my grandpa has a dieing heart?

Question

about a year ago my grandmother anounced to our family about my grandpas heart problems. it just isnt working hard anymore. my grandpa is acting like nothing is hapaning. he wont talk to anybody abuout it, and acts like nothing is wrong i feel bad because i feel like i cant do anything for him or about the problem. i see how much it is hurting my dad and all my aunts and uncles. and it hurts me too. he isnt eligable for a heart transplant. i am having a hard time dealing with all of it. i try to spend as much time as possible with him, i guess i feel lost and scared, what can i do?

Answer 1

If your grandpa is willing to make some lifestyle changes, there are alternative therapies, including essential oils and essential oil-infused products that help to support healthy heart functioning/cleanse his system so that there is not as much stress on his heart.

If he is not, unfortunately people all make their own choices. It's a good thing that you're spending extra time with him. Just remember that you can choose to be happy despite the choices or circumstances of others. I, personally, have some difficulty separating myself from other's grief and pain as well. It's particularly difficult when it's someone so close to you. However, I've achieved great success is keeping myself joyful and content despite others' hardships - without completely severing my empathy from them - using an emotional release technique I learned about recently.

If you're willing to do some research into the subject, I recommend a book called "Feeling Buried Alive Never Die." I might help you to cope with the feelings you're experiencing about your grandfather. It might even help you to understand his illness better as well.

Finally, if the saddest outcome happens and your grandfather doesn't survive this bout of illness, please know that our creator has promised a wonderful hope for the future when we can see our dead loved ones again! Jesus said, 'All those in the memorial tombs will hear my voice and come out.' The best part of when that happens is that it won't be in the imperfect, hurtful world we live in now where people get sick and die. At that time, the earth will be restored to its original beauty and perfection and your grandfather will be young again and you can enjoy him forever!

If you'd like more words of comfort or a book called What Does the Bible Teach?, or a brochure called When Someone You Love Dies I will send you a copy for free if you contact me.

Answer 2

Sorry to hear about your grandpa. Feeling lost and scared is perfectly normal, considering what's going on.

The thing is - what *you* see as acting like "nothing is wrong" may just be him deciding to live his life and not focus on dying. Maybe he doesn't want everyone's last memories of him to be his complaints about his health??

Do what you've been doing, hun. Spend time with him. Enjoy his company. Build memories that will last your lifetime.

Take care.

Answer 3

Try to spend as much time with him as you can, and give him all the love and support you can. As for his behavior, he may be emotionally detached because he knows he will die soon and is already trying to withdraw from the family. No one can control how your grandfather acts, its up to him how to behave, and if he wants to act like nothing is wrong that is his decision. All anyone else can do is just be there for him when and if he needs it.

Answer 4

I know it is hard to accept that your grandfather is dieing. But it is the way of life. Yes do spend as much quality time with him. These will be the memories you will have of him. Talk to your mother to talk to everyone else about your grandfather and ask them if you want to remember your grandfather as an invalid or a active person. To me I would like to remember them as happy and active if that is what they want.

Answer 5

Older people react to deteriorating health much differently that young people. Most often, older people have accepted the fact that they will die someday and are OK with that. Its very hard for young people to understand because they still feel like they will live forever, and the idea that they will someday die is very scary. So, no one will talk about it. Your grandfather will likely not talk about it because he knows that it is hurtful to his family and he doesn't want to cause them anymore pain. So he has to be the brave one. The best thing you can do is to be with your grandparents as much as you can and try to encourage the rest of the family to act "normal" to your grandfather. He knows he will miss all of you too, and wouldn't it be nice if his last days on this earth were spent enjoying his family. If he doesn't want to talk about it, then don't try to make him. But make it clear that if he does want to talk, you will listen and be brave about it. Dying is a natural part of life, though very sad for those of us left behind. But it's something that we all have to experience in one form or another (either our loved ones, or ourselves) over and over in our lives. Embrace this part of your life. You are growing in many ways. Sure, its sad, but grieving is a natural part of life too. Hang in there. I don't know you, but I will pray for you and send you angels to strengthen you.

Answer 6

It rather relies upon on you. I lost a fabulous style of those that mean lots to me, and you will probable sense unhappy. although, how unhappy relies upon on you. it particularly is taken under consideration needed to no longer lose your sense of being over this, nonetheless you probable will mourn the shortcoming of him. additionally, you ought to declare see you later, and If he hurts now, loss of existence would be greater desirable for him. He should not be in discomfort, and he will consistently come back to you interior the top.

Answer 7

i just lost my grandfather this past sunday..... so...i would say just spend as much time with him as you can and try to make some good memories... because now memories are all i have left of my grandfather.....

his funeral is tonight and his burial is tomorrow morning......