
2006-11-07 13:52:41 · answer #2 · answered by ricochet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have suffered from depression for over 10 years. It's very hard for other people to understand what your going through unless they have been their themselves. Your husband loves you or he would not be with you. You and your husband need to go to some classes together that will help him understand why you do and say the things you do. Good luck to the both of you.
2006-11-07 14:24:50 · answer #3 · answered by heartyangel98 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel depress most of the time--- most of the time this makes your partner feel uncomfortable .. my wife never feels that way or she never wanted me to feel that she is disturbed or what, she supports me in every-way she can and it a big help, there are times that my depression affects my work and how I relate to family members but she keeps on reminding me the IDEAL me, I did never visited a doctor but I read and really tried my best to understand the cause of what I feel, it really came from stress and I worry so much on little things.... now I work out to release stress and keep living one day at a time.
I hope that you can live with it -- and your partner will understand and let you feel that you are not alone ---
2006-11-07 14:04:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have gone through depression and waht help me get through it was talking about what I was going through to really good friends and family that understood what I was going through. I was also on meds but just being able to get my feels out and what I was thinking helped a ton.
Plus when I was going through it I met my fiance and he help turn everything around. After about 5 months with him, I got off the meds and now I still have the days where I don't feel right but I have learned to deal with what is going on instead of letting it build up.
2006-11-07 13:53:06 · answer #5 · answered by Butterfly Kisses 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As bad as it sounds, if your husband has never been in a depression he will never fully understand.
The best thing you can tell him is to have more patience with you and to never stop being supportive.
There are many groups that you can join and my suggestion would be to have him come along with you.
If he doesn't want to go to a group, maybe record the sessions and let him listen to it.
Hope this helps and don't forget that you're beautiful.
2006-11-07 13:54:05 · answer #6 · answered by Minouners 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I finally realized that my behavior was hurting my family and friends, so I broke down and went to the doctor. I'm on meds now, and I feel great mentally. My family has noticed a big change, and there's no need to tell them what I'm going through because I'm not going through it anymore. Go see a doctor; you'll be surprised how much meds can help.
2006-11-07 13:44:38 · answer #7 · answered by Amigurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. There is a depressin group in yahoo that I belong to and there you can bounce off one another and talk to others dealing with the same thing. Hope to see you there.
This isn't a solicitation I'm trying to help. It's a free yahoo group. I don't think you can resolve these feelings in Q & A
http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/depression-anxiety/
2006-11-07 13:46:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have depression also and I know of the problem you are having. Talk to your Dr. explain the problem to him then have your mate sit down with the Dr. and have the facts explained to him by some one with all the info. and facts. I Helped my wife understand what was happen with me.
Good luck, I hope this helps
2006-11-07 13:55:04 · answer #9 · answered by norsmen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure he wants to understand or is he being selfish? A man who is inconvenienced by what you are experiencing doesn't deserve an explanation. He knows, it's just not convenient for him to understand. I know it must get on your last, tattered nerve!!
Take care of yourself and let the baby take care of himself.
2006-11-07 13:52:26 · answer #10 · answered by summersailing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋