there's this guy that i love hanging out with and he's always been sweet and caring. he's been a real good friend and now that i'm around him more he's totally make a 180. now he always calls me stupid and is putting me down. i don't get it. it's like he suddenly decided to hate me.
2006-11-07 04:34:44 · 20 answers · asked by Yemi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Kiss him and light the flame!
2006-11-07 04:41:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You how women give off signals to men to let them know how they feel? Through their body language and the way their voice sounds when they talk to the man. Well, men do the same thing. Chances are, he is feeling the vibes from you that you are liking him more then a friend. And perhaps he may feel the same about you, but he feels that he is no good for you. Men do feel that way. Contrary to what us women would like to think of them at times. This very well could be HIS way of pushing you away because he feels that he will only HURT you in the end and doesn't want that. Nor does he want to end up hurt himself. Men have their own way of protecting themselves when they are insecure of a situation. He may be insecure in the whole 'relationship' thing right now and pushing you away by saying these mean things to you. They do get scared.
I would say......... find a way to let him know that you only want to be his FRIEND, like you have been. Nothing more. You will see him change back into that sweet ansd caring person you know. But if you do want more. Just know, he is telling you that he doesn't. So you will have to decide for yourself if you want and can handle just being his friend, or if it is best that you leave him alone and move on to someone else. If you have a 'good friend' in a man, its good to keep that........... sometimes having someone you care for as a friend is better then not having them in your life at all. Blessed be.................. I hope I helped some.
2006-11-07 05:05:29 · answer #2 · answered by shy&gental 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men are *****! Ok, now that that is said, SOmething more is going on to this story for him to totally change face unless he's a schizo theres a reason that hes acting like that and if hes constantly putting you down and acting like a child in most cases they're jealous of something or someone , maybe you s how a different side of yourself he's never seen or your treating him like a friend and he wanted more-countless possibilities but just ask him what the issue is and face it head on sounds like a friend you dont wanta lose so just set the time out to resolve the conflict
2006-11-07 04:42:07 · answer #3 · answered by desireddisease15 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds to me like he's trying to control you. His first tactic was to be nice and caring and make you need him. His current tactic is to make you feel bad about yourself so that you don't feel lik you are worth anything better. His next trick, I predict, will be to try to sepearte you from your family and friends (get mad if you spend time with them, make you feel guilty). Finally his last trick will be to be agressive with you, pushing you, stuff like that to see what he can get away with. Whenever you threaten to leave he'll either act 'all sweet' (moving back to step 1) to get you or he'll threaten to hurt himself (step 2 - make you feel guilty) or 3) threaten to hurt you (the last step).
He's doing all these things because he's insecure. He's afraid that you're going to leave him. Everything he is doing is designed to keep you under his control. If I were you, I'd get out of this 'friendship' before he starts hitting you.
There are so many strong, confident guys out there that will care about you first. Think of this : every day you spend with this guy you are wasting a day that could be spent finding the one who is right for you.
By the way I realise that you never said that you 'liked' him but it's only natural for 'friendships' between opposite-sex people to become more serious. I know that there are exceptions but I'll bet in the majority of them, at least one of the people 'want more' even if they won't admit it.
2006-11-07 04:48:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you fancie this guy or just see him as a mate? Maybe he picked up signs from you and thinks you fancie him. Some guys i find can be nasty on a defence if they like a girl. But i think its never a good idea to be around people who put u down, if hes like that u can do better, in mates and relationships.
2006-11-07 04:40:08 · answer #5 · answered by dangermouze 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like the bully at the playground that picks on a girl because he really does like her. He's frustrated because he does like you and it;s just a friendship when he would probably like to take it to the next level but this could mean losing you as a friend if he tries to take that step.
2006-11-07 04:43:46 · answer #6 · answered by tonaloha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No he doesn't hate you. He's scared that he's falling in love with you. He's treating you mean because he feels something for you that he never felt and being mean is his way of helping him cope with falling in love with you. Just ask him why is he being so rude to you.
2006-11-07 04:38:51 · answer #7 · answered by iluvashtonkutcher676 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Technically, most guys think women are hard to get. But in this situation, I don't know... Maybe one of his friends told him something bad about you, maybe he was interested but not anymore, something along those lines.
2006-11-07 04:37:04 · answer #8 · answered by wizard of stealth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol and women LOVE pretending there the all knowing power of the universe and think there so complexed and hard to understand when they obviously dont understand men either
2006-11-07 04:39:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's calling you stupid...thats a problem..dump his butt! Sounds like you may now be seeing the real him!
2006-11-07 04:39:24 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not all men are difficult. You would be amazed by how a persons attitude changes when you are more easy going towards them.
2006-11-07 04:37:48 · answer #11 · answered by Vita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋