when you just say..."No thanks, i'd rather not do that"...and the person just ignores you and says.."we'll do that anyway"..what is wrong with that person??? i just said no....DO I NEED TO SAY IT FIRMER OR what is the problem??? i cannot figure it out!!!
2006-11-07 05:22:36 · 13 answers · asked by sweet 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If someone does that to you, do not stay. The word "no" has no other definition than "STOP" and if they don't listen, they never will.
2006-11-07 05:24:40 · answer #1 · answered by irishgypsy88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I assume you're having issues with someone you've dated...no means no (some people ignore that however)...
Perhaps you should ask them why they want to do 'that' anyway, after you just stated you did not want to...don't let 'em off the hook and bring it up right then...see if you get an answer that make sense...or you can tell them you'll be going home now and they can enjoy 'that' on their own.
2006-11-07 13:26:23 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a boundary issue. They don't respect your boundaries. When you say "no" ... they are trying to assert their will over you by forcing you to do what they want. Unfortunately, this is their issue ... not yours.
The only way to fix it is to learn to stand up for yourself and say, "I SAID NO." Tough if you don't like conflict ... I understand. But at some point, you've got to do it ... or they'll keep pushing and pushing until you wind up avoiding them all together.
2006-11-07 13:28:29 · answer #3 · answered by Bonny K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your needs are nowhere near as important as their needs.
You can say it firmer, louder, flashing neon signs, sky writing, whatnot. If they ignore it, it means nothing
2006-11-07 13:24:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure what you are refering to by this particular wish. Some people are more controlling than others. No matter what your wish is the people around you need to respect it. If they do not then you need to surround yourself with new people.
2006-11-07 13:24:36 · answer #5 · answered by UT FAN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see the problem with some of the younger ones. They either forget, or they are trying to feel their limits. At least, that is the way for me.
2006-11-07 13:24:53 · answer #6 · answered by Tet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on whom this person is, you might want to think about your relationship with them. Evidently, they don't respect you. If it is someone at work, you just have to stay firm in your decision
2006-11-07 13:26:36 · answer #7 · answered by mich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they think the world revolves around them. Myself, I would let the "b&^ch" come out and let them know that I meant NO. When I say No thanks...it means no! And if you can't respect that from me, then watch out!!
2006-11-07 13:25:48 · answer #8 · answered by lpellerin5 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say no firmer and stick with it.
2006-11-07 13:24:22 · answer #9 · answered by Asia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate that...I think it's no respect for you .Say it firmly after the first time.
2006-11-07 13:26:49 · answer #10 · answered by martha g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋