Im 17 years old and my boyfriend is 20 years old....ive known him since he was 12 and i was 9.....my parents however have forbidden me to speak to him.....but i do anyway.....everynight at 11 i call him and we talk until 4am....i love him more than anything in the world and he feels the same about me.....what should I do? should I try to make it work even though my parents hate him? or should i give up altogether?
2006-11-07 05:15:08 · 23 answers · asked by XSkittle_FantasticX 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like the typical Romeo and Juliet story. You are 17, and if you are love this man and you and him talk about having a future together, make it known to your parents. They dont have to like him, but they really should accept him and your decision to be with him. Is he a bad boy or something? Does he get you to do bad things? You are almost 18, which means you will be considered independent and can always move out of their house. Just keep in mind that they are your parents and you should always respect them and love them no matter what happens with your boyfriend. DO NOT give up having a relationship w/your parents however for this boy if it comes to it. Trust me, you will realize that will be the biggest mistake of your life! Good luck!
-EA
2006-11-07 05:18:51 · answer #1 · answered by Earthy Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your parents family and friends step back and see what they are trying to tell you about him. Remember your parents may have been through a similar relationship when they were your age. They may also have your well being in hand.
They might want you to go to college and get a better education before you get to serious with someone. You are to young for a relationship. Always remember School first love later so that there is no regrets. Once you are involved all you want to do is be with that person. He may not want you to go to college once you get out of high school, because he is afraid you will meet someone else.
From my experience my parents told me that there was something about my boyfriend they did not like but I did not listen. I married him he has cheated on me repeatedly. My friends even said things I never took the time to listen and watch what they were saying. I always thought I could change his bad habits.
Just listen to what people have to say and step back and watch...
2006-11-07 05:38:03 · answer #2 · answered by quinn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick it out another year, until it is legal for you to have a relationship, because if you really love him you wont put him in the situation where he is breaking the law. And if it really works between you two your parents will come around when you get married and have kids 10+ years in the future. but DO NOT make the mistake of having one now, he will go to jail, and if your parents dont like him, all the better to wait. GROW UP FIRST then have a real relationship.
2006-11-07 05:22:58 · answer #3 · answered by lordshelbysf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you are not a legal adult, therefore he is committing a crime by being with you! If you are not careful, you may be getting to talk to him from jail - won't that be fun?
You may not realize it right now, but your parents know best! I am willing to bet that there is more to this story and there is a VERY good reason why your parents forbid you to be with him!! If I am wrong, than you need to talk to your parents! If this guy is so wonderful, and he treats you so well, your parents should be able to understand that. If they refuse, than you either need to respect their wishes until you turn 18 and are able to move out, or continue going behind their backs and risk getting caught! Remember: Blood is thicker than water! If this man really loves you, he would NEVER expect you to disrespect your parents and risk losing their trust!
You already know what the right thing to do is! The question is.....are you strong enough to do it?????
2006-11-07 05:24:15 · answer #4 · answered by Kailey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me just say this. I have a 17 year old daughter myself, who has been sneaking around and lying to me about boys since she was 14. Now, there is not an ounce of trust between us and she is constantly making rebellious decisions that are messing up her life. she's on the verge of loosing her license for the 2nd time. she's on her 3rd job. do you see a pattern here?
the point is this. sneaking around is only making the situation worse.
Once you turn 18, the world is yours, and your decisions are yours to make with no one to answer to.
So, why can't you tone it down and let your friends help you 2 stay in communication with each other, without doing it under your parent's noses. That is so disrespectful..
Find a way to talk to each other without doing it at home in that way. and tone it down until you turn 18.
2006-11-07 05:22:25 · answer #5 · answered by smartkid37138 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that was all one sentence! Let me get this straight, the guy you don't want is the one in Alabama right? The one you met on vacation? He is telling you how much he loves you? And you've known him, what, a week or two?? C'mon! Please grow up a bit and realize the difference between what a guy tells you and what is the reality! Oh, and if you truly loved the first guy you wouldn't be confused right now. It'd be a no-brainer.
2016-05-22 07:47:45 · answer #6 · answered by Jeanette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A little more info would help.
Why do your parents hate him?
Are they maybe trying to protect you from someone they think is going to harm you?
At 17 you have a lot of life yet to live, don't believe this is the end of the world if you lose him.
2006-11-07 05:20:49 · answer #7 · answered by Schlump 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly love him you will make it work no matter what...and your parents will eventually have to deal with him...Ask yourself why do they hate him so much? Is it a bad reason like drugs or something because then it might not be worth it. If it a bogus reason like hes too old or a different race then go for it!
2006-11-07 05:19:05 · answer #8 · answered by steve0stac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have one more year until you are 18. I would wait, and if love was meant to be, it will still be there waiting. It seems silly now, but most parents are correct in why they don't approve of the relationship. It isn't much of one, if you can't date either. Just be patient...it will work out one way or another.
2006-11-07 05:18:31 · answer #9 · answered by laurie0802 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do your parents hate him?
If it's something vague like, "they don't like his family" or "my mom doesn't like his mom" ... then you can probably win them over. Ask them if they would be willing to meet him and get to know him personally ... small doses. They may never like him but they may grow to trust him.
If it's something concrete like, "he does drugs" or "he's been in prison" ... you might want to consider that they have a valid point.
I'd say it all depends on what the core reason is that they don't want you speaking with him.
2006-11-07 05:20:25 · answer #10 · answered by Bonny K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋