2006-11-07 04:16:17 · 12 answers · asked by ? 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
while your still dating-or should you wait till marriage -the quote is from Hebrews chapter 13
2006-11-07 04:17:02 · update #1
Until you have made a full commitment, and in today's culture, that means before family with a judge or pastor officialting, then yes, you are not honoring her. You are basically saying that yes, you love her, but not enough to wait to make her a respectable woman. Let her know how special she is, and that you think she is the most precious gift, and one you will wait to open until it's made public that she is yours for the keeping. :)
2006-11-07 04:18:58 · answer #1 · answered by Kendra 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Tough call, but here are a few things to think about.
You quote a biblical reference and I have to wonder if you have a spiritual/religious affinity that you hold dear. If so, you may want to consider what your teachings have dictated. You will also want to consider what her beliefs are. If she wants to and you don't (until after the wedding), I hope she respects your beliefs. Like-wise if it's the other way around.
The next thing to consider is of a more earthly nature. You would do well to realize that a marriage of compatibility includes the sexual part of the relationship. It may be that there is something about her in bed that you are so uncomfortable with, that you eventually lose interest. Would you stay with someone you have limited or no sexual interest in? Would she if there's something about you that dissatisfies her about you?
While I can respect the beliefs people have to wait until marriage to partake of the "forbidden fruit", I have to put my two cents in here to remind you that humans require many things to remain committed to their partner(s). Sexual attraction is one of those. If one of you doesn't get what you need from the other, it will be much more tempting to get it outside the relationship. Whether you would ever do that remains to be seen. You'll know when that time and opportunity comes... so will she.
2006-11-07 12:29:09 · answer #2 · answered by stevegoryan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First if you believe in organised religions and their dogmatic views on sex, then you'll never be able to properly enjoy a healthy sexual lifestyle unless you are extremelly lucky.
In today's world, it is strongly suggested you get to bed with your partner(s) as soon as you can; that way you know what you'll be dealing with.
If you wait until marriage and then realise you two are NOT compatible, then you are doomed to live a sexless marriage or a marriage where sex is a chore for one of the partners.
Again, best is to have a sampler before marriage, that way you know what you're getting yourself into.
And no offence, but organised religions would outlaw sex altogether if they could find an alternative way of spawning more sheep for their cause!
2006-11-07 12:38:55 · answer #3 · answered by ButtahChick (ButterChick) 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well I wouldnt definitely say it is an honor but more of a respect to yourself and her. Unfortunately, with the changes of time, the influence of culture and the media, a lot rides on the satisfaction between partners nowadays. Waiting can be a bad thing if you both find out that you are not sexually compatible. Show me a quote where the sexual aspect of a relationship is addressed.
2006-11-07 12:27:06 · answer #4 · answered by etile 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its not an honor you arent god. If you are going to have sex have sex if not then dont. Dont take it as though oh she gets to taste a little piece of me beforehand that sounds stupid. And hebrews 13 says Honor marriage,and guard the sacredness of sexual intimacy between wife and husband.God draws a firm line against casual and illict sex
2006-11-07 12:20:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not a dishonor "to your future wife" to have sex with her before marriage. And that's a sexist-slanted question, by the way. The wedding ceremony is not what makes people commit to each other, as the divorce rate (esp among Christians) illustrates. Love and mature caring and responsibility toward each other is what marriage is about. The rest is empty legality.
2006-11-07 14:31:33 · answer #6 · answered by PT's Swan Lake 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is a personal preference. Some couples prefer to wait until they are married before having sexual relations.
2006-11-07 12:18:54 · answer #7 · answered by kja63 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well the way i understand it,is your sopose to wait to marriage,from the bibles point!Hollywood
2006-11-07 12:28:45 · answer #8 · answered by hollywood 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
an honor no. but sex before marriage is a personal choice, and personally i have no problem with it.
2006-11-07 12:20:25 · answer #9 · answered by Hannah 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
WAIT TILL YOU'RE MARRIED!!
you'll never regret it and you'll never wish you did it sooner
if you believe in God and believe the bible is God's words. Then wait. because, that's what it says.
act on your beliefs. The bible calls 'having sex before you're married' fornication.
don't compromise your beliefs
2006-11-07 13:10:48 · answer #10 · answered by jojo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋