I need some advice?

Question

okay, so I have a friend that I am interested in, great guy, although is horrible at communicating. here is my question, yesterday I left him a voicemail, asking him to call me because I needed help with something. he didn't call back, which sucks, but for him not uncommon. so I kinda want to send him a text message kinda joking about him being bad at returning calls, a nice way to make a point, just to give him a little kick in the butt. what would be the best way of saying "you suck at returing calls, whats the deal".

Answer 1

If you are really good friends and are comfortable making "jokes" with each other--say it to him just like you said it here, and make sure it's clear that it's meant as a light hearted joke---I dunno, by adding a :p at the end of the message or something.

That way, you've said what you want to say, he'll be more likely to respond if he doesn't think he's being nagged, etc.

Communication is a two way street, and just as he has to get better at communicating, returning calls, you also have to adjust how you communicate with him. If he's not that great at it, you can't just expect him to start communicating with you on a level you're used to. Bring yourself down to his level and work your way up together to a higher level. You might have to do this by accepting that a 5 minute chat about any specific topic is his limit and don't push it or insist you talk longer. You might have to do it by talking about "unimportant" things that he likes. You want him to learn to talk more? Let him talk about what he likes--you might be in for listening for a half hour about sports or cars or whatever, but fair is fair. you're hoping that he'll change for you, so you better be prepared to change for him. (obviously I don't mean your entire personality, that's unreasonable--just talking about, say, if you don't like sitting and listening to a sports talk for a half an hour, just consider that maybe he doesn't like sitting down and communicating the way you like....you both have to give)

Answer 2

thats annoying. hahha. well guys have never been good at calling back its a guy thing. they dont really like talking on the phone. if they do talk its like for 4 mint and thats all. well to give him the hint of being nice about it I would say.

" Were where you slaker. hahaha. When a cute girl calls I think you would want to pick up your phone. I needed your help. but you didnt answer. Dont let it happen again! hahahaha.

Answer 3

Maybe he didnt call you for a reason maybe he is not interested in you the way you are in him . But you should still call and see whats up with him not returning your call . You should also try to tell him that your are intrested in him in see what he says

Answer 4

say hey why do u have a cell phone get a beeper if u dont plan on returning calls! iunno
lol

Answer 5

Be honest.