its like everyone i know has a boyfriend except me.....my mom wont let me date.....im15 ill be 16 in january..... it seem like only ugly guys like me or guys that are too old.....my mom is so over protective she wont even let me have guy friends its horrible so i have to act like yea i dont like him hes stupid when i wouldnt mind having a guy friend.........and my mom had a boyfriend when she my age....actually boyfriends....what should i do i cant talk to her or she will start screaming!!!
2006-11-07 04:20:25 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-11-07 04:30:35 · update #1
I know you won't like this answer. Wait 2 more years, study hard for the college, get a job, get an apartment, apply for student loans, and then do anything you want.
You don't have to wait for a guy to like you. If you see someone you might like, approach him first and make friends. Smile alot, this will help you to make friends fast. I am sure eventually your mom will accept your friendship with a boy.
2006-11-07 04:31:20 · answer #1 · answered by OC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom may have had a bad experience with a boyfriend atyour age. Maybe that is why she is uber protective. Having a boyfriend isn't the entire world. I'm a bit older but I've never had a girlfriend. The world continues to turn and I live on. Set your standards a little lower maybe and other guys would be acceptable. Talk to guys online and at school. It's not like a boyfriend or anything. It's just a guyfriend. Ask your mom about her boyfriend at this age. Maybe there's a reason. Good luck.
2006-11-07 12:27:43 · answer #2 · answered by joe19 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I haven't talked to my mom about dating and I'm 15 soon to be 16. fact is I know I'm not ready to date because right now I'm focused on academics and probably you should be too. Have you noticed that people who are in relationships in high schools focus more on the relationship than they do their school work, they're more depressed at times, and get low grades. I like a boy very much, but I am waiting til after high school to begin dating him. If I jump into a relationship where does that leave school. And no not everyone has a boyfriend. It seems like that to me. But if you really wanna jump off the brooklyn bridge because it's cool and everyone's doing it, go ahead, speak to your mom and let her make you date. There could be a reason she's saying no. Mother's don't say because they're ignorant. Dating isn't everything. But you can have a guyfriend if he's only a friend. Don't overwhelm yourself yet. Live your life.
2006-11-07 12:30:03 · answer #3 · answered by Ahhh....Me Time 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe ask her to go eat lunch with you and when you do that she can't scream in public...it'll be embarrasing and ignorant but let her know how you feel and that she can trust you with guys becuase ur not gonna go out and sleep around. Plus moms are always like that. She just doesn't want u getting hurt. My mom is the same way and in time she'll let you have a boyfriend. Just hang out with the boy that u like at school...then maybe some day ur mom will let u date and u can introduce him to her.
2006-11-07 12:26:14 · answer #4 · answered by iluvashtonkutcher676 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and remember your mom is only looking out for you maybe she had a bad experience when she was your age and she does not want it to happen to you. Sometimes your parents know best even though you don't agree and January is not that far off so maybe you can just wait it out. Will your mom let you go out on a group date maybe that is something that you need to look in to just remember your mom knows best.
2006-11-07 12:27:46 · answer #5 · answered by Daigsmommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your real problem is with your mom. Talk to her and remind her that she needs to start trusting you if you're ever going to prove that you are trustworthy. Assure her that having guy friends or even boyfriends won't tempt you to do anything "bad."
Try to find a way to compromise with her - you can hang out with guy friends if girls are also present; you can date at 16 if you come home by 10pm and don't do anything more than kissing; etc.
If you find it really difficult to talk to her, write a letter and edit it carefully so that it stays calm, polite, and shows that you respect her concerns.
Good luck!
2006-11-07 12:29:23 · answer #6 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ugly guys huh! Well if they weren't ugly would your mum let them go out with you. There seems to be a maturity issue with the way your thinking.
Consider the guy your calling ugly.
Why do you need a boyfriend just because everyone els has one?
Talk to you mum about how your feeling and maybe you could set boundaries with her. Like an appropriate place, time and venue.
It sounds like you need to convince you mother about your maturity as well.
2006-11-07 12:28:56 · answer #7 · answered by Triestobewise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever thought that maybe she made a few mistakes she doesn't want you to make?
Have you shown her that you can handle yourself responsibly around the opposite sex?
Are you one of those girls who turn giggly and stupid around boys?
Think about these things and look at it from your mother's point of view. A lot of girls are doing some things these days that they have no business doing. Listen to your mother or show her you can be trusted. And remember if you get pregnant or contract AIDS, there will be nothing she can do to stop your life from becoming the mess that those situations bring.
2006-11-07 12:29:44 · answer #8 · answered by Carrie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can talk to her, but it depends on HOW you talk to her. If you begin being mean and screaming and insulting and crying, yeah she's going to get mad and not want to talk to you. But if you talk to her in a mature way without screaming or insulting, calmly tell her what's bothering you and show her your view on things. Ask her to let you see her view and when she does this, don't interrupt or get upset, LISTEN. After that is done then you can question her, BE CAREFUL HOW YOU ASK!!! Think it through don't say something like "SEE how come you could date but not me!?" Instead say something like "Yes I understand that you won't let me date, but the thing is that I believe that I am mature enough to begin so. Please trust me and let me begin to date." That will really help you. Sometimes it is all about connection rather than they hate you. Think it through and if you talk to your mom like that chances are that she will see you as a mature person and consider letting you begin dating. GOOD LUCK!!
2006-11-07 12:29:37 · answer #9 · answered by Stefy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She probably doesnt want you getting "serious" (ya know) with anybody yet. TALK to your mom, tell her you just want friends, and that having male interaction (not just from family, either) will actually help improve your social skills and personal awareness. Believe it. Ask her why she won't let you be near or have male friends. Tell her you just want a friend, not a 'boy friend'. Talk, but don't get in a yelling match - that'll make things way worse.
2006-11-07 12:28:11 · answer #10 · answered by Lorne O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋