Ladies, explain yourselves - is bad to be too attractive?

Question

First I want to be clear that Im not narcissistic (if you dont know what that means then this question is over your head) nor arrogrant. Everywhere I go, I turn heads, I get winks, I get smiles, I get comments and that is flattering - I dont abuse it nor do I make myself out to be some stud. Once in awhile, I will see someone that is attractive and make the mutual gestures back and actually approach them. At that point they seem to become uncomfortable, nervous and speechless but why? My female friends tell me that its because Im too good looking and that can make them that way. So if that is the case, should I not approach you and just let you make the move? Can a man be too good looking that it becomes a disadvantage? Are we pre-judged on how we look and dress that you think we have different motives? Many think Im after one thing and the ones I do date end up being extremely insecure up to the point of spying on me. Help?

Answer 1

YUP, it can be a disadvantage and yes you are always going to struggle with insecure women thinking you will get interested in another good looking specimen. Girls may look at you and think you are out of their league. My husband is very handsome, he gets women comments even when he standing by me. It used to bother me, but after 9 1/2 years of marriage I shrug it off. See he approached me at the Detroit Ho Down, I was very intimidated, he tossed me his number and said he would like to get to know me. So after I never called him, he called me, we met and got to know each other. But had he of never talked to me, I would have never met him. So you are going to have to throw yourself out there and try to get a good catch, what I mean by a good catch, is a woman whom is secure enough in herself to handle the attention you are going to get. Good luck.

Answer 2

I know where you are coming from, and as a female I often felt I was doing "something wrong" or giving off a conceited vibe. but I had a girlfriend explain it once as... Members of the opposite sex are intimidated by you and often think you are just "Out of their league" (I have had a few men tell me this) Most people are so insecure in their own looks that they figure You should be dating someone better looking than them. Now I have met some peopl on the internet through certain boards or forums I belong to... I usually let them get to know the "inner" me first... then when I do send a picture they often think I am putting one over on them, but at least they have had a chance to know me before seeing/meeting me in person. So keep making moves on women you find attractive, you will eventually find one confident enough to date you, and try chatting to a few unknowns on the internet just to make sure it isn't your personality that they are avoiding. Good Luck dating!! By the way how old are you??

Answer 3

Wow most people would tell you to get over your self but I think I understand the way you feel. I think your friends are right about you being too good looking and thats way women are that way. Its very easy to flirt with a man but when he actually approaches you, it can be awkward especially if he is very handsome. I think some of the most attractive females are still uncomfortable with this situation. I dint think you should not go up to them though. Approach them and be yourself..You sound very handsome and educated, just be down to earth so you make them more comfortable. Try not to be too perfect, they may not feel worthy. good luck to you.

Answer 4

I am a woman and i have met many men who are extraordinarily good looking men, by beau is one, and you know even now we have been together for so long, and he has this thing when he looks at me in a certain way, and oh boy i feel myself becoming, not uncomfortable, but find myself fumbling over my words sometimes, because of the power...yeah power of his beauty, but i have never felt insecure, because I'm happy with myself...but i can see how many women would find a good looking guy somewhat overwhelming so much so that they become lost for words...and no i wouldn't agree that being too good looking is a disadvantage at all, but you have to put these women at their ease, they probably feel that they are out of your league that's why they behave the way they do.....you should have put a picture up so we ladies can see what you look like, because as you know beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder, you do sound a little like you are in love with yourself though...and hey theres nothing wrong with that...when I'm looking hot i tell myself I'm looking hot, and theres nothing wrong with that at all....women will always flock to a good looking men like flies to sh!t. A very beautiful Avatar too.

Answer 5

You actually sound opposite of the stereotypical stud. (Your first sentence actually cracked me up, BTW).
I think your looks can be very intimidating. One, good looking guys are usually into themselves, into only getting one thing, and/or 'high maintenance'. Its an unfair preconceived notion. Now, what do you do...
I'm not really sure. A woman needs to really get to know whats inside you to appreciate you for who/what you really are. Unfortunately, a lot of women are insecure and with a good looking guy, even more so. Its actually an interesting problem you are having as that you are almost too attractive, as it is inhibiting you from getting into a serious relationship.
I wish you much luck because youve actually stumped me. ;)

Answer 6

I think that men that are too good-looking are either gay or shallow. If they spend that much time on trying to look too perfect then they are too into themselves and I don't even bother.
I've had really cute guys hit on me, but I don't like guys that think they are so cute and that they can get whoever they want because then I think they are easy and they've been with a lot of girls and that's gross. Sometimes looking too good will make you look ugly becasue it leads us to believe that you are an ugly person on the inside especially if you tend to go after the fake boobs, designer clad girls that probably don't know how to use a stove, much less be down to earth.

Answer 7

Shave your head and not your beard. Stop exercising and eat more fast food. Always carry a porn magazine. Make your goal to get on Jerry Springer. Don't approach girls except in traler parks and then only if they're carrying an open 40.

Answer 8

It's obvious that you have met a sorry lot of women, but perhaps that is the type you are looking for.

If your dates end up being extremely insecure then you are doing something to feed their insecurities and you need to stop it. You should never give them a reason to think you may be cheating.

Answer 9

This is definitely a hard question answer. Because it could go both ways like you said, about girls thinking you are after one thing or they end up being jealous of you. But, I don't think that there is anything that you can do, except maybe find a women that isn't bothered by those things...like me! :)

Answer 10

Man, you say your not arrogant, then you pump out all that sh*t? Did you look up big words before you wrote that paragraph of pap?

Ever thought that they are nervous on your approach because they don't actually want to speak to you and they want to get out fast? If you don't know what that means then this answer is obviously way over your head.

You c0ck end.