the last time my oldest two children came down from michigan; It turned out to be a real argument. They think that i should drop my job, my children 6&9, my relationship, 19 and a 15 yr old fighting for all the attention.HELP!!!!!!!!!!!! ANY GOOD ADVICE?
2006-11-07 05:24:22 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
They live in michigan with their dad. I ended up leaving because the father of the 2 made my life a living hell. I had custody and we were up for reveiw. He decided he wanted to take custody.Instead of paying child support well due. I had raised my children for 8 yrs before he did this. Went thru 6 yrs. of counseling to help me mentally both thru the divorce and separation of my children. He works for the government. Any ways can someone please give me some good advice?
2006-11-07 05:49:13 · update #1
That's a hard question but I think that it is time for you to take a family vacation. Take your 6 and 9 year old kids with you along with your boyfriend or husband and just go to Michigan. While you are in Michigan spend time with(younger kids, older kids, and husband or boyfriend) everyone. Do family activities like shopping, eating out, and just have a good time. Also talk to your 2 older kids and let them know that you are just one person and you can't do everything at once. Let them know that they are getting older and that they need to start acting like it.
2006-11-07 05:38:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have heard of Teen-agers fighting but not for complete attention. over younger children. They have to start getting their lives adjusted. The 19 yr old she be out working and getting her life on track and stop acting like a 3 year old. The 15 yr old should be concerned about her life, school, grades and what she is going to do after school. She should also be helping you with the younger children and stop acting like her 19 yr old sister { a 3 year old}
I worked and supported 4 kids after my husband died, my kids where from 1, 4,7,9. I managed and they got a lot of attention when I was home. 2 are Lawyers, 1 a Reg.Nurse and my son is a Contractor. They all have families of their own now and live in Calif.
Tell your kids in plain English to start growing up and quit fighting all the time. No speaking to you is a sign of immaturity. If she is the 19 year old through her out and tell her to get a life....Sounds like she could use one....
2006-11-07 05:48:41 · answer #2 · answered by Angell 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, so im not sure i get what your asking. Correct me if im wrong, but your saying that your 15 year old and 19 year old are fighting for your attention and expect you to ignore your job and your other two children. Well teenagers normally fight for the spotlight. you could try setting aside time to spend with each child individually and make sure you set aside the same amount of time for each child. Do not let any of the others inturupt your time set aside. (try going somewhere outside the house, like a park for the younger children, or a mall for the older ones).
Hope i helped, but they're teenagers, its gonna happen.
2006-11-07 05:31:45 · answer #3 · answered by guitar814girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not knowing the whole story this is a tough do they expect you to totally cut ties with your little ones? And if so ask them how they would feel at that age if you had just up and abandoned them? which is not speaking to you? with limited info all I can say is ...just keep loving them and keep the lines of communication open don't give up...maybe they will come around Good luck and god bless
2006-11-07 05:34:08 · answer #4 · answered by Janet F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is sad i would try to get then back if i were you they will hate it .
2006-11-07 06:37:18 · answer #5 · answered by o0jas is the name0o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋