This question arose from watching an Ally Mc Beal episode where a man was sued by a woman for not revealing the material fact that he was a little person. This fact would not bother some people, but it would bother others.
so I'm just wondering... what facts would you like to know about someone you met online before embarking on a relationship?
2006-11-07 04:50:36 · 29 answers · asked by Balaboo 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
smile, that was a hypothetical question. I have no intention of starting an online relationship. plenty of good answers fo far!
2006-11-07 04:55:15 · update #1
You cannot have a true meaningful relationship on the computer.
You HAVE to meet and date in person. It's the only way to truly know who you are talking to on the other side of your monitor.
The "facts" you need to know, are the "facts" you need to know about any guy you date, computer relationship or not.
Are they a good person?
Do they lie?
Are they religious or not?
Do they make money and have a job or not?
Do they have a decent place to live?
Are they messy or neat?
What are their political affiliations or beliefs?
What is their education level?
How old are they?
Do they want to eventually get married or not?
Do they want to eventually have kids or not?
What is their family like?
Do they have the same values, morals and ethics that you do?
Are you attracted to them or not?
Does your personality clash with theirs or is it complimentary?
And about a million more "facts" to choose from...
2006-11-07 04:56:11 · answer #1 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On line relationships should be thoroughly checked before stepping off into the deep end of the pool! Because of where I work...I too often see people THINK the other person yet they're not. If you feel comfortable enough to telephone the person from a blocked number so that if the other person is not who they say they are, then you haven't given them a number to harass you at. If you talk and feel comfortable enough to meet...do it with the agreement that you'll have a friend in a well populated area...first! If that meeting goes well...then a more private meeting would be the next step. Just be careful...you NEVER know who you're dealing with on the internet!
2006-11-07 04:55:36 · answer #2 · answered by KC V ™ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whether they were married, had kids, been in jail, had an STD and that just for starters......
I wouldn't embark on an online relationship as too many folk lie. You can be ANYTHING you want to be online and theres no way to check if they're telling the truth or not.
I know someone who is doing just that on myspace. They're making out their a DJ & music producer when they've never spun vinyl in their life and use their mates DJ computer program to 'make' music. They cant even buy their own hardware or software!! LOL. I also know for a FACT they are a pathological liar about everything and cannot sit still long enough to tell the truth.........they're trying to fool people esp women into thinking they have soul and substance and I know its an act....
It actually makes me laugh - but on a serous note for yourself BEWARE of internet romances.... they lead to serious disappointment
2006-11-07 04:57:59 · answer #3 · answered by clairejoolz78 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the thing about Any relationships, and online in particular, is that u can be perfect on Paper (or on the internet), but in real life, it can be completely different. and ur not guaranteed Anything by having "facts" online! even if they are true, there is absolutely NO rating to tell you whether or not this person is a Good Person. u have to use ur brains, and even more so in an online relationship...at least if it was a hook up by a friend, there is some kind of relationship there, someone is Vouching for him (and you!). but online, i'ts a whole different level.
for example, the first guy i met online was:
a manager at a well known retail store where my friend lived, so i knew he had a good job and was there for a long time. i also could have gone to that store to "check" if he worked there.
a Christian..went to church on sundays w/ his family, had bible study on wednesdays.
met a friend of his, and even met his Family on the 2nd date. everything seemed Perfect, he seemed like a great guy, family guy, good values, yadayadayada.
turned out he was the Biggest Jerk i EVER met! he lied to me, cheated behind my back, lied about it after too....and even sabotoged my birthday party so i would break up w/ him!
:) so the moral of the story is, get as much facts as u want, but just BE CAREFUL when actually going thru a real relationship. after a few months, i wanted to know if we are "exclusive" and he wouldn't commit, even though he was monopolizing All of my time and insisted he didn't want us to date other people. that was a red flag for me, i didn't want to get too intimate if he wasn't my boyfriend. and lucky for me, cuz i found out from his friend later on that he was dating other girls Online.
what he would do when he found a girl that dated him a few times, is take his profile off the dating site. then he would go on a Different site and advertise on There....so it looked to Me that he took off his profile cuz he "found" me. what a Liar!!!!!
ok.... phew. wish u luck... needless to say the next boyfriends (and my boyfriend now) i met thru "normal" way.. friends of friends, and at church.
good luck to us all!!
2006-11-07 04:59:52 · answer #4 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not embark in a relationship[ with anyone without meeting him or her first if it was of the romantic love type without meeting them in person, otherwise it would not matter, I have met many great people as a matter of fact four women I have met online I love them like sisters and dont care what they look like however the romance issue online you can be anyone you please and you have a real life the other knows nothing about so this requires way to much blind faith and trust I need to look in peoples eyes and get to know them not love a computer screen or avatar
2006-11-07 04:54:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can ask all you want, but for anyone who is not from nearby, like a person you meet on line or a stranger who has just moved in to your city, or someone you meet when you travel to another country... It will always be a lottery. Trust your guts more than the answers you get from the person. People wont tell much that would work against them...
2006-11-07 04:58:13 · answer #6 · answered by Graça 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just asking them may not get you real answers. But, before embarking on a physical relationship, instead of the vicarious on-line one, meeting them in person in a public place would be a good start.
2006-11-07 04:54:16 · answer #7 · answered by IGH3Rat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why might you situation your self to a sham marriage, and in fact pull a bait-and-activate an harmless individual? this could nicely be a terrible subject for the two of you. God would not insist which you get married or have heterosexual intercourse. the different determination, a life-time of celibacy and sheerly emotional attachments, is likewise complicated to evaluate, although--if this individual is thinking marriage to delight God, that suggests they care what God thinks...are they specific they at the instant are not adhering to a legalistic theory of God's nature? might they be greater suitable off asking God in prayer what he'd like them to do? marriages of convenience or arranged marriages could nicely be conceivable, sustainable, and at the same time relaxing, yet on condition that the two events bypass into the marriage with the comparable expectancies. i hate to even think of roughly how painful it must be to be gay and no longer able to precise it for concern of non secular retribution. i'm hoping this is hypothetical. yet while this is a real subject, PLEASE don't get married just to make God happy.
2016-10-15 11:58:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First find out if this person is for real and not some serial killer on the lose! Online dating is very risky...you never know whoz talking to you unless you meet the real person.
2006-11-07 04:53:08 · answer #9 · answered by Babe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
- Real name
- Physical appearance (ht, wt, hair/eye color); more than that is optional) or picture
- Occupation
- City of residence
Anyone seeking a relationship with less than that to go on is just looking for a hookup and isn't seriously interested.
2006-11-07 04:55:02 · answer #10 · answered by drumrb0y 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋