I met a girl this weekend at a bar, but i didn't think we hit it off. She called the next day, and said we should go out this week. I was thinking we could either go get a drink just to talk and get to know each other a little, or i could get her to come out with a group. Whaddyathink??
2006-11-07 04:56:11 · 21 answers · asked by Andrew W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
personal date! -drinks like you said.
so you can get to know her first
but if iyou guys end up hitting it off
then intruduce your buds to her.
don't do it too soon b/c if she doesn't
develope intrest in you maybe she'll
have the "hots" for one of your friends.
2006-11-07 05:01:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends. My first date we went to the park to talk. A public place is good because she knows that you won't try any funny stuff. Just get to know her first. Then have a follow up date like a dinner and a movie. If things are going well, then you may be able to make out or something. Group things are good too. Going bowling or something may help take some pressure off of you two. Good luck
2006-11-07 13:00:09 · answer #2 · answered by Timmy Mic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's start with first date don'ts:
Don't take her to a movie. How do you get to know someone by being quiet for 2 hours.
Don't go with a group of your friends. She wants to get to know you, not hear war stories about 5th grade, college, or your new boss. A group makes it seem like an evaluation and approval session. You also don't want her to hit it off with one of your friends more than you. Finally point on the group thing, "You wouldn't take her home to meet your parents on a first date so why would you take her to meet your friend who for most of us are the equivelant to family?"
Don't not be prepared for you date.
Don't be late
Turn off your cell phone, pager, blackberry etc...
Don't say anything stupid. Example: Are you a virgin or when was the last time you had sex?
First Date Do's
Be yourself, but know your limits.
Find out as much about her as you can before you go out. It will give you ideas on where to take her. The last thing you want to do is take a Vegan to a steakhouse!
Women like a man with a sense of humor, but don't over do it. If you can make her laugh, the chance of having one of those scary silent moments won't happen.
Offer to pick her up or meet her in a neutral location.
If she wants to pay or help pay for the date, refuse her only once then let her if she persist after that since she could be testing you to see how you feel about "sensible" indenpendent women.
Compliment her about something at least 3 times and say her name a few times during conversations.
If you can help it, take her to places that you have little or no chance or running into someone you know. Sometimes running into old friends by default obligates you to invite them to sit with and this do becomes a don't.
I am not an expert, but I know what works for me!
2006-11-07 13:42:33 · answer #3 · answered by BionicNahlege 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You met her in a bar and the best you can come up with is a drink? Sheesh!
Try something light and fun for a first date. Putt-putt golf, bowling, a sporting even, a concert, or something you like to do and can teach her. Dancing is good too.
It's a first date. Other people around can be intimidating until she knows and feels secure with you first. Deep talk comes with time and should not be pushed. Keep it fun and light on a first date. It should be something you can do together. Even an amusement park or zoo is good. You can talk a little when you are walking around, but it stays light and fun.
Sue
Sue
2006-11-07 13:00:47 · answer #4 · answered by newbiegranny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a girl suggests going out, she probably isn't looking for a group date. You might want to ask her what time she wants to go out. If it's early in the day, she's probably slightly interested but is looking to have a "get to know you" date. If she chooses later in the evening, then you've done something to impress her and she would like a real date, perhaps dinner.
2006-11-07 12:59:19 · answer #5 · answered by Whitney R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well You should ask her if to of her friends would like to go with to of your friends to like a park or something!Then you guys just have a little picnic or wateva and then maybe play a game out there with them as well. You know even little stuff like that will get to her.Then You should make sure you know what gender her friends are(female,male) so you know what kind of gender to invite. Just relax and have a good time. Ask her questions and stuff when u are out there but don't ask them back to back because some people don't like that they might think your kinda anoying so you just have to be cautious about how u say things!
2006-11-07 13:04:20 · answer #6 · answered by brownsugacookie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start with a group, and see how she blends with your crowd, and get to know her better and it won't feel so awkward with other people there. If you hit it off, ask her out on a date with just her.
2006-11-07 12:58:59 · answer #7 · answered by Ariella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you wanna talk... go to a nice park, family places etc... if you are looking for something else in the first day... take her to a park, lol jk then get a drink. oh yeah and do it by yourself, girls love attention and in a group you focus your attention into a group talk.
2006-11-07 12:58:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am worried that the first thing you thought of was drinking. Take her to a movie and a late dinner. Don't show her you are a boozer.
2006-11-07 13:00:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alone for the first date is better. You can get to know each other better!
2006-11-07 12:57:43 · answer #10 · answered by charmz21lucky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋