I'm only fifteen, but please listen to my story, befor you blast me for being to young
Here goes....I love her, now please dont say I'm crazy until my story is over..
Over the summer, I liked her. we seemed to talk all the time, and flirt like crazy. well she kinda backed off, and I kinda smothered her a little bit...so I gave it a while and asked her how she felt.....she said she didnt like me like that...but... a month later...she emailed me..and told me that she was really sad..cuz our friendship wastn wat it used to be ( we've been friends since age 7).. I told her it was just hard for me to get over her.....but I was working on it..and things got better, and we seem to be good friends again..but theres one problem..I love her....I just cant get over her.... I mean I want her to be happy, and if she is thats great..but, she's a huge flirt, ..and it just kills me to see her with these other guys all the time....
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but a couple of things she has said confuse me. when she said she wants our friendship back....she was talking about me moving on and getting a gf......that if I get rejected ..the reason is probably stupid.....and she also said her reason was probably stupid... but the she goes and flirts with these other guys...and I just dont want her to be a **** or sumthing...that would kill me more than anything..I am afraid to get close to anyone else, becuz I'm afraid that this wiill happen again.....and plus..well idk..i love everything about her..her smile, the way she laughs....everything..I know this isnt just another crush..cuz i have had many of those....and this isnt one of those...is there anything i can do?? please help?
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but way back 6 months ago, she told her friends she mite like me......and then she backed off ..so I know she has even the slightest feelings..and other times..I just kinda get that sense..she has thought about it..i just dont know what to do..I mean she is only 13..so I know her mind is goin crazy.but what should i do
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I mean since weve been friends for so long...we see each other every week...... i mean..i know nothing is gonna happen in the next month..but am i crazy to hope for sumthin in the next year or so?? or however long??
2006-11-07 04:47:37 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like one of those crushes that are stubborn and hard to overcome and I feel for you. But, understand that these feelings that you have for her is just the beginning and you will feel this way about many others in your life, although you may not think that way at this time. Understand that us girls are complex meaning we sometimes don't know what we want and at times are confused ourselves and later down the road as you progress you will understand more of what I mean. But, the key thing is this, although you may feel heart broken, remember that you have your whole life ahead of you and there's so much to look forward to in the future and there will be a variety of people you will meet along the way, some you may not like, while others might make you feel warm and fuzzy inside but we've all been down this path before. Think of this experience as a right of passage to becoming a young man and for this you will have become more wiser, sharper and knowledgeable not only about love but about yourself. So lift your head up high and know that whatever happens, you'll be okay and one day you will be able to look back at this experience and remember that wifa4lifa told you so!!! Good Luck and stay sweet!!!!
2006-11-07 05:12:10 · answer #1 · answered by Yahoo Anwers 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do think you're crazy... but I've been there, and I am there still, and I fear I will be there a while from now. I want to be able to tell you to move on because I see the pain it causes you, but I can't. Because I know when you feel that much for someone that it just consumes you, there's not much else you can do. Girls hurt, that's what they do. It really hurts me to see you suffer because you mean what you're saying. JS is right, you will probably have to hurt like this again, and so will I, I suppose the best thing for you to try is go in your room, or a quiet place or a really loud place, and write yourself a letter. I know it's corny, but it has got to be better than the pain you're feeling. Write yourself, and tell you this. Some girl would be very, very luck to have you, because you're a great guy, because you do care. If you didn't care, you wouldn't be hurting like this. Also tell yourself that one day you are going to find a girl who will fully appreciate you for the great guy you are, and who won't confuse you. She will wake up next to you every day and smile because she knows she is lucky to have you. She will be so proud of you that you will be proud of you. And you will see yourself thruogh her eyes and see that love is not something you do, but something you are. It may help for now be giving you hope for the future. Also, love is love no matter if you're 15, 50, or 102. Love is love. I believe you love her. I believe that she's just scared. You can try... Just please please, don't get too busted if it doesn't work. Also, if you can't be friends with her anymore because you do love her, then don't try. It will hurt, but I promise it will hurt worse to see her with sombody else. The hardest thing in the world to do is watch the person you love love someone else. Don't give up on it unless it becomes obvious that it will not work. Also, if it hurts you more to try than it does to not try, you need to not try. I hope you work it out. Good luck, I hope you will be okay.
2006-11-09 09:27:30 · answer #2 · answered by scoutredneckfluffy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like you like her A LOT, maybe she is too immature to realize that your feelings for her are real. If youve been friends with her since the age of 7 then you should know her by now and she should know you by now. So u say shes a big flirt? If she didnt want to get closer to you then she wouldn't flirt with you. If she claims that she doesn't want to get close with you, yet she still flirts with you then she is just a tease (sorry to say). Maybe she is confused and isn't sure if she likes you or maybe she likes someone else and doesn't know who to pick. It sounds like you've already told her how you feel about her and she told u that u should move on and get another girl friend. Don't continuously ask her and/or tell her that your in love with her, it might only confuse her more. U need 2 to tango and if she doesn't want to make this so called "friendship" into something more then the only thing you can do it deal with it.
2006-11-07 04:55:11 · answer #3 · answered by kms010494 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's say that you and she decided to give it a go - at the age of 15. Now 10 years later, you decide to break up. Not only do you lose your relationship, but you lose a great friendship also. If you want her in your life, then keep the love levels to a minimum, and if you can't do that then maybe it's time to find a new friend.
Don't want to sound harsh, but this is reality. And remember, Middle school and high school sweethearts are cute and all, but most will NOT last.
2006-11-07 04:56:19 · answer #4 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like she does not want to hurt you for the world though and does enjoy your friendship very much. Give her space she is just coming into this whole boyfriend/girlfriend thing. Be her friend. Flirting is quite natural and if I was you I would not worry about her becoming a **** She sounds like a nice girl. Good Luck, but again the best relationships start with great friendships.
2006-11-07 04:59:03 · answer #5 · answered by eeyoree rocks2003 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Best advice I can give you , be honest, without breaking morality, religion or the law. Next, realize the world is a large place and though this seems huge at the moment, this too will pass and you will look back years from now and it will be considered very nominal to your concerns 10 or 20 years from now. If it is too complicated, has too much drama, requires too much maintenance, move on and enjoy life and seek those that build you up and share your life with an encouraging, and healthy effect.
2006-11-07 04:57:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just live your life dude. I had a similar problem when I was your age. Your life isn't over because of her. Try to spend less time talking to her. She is basically just dragging you along. She is selfish and she knows you are hung up on her. Women love attention from all men. Even if they are married. They live to get attention from males. Hang out with your friends and stay busy. Try to ask someone else out. Don't let her interfere with you and another girl. She will try and mess that up for you. Like I said, life isn't over. I guarantee you will have many more girls in the future. Good luck.
2006-11-07 04:58:29 · answer #7 · answered by TK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem only it’s with a guy. I understand how u feel. I liked a guy for three years but he’s older than me. I mean a LOT older. Yah, it’s true it is really hard to get over some one you really love. I still have problems getting over the guy I like. Will my advice for you is. If she doesn’t like you in that way then you guy should just be friend of best friends keep it like that for a while then see how it will go.
2006-11-07 04:58:04 · answer #8 · answered by candygirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 43 now. But when i was 13, there was a guy just like you who was crazy about me. He was a good guitarist and so it was a feather in my cap, but honestly, his mushiness got on my nerves. i knew he was crazy about me and there is no thrill when the guy is already crazy about you. Every girl wants a bit of a challenge. I don't think it will work if you smother her. You are smitten which is common at age 15. you will get over her ,but you will never forget her.
2006-11-07 05:00:40 · answer #9 · answered by Hysteria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's the answer to your question. She's 13. A child!!! I was still playing with Barbie's at 13!!-- Kid's at that age do not know what to do with boys and their feelings. Wow.
If you're 15, try maybe a 16 year old. That would make more sense.
2006-11-07 05:01:25 · answer #10 · answered by geminicatlver 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋