If you feel that when you date someone looks have to be in high priority, isn't that like saying you can't find happiness without looks being in the picture? If that's your mode of thinking, isn't that really ruining your chance at true happiness more than helping? In my previous statement the girl I mentioned had her own place and supported herself quite nicely. She wasn't working because she was injured on the job though. The guy she dated didn't have any of the characteristics she looks for except looks. She stopped being able to pay her bills and keep food in the house. Even though he had a car he wouldn't even help her keep her doctor's appointments. Now she has lost her apartment and had to move home, he is in jail and she is about to his baby. This is all because of looks. Why is it that looks are more important to women than a man who is willing to do whatever he can to make you happy and make you feel like the only woman for him? I know it's not possible that women like pain.
2006-11-07 05:02:03 · 7 answers · asked by sweet_caring_teddybear 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Quite frankly , it does not matter what a person looks like, it is what is inside them that counts. This story you have told is typical of a couple of friends of mine that this has happened too.
2006-11-07 05:07:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to Humanity 101.
The long and the short of it is this: Some people, men and women, actually enjoy putting themselves in a martyr situation. They are abused or neglected and they continue to end up in these relationships. You and I wouldn't want that, but there are some who only feel comfortable with that, specific type of relationship.
Many people don't realize that the term, "Attractive" is a combination of at least two things; outward appearance (looks) and personality. If someone doesn't look like a model, but he/she is a fantastic person with a great attitude - he/she only needs to be in a place where he/she has the opportunity to communicate with others for this to be known. The more you know and like someone, the less the physical appearance plays in the importance of a possible relationship. Looks start to match personality.
The same happens in reverse. A gorgeous God/Goddess is the admiration of all who see him/her. Then it speaks and it's rude, obnoxious, puts out a holier-than-thou attitude, belittles all around him/her. Whether it's being overly concerned about him/herself, or just not caring at all about others, this person is not dating material and the human mind has a way of leveling out the playing field - looks starts to match personality again.
Remember, with people, it's all a matter of perspective. Where you're sitting and what you're seeing.
2006-11-07 05:15:39 · answer #2 · answered by stevegoryan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not all about looks with women, more to the point, how he read her like a book.
Check out the book on this link and you will learn how also.
2006-11-07 05:21:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't get it either, and I'm a woman. Looks don't pay the bills. Looks don't mean squat when it comes to loyalty, caring, etc.
2006-11-07 05:07:34 · answer #4 · answered by kradori_hyde 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
looks are always secondary to the nature of the person..
they don't matter to me much, frankly...... if i find a good guy...... i won't see how he looks.......... i would love his soul not looks..
well in ur case........ there are people... both men n women....... who are physically attracted to looks....... you can't help it, till they themselves realise that looks actually are not that important..
God bless!
2006-11-07 05:12:34 · answer #5 · answered by Quetzal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know been asking the same question. I guess it's like sexual attraction.
2006-11-07 05:04:58 · answer #6 · answered by Asia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its only part of it..Personality is Equally important
2006-11-07 05:06:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋