Adults and respect?

Question

We are always told to respect our elders and as a tenneager i feel that at times, the respect shown for us is pretty minimal. Adults however, have the power to do something about- e.g. smacking and grounding. We can't do anything but moan to our friends, so is it time adults respected us? Because they can ask of us what they can deliver. Thanks.

Answer 1

I am a parent and I have always told my children that they dont have to like me but they will respect me. And in turn I will always respect them. Guess what? It works.

Answer 2

Most adults find themselves speaking from experience and knowledge. They tend to believe there is no middle ground to agree to when dealing with siblings. To gain their respect ... LISTEN to them...then respond with a sound and intelligent option not babble and gibberish.

As a parent, I know my own child is growing and has her opinion and desires. If you want to take on adult situations...earn that ability by showing maturity long enough in advance so that you show a pattern of sound judgement. This is why parents rant and rave...you want something now but have shown no signs that indicate you can make the right choices in their absence because you've neglected to do so up to the point of voicing your request. You'd be surprised how far my own child is allowed to go because she shows an interest in maintaining a clean room, good grades in school, sharing in chores around the house. When she has a problem, I listen without interuption which is a two-way street even if you don't like what you're hearing. But also...show respect by listening in return!

Answer 3

Yes, I agree with you. It's always been my bone of contention that adults demand respect but don't give it. I'm the mother of four children, ranging from age 9 - 27, and I think you're right.
However, you have to learn that besides respecting a person, you have to respect authority. Why? Because those people are put on this earth to care for you and that is their main role on this earth - to get you to a state where your're happy, healthy, educated and a fit member of society. And this is where the breakdown comes. Kids see that adults have freedom. What they don't see is that that freedom comes with responsibility.
I try to remember to respect my children - because I do love them and I think they're great, most of the time. I get angry when they do foolish and dangerous things, though. Being a parent is hard and it's not always fun.
If you want your parents to respect you, treat them with respect and think before you speak! Develop a sense of humour and be grateful for the love your parents do give youl.

Answer 4

Adults should have the benefit of aged wisdom. Hopefully your parents are grounding you for doing something of poor judgement. They are trying to teach you something benefical and increase your wisdom - hopefully, long before you do something illegal and end up in jail. While both teenagers and adults can go to jail, adults have something called a "permanent record."

If you respect your parents, they should have no reason to ground you. Next time, come home before curfew, do your homework, help clean up the house.

If you want a better sign of respect, look in your kitchen pantry, look in your bedroom - Do you have food? Do you have a place to sleep? Love and respect. If you don't have that much, call the police.

Answer 5

You have to show respect to earn it. They are older then you so you need to show them respect. If a teenager is to show respect we hardly see it. The world has become a sad place to live because there is no common courtesy anymore. I see alot of teenagers out there who do not respect their parents or elders or their teachers at school. The times have changed since I was a teenager and the respect has pretty much been lost with the so called times.

Answer 6

A parent should show respect to their teenage children, but still be firm as they are the parent and are trying their best to raise them. When I was young, my parents would always discuss a situation with me. If I was wrong, I got grounded or confined to my room. I did the same thing with my children. When I was growing up, my two closest friends had a different situation. If they had a situation with their parents, out came a big strap and they got their backside beaten until they looked like raw meatballs. Today, a parent justifiably would be arrested for child abuse. There should be open communication between parent and child, but the parent should have the final decision.

Answer 7

Id like to know where u live that adults can hit thier kids for one. Two, as a child and i do mean child just because u get urges u r not grown b4 u are 18, and even then your not fully grown u r lucky u didnt grow up back in my day parents used to beat the crap out of us for talking back, cursing , or whatever they got a hair up thier a###s respect is about being polite something yalls generation knows nothing about. My kids are told like this i pay your bills you wlll do what you are told or get out and pay your own bills. parents are trying to keep ya from messing up your life i tell ya its no fun living in a mobile home thats older then i am but it beeats living in the hood so to speak but not by much i just dont get shot at by gangbangers its the rednecks i have to worry about and the wannabe gangbangers in a hick town. If you have food, clothes, a roof above your head, and things u want along with all the needs your parents deserve all the respect in the world no matter how wrong you feel they are they are trying to prepare u for the real world as long as they dont cross the line into abuse and thats dependant on the crime be glad that your parent(S) take the time to keep ya in check because cool parents normally arent parents theyre just goin thru the motions. my boys are 16 and 12 and respect me to my face and talk smack behind my back but my kids know they are loved never would they talk back or cuss at me thats respect even if they dont agree with me they know its for the best

Answer 8

I have two children. 15 and 12 years of age. If they want my respect then they must act respectful first. Everytime they steal, lie, cheat on a test, run away from home, or hit eachother in anger my respect for them goes down and down. You want respect and treated like an adult, then start behaving like an adult. I did when I lived at home and I got respect from both my parents.

Answer 9

i had the same problem when i was a teenager, it didn't matter how much respect i gave, i never got any in return, especially where my father was concerned. for some reason, parents have a difficult time accepting that their children are capable of thinking for themselves and having a valid opinion on things. it's highly unlikely that your parents will change their ways, but you could try to be honest with them about your feelings on the subject, you never know, it could help them to see you in a new light. but when you're older and have teenagers of your own, don't forget about these times, learn from this experience and try to have more respect for your kids than what your parents had for you.

Answer 10

It depends what do you mean by respect. Are you wanting them to respect every decision you make because you feel like you are a "grown up". Sorry but as a teenager you don't know everything. Your parents have more experience then you do and it is their house and their rules. If you want to have discussions w/ them and have them listen to you then yes you do deserve that like all of us do.

Answer 11

I agree. I love my parents so much and I appreciate them but they expect a lot of respect and most of the time I get none. It's kinda hypocrital huh? It's hard to want to respect someone who won't show you the same courtesy. And for ppl who want to bash me...I don't give my parents trouble...I don't disrespect them, drink, smoke, run around wi/ guys (in a bad way I mean) or any of that. They would agree that I am not a bad teenager. so please no one say something like "you probably don't deserve it!" that's just mean.

I hope things improve for you! Good luck...:)