For Those People 21 And Older Only Please?

Question

When you're involved in a relationship, do you have expecations about your relationship growing and maturing into something more? For instance, do you think about marriage, co-habitation, children, etc. Or, is the relationship purely for fun? I guess what i'm basically trying to ask is, what do you expect to come out of a relationship....or do you expect nothing, and prefer to let nature take it's course?

Answer 1

At first for me its about letting nature take it's course, but then after a while, you can't help but think about having a relationship that progresses to marriage and beyond. I think it's only normal. There's only a problem when you force the natural flow of things or if the guy isn't it the relationship for it to progress, but only to have fun, then it isn't gonna work. Make sure you know each others expectations right off and you should be fine, that way if it doesn't work out, then it doesn't work out and there's no hard feelings b/c you both know what you wanted out of the relationship.

Answer 2

At the beginning we would prefer to let nature take it's course.
But depending upon the partner sooner or later thoughts of a long term relationship may arise. There is nothing magic in this regard with people over your age limit. It is the same at 20 as it is at 60.

Only difference is that a family is less likely at 60. And the chance for a long term relationship may be greater at 60 because we have learned what is truly important in life. Love and togetherness.

Answer 3

For me I can usually tell quickly how "seriously" I will take a new guy I meet. Some I'll know will just be a fun, short term fling (Mr. Right Now). Others a longer term boyfriend ((Mr. Right for a While). Once in a blue moon I'll meet someone I'll soon consider having serious relationship potential. In that case, I do fantasize about a wedding, married life, etc. Unfortunately, this does not work both ways. Guys I'm not that interested in will think I'm their Miss Right; a guy I thought was THE ONE cut me loose when he realized how serious I was about him. I'm now in my late thirties, have had three 3-year relationships, some flings, and fallen seriously in love once. But I am still single, and hope someday to be married forever to my soulmate...

Answer 4

Hi!
I am 22 years old and...some experience...
what can I say?! ... first of all I think that everyone have expectations about their relationships, otherway they are not called relationships anymore (are flirts or one-night-stand / adventures).I think that the ideal thing is to think to the future in a funny way and let the time pass.However hard you'd try to make things go well, it will be as God above wishes, so...don't try to force your luck! I think that all of us have somewhere in this big world a soul mate and I also think that sometime, somewhat we will find it.Maybe I'm an idealist but I'm still hoping and waiting...

Answer 5

I try to have fun and let nature take its course, so to speak. At 24, I'm not really looking for a serious relationship right now, so if I go into one thinking in the long term, I tend to freak out and end it. If something works out in the long run, I'm not opposed to that, it just isn't what I seek out at this point in my life. At this point, I also try to stay out of relationships where the guy is looking for something long term, so this usually doesn't come up.

Answer 6

I'm 25 and expect nothing, if a relationship happens then it does, of course I want one but just haven't been able to find that right guy.... I was in a 7 year relationship and it failed so I'm letting nature take it's course on me!!

Answer 7

It's different for everyone, it matters who you are as a person. Are you ready for a serious commitment, like marraige and children? Then you have to know if you really want this... then assess the situation. Does oyur partner want it? It's not wrong to think about something more, but don't make a decision until you are completely ready. The purely for fun relationship I think is non exsistent, because you always ask yourself is this one the one? Deep down inside datng is just to find the one that you love.

Answer 8

Well if your looking for a long term relationship then yes I look at what it could be and would hope that it could grow into something more. If I can't see myself with them down the road, meaning married to them or having kids with them, then I just can't date him. I mean why would I want to waste my time with someone if I can't see myself being more with them?? Why would you do that??? Unless you just looking for one thing and one thing only. So yes when I date someone I do expect more from it. I want more. I want total and complete happiness.

I hope this has helped you. But you should let things just run it's course. Go with the flow as people say, it does seem to work to work best. But if it's meant to be then it will happen anyways!!!

Answer 9

I expect things out of my relationships. The only thing I have left to get is married. I am living with my boyfriend, we have to children together so marriage is all that is left. If I didn't have kids then I would probably do it for fun.

Answer 10

I don't think you can generalize every relationship into a particular mold. Back in the ol' single days I had relationships that I fostered purely for the convenience, knowing full well that it wouldn't flower into anything further. When I met my (now) wife years ago, I fully anticipated and hoped the relationship would flower.