Hello. I have been in a car accident have been unable to work for about two months. So, my boyfriend says it's okay for me to not work, because he can cover things until I get back on my feet so to speak. I feel bad about not working, so I've been looking for a job.
However, I found out that he didn't pay the power bill and I payed the money off with my credit card. It's not that I mind paying it or helping, it's that he didn't even open it.
He's a grown man, in his thirties. Should I be mad about this, or am I making a big deal?
2006-11-07 05:23:30 · 24 answers · asked by evie e 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We had a notice on the bill that said it would cut it off by today and that it wasn't paid.
2006-11-07 05:25:58 · update #1
Oh, I'm not pissed like I'm going to start yelling or anything, just a bit annoyed.
2006-11-07 05:31:56 · update #2
1st, find out if it was deliberate on his part. either way, just ask him why. let him know that if it was deliberate and he just didn't want to pay it, you would have appreciated being let in on the situation so you could help deal with it.
just talk it out. don't let any anger fester on it. life is so much bigger than that.
2006-11-07 05:26:04 · answer #1 · answered by smartkid37138 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello, I would not be mad or angry but i would definitly feel concerned! Sit down with him and ask him if he has the power bill and if he says "yes" (could be the reason why the second notice was not opened) and ask him how much it is for. Then tell him you got the second notice in the mail and that you payed for it by using your credit card. And then pop the big question "Are you sure you can support the both of us while i am out for 2 - 3 months?" Tell him you are very concerned. I know this is easier said then done. Good luck.
2006-11-07 05:39:44 · answer #2 · answered by Ann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be a bit angry for that. He should have at least told you about it so that it didn't get charged a higher fine for a late payment. If he said he would take care of everything then he needs to come through on that. You said you didn't mind paying so the issue of the bill isn't that you had to pay it, its that he didn't bother to tell you about it and that could have been a potentially bigger problem.
If you decide to bring it up to him, don't put it all on him or he'll get defensive and it'll become a bigger issue than you want it to. Remember that you've already said it wasn't a problem for you to pay it off with your credit card, you were just bothered that he didn't open the bill and it was important.
2006-11-07 05:29:29 · answer #3 · answered by irishgypsy88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you shouldn't feel guilty about not working, its what the doctor said to do, or at least I assume so. And you're right, he's a grown man and he should be able to pay a power bill. From your description, it makes it sound as if you live at two different locations, if this is true, he could be busy trying to keep paying his bills along with yours. So, depending on whether you live together or at two diffrent locations, I'd talk to him about it.
2006-11-07 05:29:55 · answer #4 · answered by Sam-Wise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is paying all the bills while you are not working or bringing in any income I'm sure one is going to slide by him. Maybe he forgot it. For you to be mad , I don't think its right. If anything you could of kept a log when all the bills were due and remind him which ones to pay and by when.
2006-11-07 05:28:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be upset that your are hurt and trying to hide things from you so you do not worry. Maybe he does not have the money but he just wants you to get well and not bother about the household problems. Sit him down and talk with him about the bills.
I think you should not be angry or upset but you two should get the issues resolved. He sounds like a nice guy who is over his head.
2006-11-07 05:27:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its ok for you to be concerned, however I really don't think its anything for you to be mad about, he is taking on quite a bit more responsibilty so that you can stay home because of your unfortunate injury. Maybe he got overwhelmed withthe extra responsiblities to carry on.
I just think you should say that you noticed the overdue bill and you were concerned if he is still able to carry the extra financial load while you are out of work.
2006-11-07 05:31:40 · answer #7 · answered by Thandie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think its wrong for you to be angry.
If he's suppose to be taking care of the bills, he should be opening them and paying them on time. What would have happened if you hadn't seen the notice? You wouldn't have anything. No heat, no electricity. The company doesn't care, they would have shut it off. You did the right thing, and you have every right to be upset that he's not being responsible.
2006-11-07 05:32:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok for you to be concerned about the fact that the bill was not payed, but if he is taking care of other things and trying to make things work then you should let it go. It's not worth the extra headaches. Maybe you can help him to organize the bills and to make sure he knows what dates things are due by.
2006-11-07 05:26:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
your boyfriend need to know about this so that he might not repeat the same mistake again, but try to be calm and you know gentle. Guys dont like to be shout at, for many reasons such as demotivated, upset, self-esteem and etc, so eventhough you are right and he made mistake go slow and soft if you want the relationship to work well.
Anger is not a solution its a expression, then might result retaliation and etc, so try not to be angry chill
2006-11-07 05:31:30 · answer #10 · answered by jeff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't 'go off' on him. It may have been a simple mistake and he just forgot about the bill. Bring it up gently and let him know you went ahead and paid it with your credit card.
2006-11-07 05:27:58 · answer #11 · answered by TJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋