What is the secret to guys?

Question

I mean, im a girl and i've spent most of my life trying to figure them out. What do they want? How do you know when they like you? Are guys deep...? Or does it all come back to them wanting to get laid?
Answer please.

Answer 1

mostly wanting to get laid

Answer 2

Guys think about sex every 6 seconds.
Hormones. Competition for mates thing I guess.
It's not that we are bad or anything. We mostly have good intentions.
But just imagine trying to have a cognitive thought with all that going on in your head.
Requires great control. This control comes out strongly in our personalities.
This is what gives us such a strong sense of Focus.
WE HAVE TO!
Colours everything we do.
We don't learn how to really handle it well until about 30 yrs old.
And we get a lot of bizarre learned traits.
The more sex we get. The more relief and the better we function.
There is an old Greek Story: (Aristophenes I think)
Two cities that had constant little wars with raping and pillaging.
The women in the two towns got together and decided to cut their men off from sex until they could behave.
Both cities were utterly destroyed by each other and raised to the ground.
It is a balance girls. and not an easy one.
It is like walking on the edge of a knife blade.
We make a lot of mistakes that are not "us" especially when younger. It is a frighteneing thing even to us what goes through our minds.
Ask a guy sometime if he thinks about sex every 6-10 seconds!

Answer 3

you actually can't quite tell nowadays whether they like you or not. But what I can say is that if they stare at you alot that's one sign. They mostly seek comfort and a girl that they can be themselves around and show their true colors to. Some guys are deep others are too pu$$y to show it. I won't lie some do come back to get laid. But the thing is that sometimes we are very shallow that we don't notice the "keepers" because they are in a wheelchair or because they are social outcasts. The thing is that I believe every boy has good in them but others are cowards and don't show it. GOOD LUCK finding the right one, I'm still searching for Mister Right.

Answer 4

There is nothing magic about guys. We are always trying to understand you also.

Most guys are not deep. What they say and what they do may not always come together but girls are the same. Most of the time what they say is what they mean. But we all are different. It ranges from super confident to super shy and low self esteem.

Guys love sex. No secret about that. But they all would love to find a girl that loves it just as much as they do and be intelligent, romantic, sweet and sexy all rolled into one. And most importantly love them.

To tell you the secret to guys is just about as easy as you telling us what is the secret to girls. We all want to know more about what makes us tick. Because girls have never been guys and guys have never been girls it is impossible to ever know for sure.

We are human....that you can count on.

Answer 5

This is a hard question to answer because I don't want to give you the same old boring "Every guy is different" answer. As a male I do know one thing : we don't communicate as subtely as girls do. Not at all! :) If you want to know if a guy likes you, then ask him! :) Say 'hey do you like me and want to be my boyfriend'. Sounds very direct doesn't it? That's because guys don't understand it any other way. In fact they go crazy when you are trying to 'hint' to them. They'll never get your hints.

Are guys deep? I know I'm very deep. It has to do alot with the amount of education they receive. I'm not saying people are 'dumb' if they aren't educated, but the more you know about things, the more you will think. Take for instance the guy who plays sports and video games, and the guy who reads. The guy who reads will be more likely to think things through more deeply and consider other points of view : because he knows that other points of view exist. :)

Do guys just want to get laid? No, but if you put it out, they'll take it whether they would have asked you for it or not. A great way to tell what he wants in that department is to not offer it. Just offer yourself as a person. The good guys who will really like you for you will be happy.

What do guys want? Every guy wants his own thing but usually it's the same as women : they want to feel good about themselves. Self-love is the most rare type of love and people will go through all kinds of 'tricks' with the opposite gender in order to validate themselves. Same thing with guys spending huge amounts of money on status symbols.

I hope this answers some of your questions! :)

Answer 6

u no ive talked to a lot of guys 9my friends) and these r just normal guys. Some like attitude some like the smarts, some like the looks. Just depends on the guy. the most ez way ull no if they like u is if they stutter when they talk to u, give u the puppy eyes, talk about u etc. and watch out for the dirty guys it is just an xtra tip.

Answer 7

They want a good job, to be able to relax, someone to be with, and to have a nice life on their own terms.

You know when they like you because they will ask you out and tell you they like you.

Guys can be deep when they want to be.

Yes they want to get laid, but not all guys just focus on that one thing alone.

Answer 8

Guys ask the same question about girls. What makes them work inside. This is a question that boggles mens minds since the dawn of life.

The human race seems to forget that by simply talking to others you can understand more about others than just ignoring a situation.

If you want to know about a certain issue with a certain guy....ask him!

Answer 9

It depends on the guy, you'll never know cause guys suck at giving and picking up on hints. No, we're not deep, some are but most aren't sadly. ((I live in redneck county with all the idgits, make it stop!!!)) And yes alot of guys just want to get laid, but they might outgrow that eventually.

Answer 10

Fundamentally, guys want to have sex - frequently.... testosterone colors the lens through which we see the world - we can't help it - sorry. But after sex is out of the way, all guys are different to a greater or lesser degree, and yes some are very deep. I hope this helps

Answer 11

here's what i've learned :).. and from church of all places! (most of them are guys, and the pastor is young, hip, and very.... honest).

so, in a generalized statement:

men use love to get sex
women use sex to get love

already u can see that Men and Women are COMPLETELY different...they want different things, their brains just are wired differently, they handle things different, etc, etc etc!!! seriously, once u start realizing that yes, men are from Mars, women from Venus, u will begin to understand a man. :)

one of the problems we have is we try to understand and identify a Man's actions and thoughts in our feminine minds. to do that is suicide, because women will Never truly understand what it is like to be so wired Physically and Visually =T. we will think they are gross, disgusting, sex fiends, etc, when in fact, they are just Different. what u need to do is first UNDERSTAND that a man is going to think differently, and if u RESPECT that, u are way ahead of the game! respecting it doesn't mean letting him do whatever he wants.. the next step is to translate Your emotions and thoughts into a way that He can understand.

pretty much it's like trying to learn a different language. here's an article i think will really help show the gap between a Male an Female mind! :) once we respect and understand that we are Different, we can try to communicate in a way that is Productive and Healthy instead of "assuming" they should just Know.

good luck to us all!! :) being Open Minded and having Good Communication skills is key.