we've been best friends for over 4 years. she was going to move to california from australia to live with me. but now shes kinda dating a guy she kinda likes, and i realize i can't be just a friend to her. i love her. i always have. i told her last night... i can't stand on the sidelines and watch her date another guy, especialy when she can't even think of any reason whatsoever that she wont date me.
i dont know what to do. i'll keep living, i'll keepworking... but i just have to stop hurting.
2006-11-07 05:40:17 · 5 answers · asked by Arklan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
to those saying i need to find out how she feels... she loves me. she's told me so herself many times. she could see her self marrying me, if shewere forced to marry, as she put it.
she herself admits our relationship is almost indentical to anything she's shared with anyone she's dated. she considers what we have to be incredibly special.
but she can't date me. she can't even define why that is. "something just wouldnt be right" in her head, she said.
and i can't just be friends with her... i know that now.
and... truth be told... i'd do anything to win her. you suggested flowers? i had a custom pendant made for her... a black pearl with white gold on a leather cord. looks amazing on her.
how can she love me, want to live with me, be willing to marry me, live a life by my side... but doesnt think of dating me?
2006-11-07 06:01:06 · update #1
If you have already told her how you feel and she just may not be interested in you like that, you have to accept that. You need to make a choice if you can be friends with her and nothing more or not and stick by it- however, my recommendation is that if you feel this strongly for her, maybe you should try and do some things to try and win her over? Buy her a bouquet of flowers? Write her poetry? If you love her and its meant to be, be patient and she may eventually realize she has feelings for you too.
-EA
2006-11-07 05:44:04 · answer #1 · answered by Earthy Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you even WANT to get over her? if you love her, you may never stop loving her. and you even told her that you love her, and she still won't date you? i'm sorry... it kind of sounds like she's playing with your feelings a bit. ask her how she feels about you. get the honest truth on how she feels and then maybe you can decide how to live your life from then on. if there is a possibility of a relationship between you two, then wait to do anything drastic on your own. if she is just playing with your emotions then i would say to get a new girl. good luck!
2006-11-07 13:45:40 · answer #2 · answered by kendra w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my friend is going through the exact same thing, she is the girl in the situation and she doesnt know waht to do. im also friends with the guy (you) and you just need to keep talking to her and be friends with her, i think eventually she will realize how much you do in her life and will once again be with you in your town,
2006-11-07 13:43:59 · answer #3 · answered by sillywilly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it time, booze and a warm body at night.
2006-11-07 13:44:37 · answer #4 · answered by Asia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand exactly how you feel
2006-11-07 13:42:38 · answer #5 · answered by SHE HATE ME 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋