Okay heres the story. I'm 17 and I've been going out with this 18 yr old guy for 6 months and we've been getting along good and we're bestfriends. We started out as bestfriends and wantted to take it farther so we did. Well yestedday he told me that he just wantted to be friends and that we were beter that way and that he found someone eles to be with. A 98 pound 19 yr. old. (She's older and weighs less than me by 10 pounds.) Well it really upset me and i'm trying to acept it. But i just can't. We were so good together and we bearly ever got in to jelous rages. We are still talking like nothing happend but should i tell him how i really feel about the situation?
2006-11-07 04:08:10 · 22 answers · asked by I love you! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanks for the advice!!
2006-11-07 04:13:53 · update #1
Definately tell him and get some closer for you. I doubt weight had anything to do with, you sound like you are pretty skinny. So don't go trying to get into the double digits, just stay as you are. Sometimes some friends should stay as friends, if anymore, could make one feel weird. Just talk to him, let what you need said, be said. Stay friends and walk away smiling. Know this, you are young and have your whole life ahead of you, the right man will come along. Don't feel insignificant, because he chose someone else. It just wasn't meant to be.
2006-11-07 04:15:37 · answer #1 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why was it so important to very overtly point out the weights of the girls involved? That just screams that you have a lot of work to do on your own character and feeling comfortable with yourself before you should be in a serious relationship with anybody--best friends first or not.
Work on yourself, find things to fill your time that are more important than fixating on your weight and other people's and you'll find that you're better prepared to be in a good, healthy relationship,
By the way, some best friend to have already hooked up with another person before breaking up with you. You don't find somebody else and then let your current g/f know about it. You both need to work on yourselves first.
2006-11-07 04:14:15 · answer #2 · answered by Natalie M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would def tell him how I feel, then after you do, move on! At 18 and 17, heck even 19, you will continue to grow and change. You will meet plenty of guys until you find the right one. Get back out there and live it up !
2006-11-07 04:13:00 · answer #3 · answered by GreeneyedCowgirl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, be glade you don't weigh 98lbs, lol... She's a chopstick for god's sake. That's not a good way to be, so don't worry about your weight first of all, I'm sure your beautiful. as far as the friend thing goes, if he's really your best friend as it sounds he is, you should respect the fact that he was honest with you, be honest with him, let him know how you feel, but don't get mad when it doesn't get him back, I'm sure that it will be good to get it off of your chest though.
2006-11-07 04:13:08 · answer #4 · answered by psychotic_milf 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I wouldn't give him the pride and joy of letting him know your feelings. It is obvious he wasn't satisfied with you and found something better at the drop of a hat. That dosen't mean that there is anything wrong with you just that it is his problem. I would go find someone else as he did and act as if there is nothing wrong with it because there isn't anything wrong with it. For him to drop you just like that show what kind of guy he is and you don't need that
2006-11-07 04:12:06 · answer #5 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be upset. he's a jerk to make you think he liked you as something more, then turn around and dump you for someone else.
(I doubt her skinniness really has much to do with it though, you sound very skinny yourself, and in my experience guys don't really care about weight unless it's extreme.)
Tell him how hurt and upset you are, and that you can't be friends with someone who would treat you with so little respect. Then go get yourself a more mature man. (I don't mean some sugar daddy in his 30s, I mean a guy who's honest and knows what he wants.)
2006-11-07 04:13:59 · answer #6 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie you should thank him for not stringing you on and hurting you by disrespecting you by moving on without telling you. Love hurt if you are 17yrs. or 71yrs. old. Her weight should not be a factor nor how she looks this is not about appearance this is about growing and he is only 18yrs. you both have a lot of more dating to do and honey trust me it is worth it. live life to the fullest move on, you are a catch just wait for the next fisherman just make sure he has the right bait!
2006-11-07 04:16:02 · answer #7 · answered by ashunda h 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Slow down and do worry about these small things... let me tell you a man perspective, you weight or her weight was not an issue..Men want woman that help them with the confidence and ego... don't worry about this and let it go... if you show no interest he will come around.
2006-11-07 04:12:01 · answer #8 · answered by on2try 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay tell him that he hurt you but just because he picked someone older and skinnier doesnt mean anything it doesnt mean she is any better than u either wow 98lbs at least you have more meat on your bones. and at 17 you dont always find who you are meant to be with if he just left you for her i would go and find someone new who wouldnt leave you for the world but i would tell your ex how he hurt you by doing so but i would let him go if that is the case because you deserve better for yourself.
2006-11-07 04:14:39 · answer #9 · answered by nuzzihuzzi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes tell him how you feel. It wasnt right for him to say lets just be friends because another girl came up. My god go get a new friend
2006-11-07 04:11:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋